MadBambi Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Whew! Happy New Year!! I feel awesome - i'm out of my rut and been going out being happy and dancing yada, yada, yada.... For the last few months when i go to my club I danced with a guy there - a friend of a friend - anyway he's a really awesome dancer he teaches classes n' everything. He does Ballrooom, Bop, Latin, Hustles everything! He even used to be a stripper.... Anyway, I always knew his age and i always thought he was attractive but i never thought i'd be dating someone 4 years older than my mama!!! Hahaha...wow! We've been going out dancing for the last couple weeks and i'm having a great time. I almost feel bad though - it's weird. We went out new years eve - and we kissed for the first time - it was so confusing cuz i liked it but i was also grossed out by it all at the same time! He's 52! I never thought i'd be kissing a 52....i don't know... I guess it's not a big deal cuz i'm not trying to seriously date anyone now but it's so weird and new. But I have such a good time with him and i don't wanna stop hanging out maybe i have to quit thinking of his age so much. What was your experience in dating someone older/younger? How'd you feel about it?
LavendarGirl Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Hi Bambi, You were sort of grossed out when you were kissing him, but you still wanted to keep kissing? Hmm. What's your age (or difference in age between yourself and this older guy). As for myself, the biggest age difference for me was a guy 18 years older. --LG.
zilverenvlinder Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 I was 19, he was 32. O_O He was some nasty kind of hot though. :-D
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 I dated a guy 12 years older than me. I rarely felt the age difference with him when we were alone, but I was painfully aware of it when we were with his friends. Especially since a lot of his friends were even older than him. I always felt like the little trophy and I didn't like it.
dreamergrl Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 I dated someone 10 years older then me.. I never used to think I'd ever be attracted to that age difference... I think it more so depends on the person, not the age. Now I'm 27, and am with a 36 year old man whom I love very much!
Author MadBambi Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 Hi Bambi, You were sort of grossed out when you were kissing him, but you still wanted to keep kissing? Hmm. What's your age (or difference in age between yourself and this older guy). As for myself, the biggest age difference for me was a guy 18 years older. --LG. Yeah, i was grossed out! Maybe that's not the best way to put it but i definitely felt awkward and hmm...i guess i was in disbelief...? I'm 26 and he's 52 so - what's that? Oh, duh.....half my age, right? That' such a big difference! I mean i've dated older men before. When i was 22 i dated a 32 y.o for a couple years. After that i dated a 37 y.o. and i was 25.
dreamergrl Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 If I may ask... what did you like about it? Does it seem gross because of the age? Are you attracted to him age set aside? Me personally, I'd never go for someone that much older. But that's just me. For some people, it works.
Author MadBambi Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 If I may ask... what did you like about it? Does it seem gross because of the age? Are you attracted to him age set aside? Me personally, I'd never go for someone that much older. But that's just me. For some people, it works. I liked the kiss itself. It felt good. It wasn't awful, too slobbery or anything. It was really nice, almost perfect. Hahahaha...which i guess is the part that grossed me out cuz in the back of my mind yeah, i was thinking of his age. Now I've always thought he was attractive and i always would look forward to dancing with him, you know? I just never pictured us dating. I guess it just kind of happened.
Nagini Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 I liked the kiss itself. It felt good. It wasn't awful, too slobbery or anything. It was really nice, almost perfect. Hahahaha...which i guess is the part that grossed me out cuz in the back of my mind yeah, i was thinking of his age. Now I've always thought he was attractive and i always would look forward to dancing with him, you know? I just never pictured us dating. I guess it just kind of happened. See ? This illustrates why I have SUCH issues with people focusing on age. Preconceived notions. If a person is over 21,forget about age.
birdie Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 the oldest guy I ever dated was 40 (I'm 36) - this happened last year. I usually like them younger, in March I was with a 23-year-old. my current interest is 27. when I was 18 my first ever proper boyfriend was 36 and we were together for 2 years. so had some much younger and much older... don't know what that means, probably that age is irrelevant
Author MadBambi Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 See ? This illustrates why I have SUCH issues with people focusing on age. Preconceived notions. If a person is over 21,forget about age. Aww...you're right! I'm being silly aren't I? Well, I still have to get used to it...and figure out if it's something I'm just too hung up on or if i can shake the age gap out of my mind I wanna hear more about your issues with people focusing on age though.
tinktronik Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 The biggest age difference I ever had was with a guy 23 years older than me. Just a couple of dates though and no funny stuff. I tend to clique better with men about 15 years older than myself on average.
Trialbyfire Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Age is but a number unless it bothers you. The question is, what does a 52 year old and a 26 year old, have in common? If they're at the same stage in life with common interests and real attraction, it doesn't matter. Since you're not looking for anything serious, you might want to find out if he is. This ensures that both of you, are on the same page. The oldest man I've dated, was almost 10 years older. For some reason, I have his age locked in my mind at 45, where he's actually only 43 or so. We had a lot in common, both divorced from cheating spouses, no kids but wanting a family, sometime in the future, same industry, the list goes on and on. He was a great guy but he freaked me out when he wanted me to meet his parents on the third date, without any prior discussion, just kind of dropped it on me that day. After that, even though we dated in two tranches, at different times, it never recovered. As it stands, we're back in contact but only as friends. I really like him as a friend.
dreamergrl Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Age is but a number unless it bothers you. The question is, what does a 52 year old and a 26 year old, have in common? If they're at the same stage in life with common interests and real attraction, it doesn't matter. Since you're not looking for anything serious, you might want to find out if he is. This ensures that both of you, are on the same page. I agree with this 100%. I would like to add though, there's not many cases where a 26 and 52 year old is going to have much in common. But, if the situation works for you right now, go for it.
