He is a toilet bowl full of crap. metaphorically speaking.

[juliemanooli]

Okay so here is my problem. My ex-boyfriend and I separated about 3 months ago. He initiated it. And I'm not over him. Take into consideration that I am trying my very best to get on with my life instead of winning him back. But, as life goes on, I still seem to find him in my everyday problems. First we agreed to be friends. But that didnt work out. Why? Idk Ask him. So instead, I initiated no contact. Naturally I broke it a couple of times. But its been a month since I've said anything to him. (yay) Now, the problem is, i've been hearing him trashtalk me nonstop. "oh she's so annoying", "she's so obsessed with me" "her life revolves around me" Apparently he thinks i'm physcotically in love with him, even though i havent spoken to him in weeks. Although it shouldnt matter to me, I cant help but be so so MAD when i hear this. Here I am trying to move on, and there he is talking trash about me. Why? I know for a fact he's over me. But what is this need to continue the madness? If you're over it, you're over it. He's just a toilet bowl...

[lonelygurl]

That is really sad that he is talking trash about you. I have to say that he is clearly not over you. If he was he wouldn't be talking trash about you. He probably wouldn't be talking about you at all.

Do you think he is trying to ruin your chances with potential boyfriends in the future?

I don't know what you can do about him talking trash.

 

I'm sorry he is doing this.

[juliemanooli]

lonelygurl, I'm not even sure what he's trying to do. If he still liked me, he would have told me. I know he's over me. What I dont understand is why he doesnt wanna be cool with me. Maybe he's just a drama queen.

[You'reasian]

Okay so here is my problem. My ex-boyfriend and I separated about 3 months ago. He initiated it. And I'm not over him. Take into consideration that I am trying my very best to get on with my life instead of winning him back. But, as life goes on, I still seem to find him in my everyday problems. First we agreed to be friends. But that didnt work out. Why? Idk Ask him. So instead, I initiated no contact. Naturally I broke it a couple of times. But its been a month since I've said anything to him. (yay) Now, the problem is, i've been hearing him trashtalk me nonstop. "oh she's so annoying", "she's so obsessed with me" "her life revolves around me" Apparently he thinks i'm physcotically in love with him, even though i havent spoken to him in weeks. Although it shouldnt matter to me, I cant help but be so so MAD when i hear this. Here I am trying to move on, and there he is talking trash about me. Why? I know for a fact he's over me. But what is this need to continue the madness? If you're over it, you're over it. He's just a toilet bowl...

 

Congratulations on maintaining NC for a month, sounds hard.

 

As far as the trash talking is concerned, be the better person. Let it slide. If anything, let it motivate you to be that much better of a girlfriend for the next guy you think deserves all of you.

 

Sorry to hear this.

[carhill]

OP, how are you hearing this "trash talk"? Eliminate the source That means "I'm not interested in hearing about him". "I hope, as a friend, you'll respect that he and I are no longer in a relationship and he's not part of my life and I'm not interested in hearing anything more". Or, simply change the subject. If the person persists, cut contact with them too. Real friends/family support you and respect your choices.

 

If this is trashtalk "reading", stop reading

 

Stick with the NC....it does work