vazelin Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 So here goes: I met this girl on one of the online dating sites and we emailed alot before actually meeting. We first met over a quick lunch and talked alot. There were no awkward silent moments of anything like that so I guess it went well. She seemed like a shy girl so I did not try to give her a hug when we were saying goodbyes but she ended up giving me a hug (and I felt stupid for not hugging her first). The next day she texted me and invited me to dinner with her family for Christmas. I thought it was a little too early to meet her family so I politely said no but mentioned that I would like to hang out again with her. Then on the second date we went for a workout and at the end of the date we hugged and she said "we should hang out again". My question is, when we do hang out again the next time around can I tell her that I'm interested in exploring if anything might develop between our friendship? I don't think it would sound as if I'm coming on too strong since all I want to convey is that I really like what I see and hear from her therefore I would love to hang out more and get to know her better. What do you guys thing? Thanks in advance folks!
LostNLonely Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Absolutely! Always be honest and forthright with your thoughts, feelings and desires. Women appreciate and enjoy your sharing, always, even when your both not on the same page. Communication is how one develops a relationship and creates a bond with another. Life is too short for regrets. Follow your instincts and let this woman know how you feel when you feel it's the right time to tell her. I can tell you now you've already received the go-ahead green light. Express yourself freely, especially if your thinking LTR with this baby-doll.
BCCA Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Well, I think you've gone on two dates, and she seems to like seeing you. I dont know what you need to talk to her about. Her asking you to see her parents, to me at least, is a pretty good sign that she thinks youre a decent guy. Just go on a couple more dates, and see how it goes. Then, if it feels stagnant, maybe see where shes at. Right now, it seems like a premature thing to do, though.
Author vazelin Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 I knew I was going to get a YES and a NO, which is why I'm here asking for advice. For starters, I'm not a player of the dating rules, and I'm very honest and sincere with what I say and do. The reason I'm leaning to "YES (tell her)" is because that is who I am and I do agree that life is too short to complicate stuffs. The reason I'm hesitant to tell her is because I feel like I'm getting mixed signals and I might be thinking too much. I have dated girls that say "we should hang out again some time" and ended up telling me later that they dont mean it because that is their way of saying no. Also, I get a feeling that she has a wall around her to everyone else. I guess what I can do is ask her out some time next week and depending on her answer I'll tell her how I feel. Do you agree?
likestolaugh Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 I think you should. Sometimes if you wait too long, things start to unravel. Then again, she invited you to CHRISTMAS dinner with her family after only having met you ONCE. I think she likes you.
Rikku Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 I really do think she is interested in you, big time. Exactly how they said, you guys only went on ONE date and she's asking you to Christmas dinner with her family!? That is a BIG thing to me, and I would have said no too, even if you two do like each other, it is a pretty big step. Do tell her how you feel though, she's saying ''we should hang out sometime'' because, to me, it sounds as if she wants to get to know you even more. If you don't tell her how you feel, she's going to start considering you as a really good friend, instead of more, like how you want, and you don't want that. Tell her in short sweet simple ways, little things always count. Be flirty! And that is a good way too think ''Life is too short'', so you're on the right track! Good luck!
Author vazelin Posted January 4, 2009 Author Posted January 4, 2009 I think all I needed was a little nudge from you folks. I'm going to see her tomorrow and I'll ask her if she would let me take her out for dinner. At the end of the dinner, if everything goes really well I'll tell her how I feel. Maybe even get down on one knee and ask her to marry me (Just kidding on that last part)
Author vazelin Posted January 4, 2009 Author Posted January 4, 2009 So I asked her if I could take her out to dinner some time next week and she immediately said yes. So I guess that would be good sign. I'll talk to her again in the middle of the week and see what she wants to do for dinner. In any case, I dont see anything going wrong with dinner and I will plan to tell her how I feel after dinner before we say out goodbyes. Anybody out there against that idea?
likestolaugh Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 nope. I think the writing's on the wall with this one. She likes you. Nuff' said.
Author vazelin Posted January 14, 2009 Author Posted January 14, 2009 We had a great dinner over the weekend. I took her to a nice quiet place where we got to talk alot and just enjoy each other company. First few minutes was tense and I think she was a little shy but later I felt that she got comfortable. We had great conversations and found out that we have alot in common. When I dropped her off, I decided not to tell her for some reason. I walked her to the door and gave her a good hug. And I kissed her on the cheek and she returned it. The next time when we hang out, I would really like to hold her hands. Do I ask her permission first or do I just hold it. Her online profile mentions that she likes PDAs, but that does not mean that I should not ask her. What do you guys think?
redant Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 What is a PDA? Phone? Things seem to be going good. I don't think you have to ask, but you should definitely do it at the right time and see how she responds. Sounds like she likes you!
Author vazelin Posted January 14, 2009 Author Posted January 14, 2009 PDA=public display of affection One other thing that is at the back of my mind is her phonecalls. So far I'm the only one calling her and she does not initiate any. She does sometimes initiate text messages but thats about it. Whenever we are talking on the phone she would be the first to say she has to go. Now she has told me before that she has a short attention span and that she is also short on time on weekdays with all the workouts (we are training for a triathlon). Personally I hate talking on phones and would rather keep it short too. But I thought ALL girls like to talk on the phone. Am I just overthinking? I get so worked up over this girl because I think she is a great girl and I don't want to spoil anything.
zenith Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 PDA=public display of affection One other thing that is at the back of my mind is her phonecalls. So far I'm the only one calling her and she does not initiate any. She does sometimes initiate text messages but thats about it. Whenever we are talking on the phone she would be the first to say she has to go. Now she has told me before that she has a short attention span and that she is also short on time on weekdays with all the workouts (we are training for a triathlon). Personally I hate talking on phones and would rather keep it short too. But I thought ALL girls like to talk on the phone. Am I just overthinking? I get so worked up over this girl because I think she is a great girl and I don't want to spoil anything. why don't YOU try hanging up first? keep it short use phone calls to set up dates! not for anything else
Author vazelin Posted January 14, 2009 Author Posted January 14, 2009 I'm just trying to be myself. I don't want to get into the "an eye for an eye game". I normally just call her to set up dates and ask her about her day. Its just that she is the first girl I know that doesn't like talking on the phone. Not that it is not possible but I was just wondering if she is not interested in me or is she just playing me.
zenith Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 dude, it's not about eye for an eye... and it is definately not a game why talk on the phone, when you can talk face to face? plus, you can't generalise women PS. stop worrying whether she likes you or not
fromfaraway Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 So here goes: I met this girl on one of the online dating sites and we emailed alot before actually meeting. We first met over a quick lunch and talked alot. There were no awkward silent moments of anything like that so I guess it went well. She seemed like a shy girl so I did not try to give her a hug when we were saying goodbyes but she ended up giving me a hug (and I felt stupid for not hugging her first). The next day she texted me and invited me to dinner with her family for Christmas. I thought it was a little too early to meet her family so I politely said no but mentioned that I would like to hang out again with her. Then on the second date we went for a workout and at the end of the date we hugged and she said "we should hang out again". My question is, when we do hang out again the next time around can I tell her that I'm interested in exploring if anything might develop between our friendship? I don't think it would sound as if I'm coming on too strong since all I want to convey is that I really like what I see and hear from her therefore I would love to hang out more and get to know her better. What do you guys thing? Thanks in advance folks! I think it is pretty obvious she is into you. I would go for it and tell her that if I were you; waiting too long puts a person in the dreaded "friend zone."
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