Star Gazer Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 I was 25. He was a 39 year old partner at my first firm who showered me with flowers and romantic, lavish trips. He'd never been married, surfed everyday, and lived like a bachelor in Beverly Hills. Turned out he was a big Nancy Boy.
Trialbyfire Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 I was 25. He was a 39 year old partner at my first firm who showered me with flowers and romantic, lavish trips. He'd never been married, surfed everyday, and lived like a bachelor in Beverly Hills. Turned out he was a big Nancy Boy. Gotta' love those Nancy Boys!
melodymatters Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 See ? This illustrates why I have SUCH issues with people focusing on age. Preconceived notions. If a person is over 21,forget about age. Thanks Nagi ! I've seen your posts on ageism in a few different threads and I couldn't agree more ! ( also with TBF about values, and stages of life being what matters) So, when I was 16 I had doubled up in highschool and was heading to college and working in a record store ( remember them ? lol ) . My first serious BF and lover was a 30 yr old musician I met through work. It sounds creepy now, but he was immature and I have basically always been the same biotch I am now. ( BTW, never use that slang term in real convo's) Then I mostly dated 12 to 15 yrs older, just because we clicked better than the frat boys my age. Then a man 20 yr older who was a friend of my dads, then an actor who worked for me who was 10 yrs younger. Oddly enough, the couple of relationships I had with men within a couple years age diff were my worst disasters !?! October 8th I married my husband who is 24 and is the most kind, mature, wonderful man I've ever met. I'm 42. I guess my history speaks for itself when it comes to MY feelings about age gaps, huh BUT, Everyone is different, do what works for YOU !
BubblyPopcorn Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Whew! Happy New Year!! I feel awesome - i'm out of my rut and been going out being happy and dancing yada, yada, yada.... For the last few months when i go to my club I danced with a guy there - a friend of a friend - anyway he's a really awesome dancer he teaches classes n' everything. He does Ballrooom, Bop, Latin, Hustles everything! He even used to be a stripper.... Anyway, I always knew his age and i always thought he was attractive but i never thought i'd be dating someone 4 years older than my mama!!! Hahaha...wow! We've been going out dancing for the last couple weeks and i'm having a great time. I almost feel bad though - it's weird. We went out new years eve - and we kissed for the first time - it was so confusing cuz i liked it but i was also grossed out by it all at the same time! He's 52! I never thought i'd be kissing a 52....i don't know... I guess it's not a big deal cuz i'm not trying to seriously date anyone now but it's so weird and new. But I have such a good time with him and i don't wanna stop hanging out maybe i have to quit thinking of his age so much. What was your experience in dating someone older/younger? How'd you feel about it? The oldest was 5 years older then me (I was 25 at the time, he was 30) and we were together for 6 years. I guess that's not a huge difference as opposed to having a decade or so between age but if your both compatible, what's the diff?
Posco_Proudfoot Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 I've dated someone that was 5 years older than me in high school. I loved it. She had a car and was buncha fun. I also dated someone that was 6 years older but acted like they were 50. Not so fun. I don't think age makes any difference at all. It depends on the person.
itgirlragdoll Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Currently I am 21 and my boyfriend is 32. That's the biggest age gap I've had with an actual boyfriend (been together somewhere around 7-8 months). I hooked up with a 34 year old when I was 20, but we didn't date for an extended period of time.
Rikku Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 The biggest age is 12 years, I'm 19 he's 31. I TOTALLY know how you feel too, the first time we kissed I just felt awkward and not really 'grossed' out but more just...weird. We did tell each other's age before this all happened and we talked about it for a good whole week and made sure both of us were comfortable with it. I never told my family, but they know now and all the did was just tell me how old he was and I said I know, then the dropped it. They know they can't change my mind about it, I like him and there's nothing more to it! It is a little weird how, how someone else said, all his friends are a little older and I feel as if I should be at home babysitting their kids or something, but I am maturer than my age so I really never even think about it at all. I say for you, try it out, date him for a bit, and if you like him more, go for it!
melodymatters Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 Never over 33. Not sure why... That's not really illustritive unless we know how old YOU are !
vanilla87 Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 Oldest would be about 6 years. I was 20 and he was 26 when I met him. He was sexy as hell and drove me wild in ways guys my own age couldn't. He was the best learning experience for love and I learned a whole lot. The only probably was he acted like he was 17-18 years old about 50% of the time, even though he was successful, didn't make it any better.
zenith Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 I dated a chick 3 months older than me, woohoo seriously, am I that immature? it seems quite common for women to go out with much older guys?
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