Author emotionalydistraugt Posted January 6, 2009 Author Posted January 6, 2009 FOrgive me for being rude but have you ever been cheated on by someone who you had every intention of marrying? It's easy to tell someone else to move on but it's a lot harder to do.
You'reasian Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 FOrgive me for being rude but have you ever been cheated on by someone who you had every intention of marrying? It's easy to tell someone else to move on but it's a lot harder to do. Maybe I have The point is to pull your ass out of the mud, and move forward. Moving through mud absolutely sucks. Its goddamn painful, but you will move. You may grunt and struggle, but if you stop to b!tch you loose progress. Get it?
Author emotionalydistraugt Posted January 6, 2009 Author Posted January 6, 2009 Maybe I have The point is to pull your ass out of the mud, and move forward. Moving through mud absolutely sucks. Its goddamn painful, but you will move. You may grunt and struggle, but if you stop to b!tch you loose progress. Get it? RIght but I believe one of the points of this website is to bitch. Im not bitching im attempting to figure stuff out for the future so that when/if (I know how much you love it when I use that word) this happens I'm somewhat prepared for it and I dont know what to do with myself.
Trialbyfire Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 If you're worried that you can't control yourself, make sure you have a close friend watch your back. He can stop you if you're tempted to take a swing or de-escalate a verbal argument. You can't hide out in your house all the time. Get busy livin' or get busy dyin'!
hereandnow Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 Dude, I know where you're coming from and have had the exact same fears. I have actually seen my ex with other guys, and I can offer you my experience, which may be of some consolation. I'm 27, my ex gf is 33. 3 weeks after the breakup, I went to see a movie with some friends. I met a friend of a friend, and he was talking about hanging out with my ex over the weekend. Well, I literally freaked out. I threw away my ticket and left the theater. My friends didn't actually see me do this, though they did wonder where I was. Anyway, I felt miserable. I came on here and vented. Later on, I see the two of them come together to a meeting I was at, and so I thought at that point they were together for certain. So a week or so later my friend calls me again to see a movie. Said guy is coming, with his girlfriend. I asked who she was, and it's some other girl. Apparently my ex and him were only hanging out as friends! I jumped to all kinds of ridiculous conclusions when I really had no idea what was going on. I saw my ex tonight at a meeting, she had driven another guy there. I know this guy, and she has assured me on more than one occasion post-breakup that they're just friends, and I actually believe her on this, as it would be very strange if they got together, for reasons I won't mention. Anyway, even if you do see her with someone, you don't really know what's going on, even if they look to you like they're dating, looks can be deceiving. Keep all of this in mind. Don't board yourself up in your house, if you see her, you see her. The pain I've put myself through just by thinking about possible scenarios is often just as bad as the real thing.
Author emotionalydistraugt Posted January 6, 2009 Author Posted January 6, 2009 Dude, I know where you're coming from and have had the exact same fears. I have actually seen my ex with other guys, and I can offer you my experience, which may be of some consolation. I'm 27, my ex gf is 33. 3 weeks after the breakup, I went to see a movie with some friends. I met a friend of a friend, and he was talking about hanging out with my ex over the weekend. Well, I literally freaked out. I threw away my ticket and left the theater. My friends didn't actually see me do this, though they did wonder where I was. Anyway, I felt miserable. I came on here and vented. Later on, I see the two of them come together to a meeting I was at, and so I thought at that point they were together for certain. So a week or so later my friend calls me again to see a movie. Said guy is coming, with his girlfriend. I asked who she was, and it's some other girl. Apparently my ex and him were only hanging out as friends! I jumped to all kinds of ridiculous conclusions when I really had no idea what was going on. I saw my ex tonight at a meeting, she had driven another guy there. I know this guy, and she has assured me on more than one occasion post-breakup that they're just friends, and I actually believe her on this, as it would be very strange if they got together, for reasons I won't mention. Anyway, even if you do see her with someone, you don't really know what's going on, even if they look to you like they're dating, looks can be deceiving. Keep all of this in mind. Don't board yourself up in your house, if you see her, you see her. The pain I've put myself through just by thinking about possible scenarios is often just as bad as the real thing. But it's the what if I see her with the guy she cheated on me with that worrys me. I know who that guy is I've seen him so if I see her with him i dont know what I'll do
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