Loss 4 words Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 I guess that the reason im even posting this is because as of late, it's really hit me with the reality of my relationship and with it all im actually scared. Im still young (only kissed a handful of women and only slept with 3) and now more and more my current GF (whom i truely love ) keeps hinting at getting a place for she, i, and her two toddler children and getting married (like soon...) she's hinting that she wants a ring for our 6 mo aniversary in a couple of months and all and i feel like she's moving WAY too fast.....I still want to experiance life...ya know, a few more notches on the bed post, do stupid stuff and laugh about it and not care, and in all the while the last person i "dated" is POSSIBLY gonna be single again in the near future.... I'm totally confused if it's worth throwing away the best thing that ever happened to me to go back to someone I know much about mainly for the fact that we have alot in common...is that a "good" reason at this point in my current relationship to leave... My GF and i moved our relationship quite fast by most definitions but neither of us complained....but it's like the longer we are together, the more we resent eachother...whether it be the fact that she still plays head games with her ex, talks to most of them, or that I have other female friends that im close to and that she's afraid of losing me to them....it's like a never ending battle and it's aggrivating the life outta me... I'm not saying that she can't talk to them, it's the fact that they STILL try to get with her even though they know she's with me....and if i bring it up to her, it'll be like WW III....then she flips back at me and goes off on me about talking to my ex...yeah i do, but not at 1 am....and it's over IM, not the phone... Is all that worth throwing out for a POSSIBLE rebound with the last ?? Opinions and advice please ??
GoneButNotForgotten Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 My recommendation would not be to rebound with an old ex. There is a reason she is an ex. If your struggling in your current relationship that is no reason to jump to an old one. You can survive on your own. It is not that hard to be single in this world. A few holidays suck, but all in all its life as you want it to be and what you make of it. 6 months and already wanting a ring would scare me a bit too. In 6 months you haven't even gotten to experience all 4 seasons and every holiday with that person. I can understand being freaked out by it. Although the notches on the bed post may sound like a good idea. But remember the grass is always greener on the other side. And from the way things sound about both of you talking to your ex's I wouldn't jump into any strong commitment until thats gone. FROM BOTH SIDES. You cannot be mad at her for contacting an ex while you still do the same. IM is not a lesser degree than phone. It does not matter. There is no reason to be communicating with an ex unless its been over for long enough that there are zero feelings or one of the people turned gay.
Phateless Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 You're moving way too fast. Your relationship sounds torrid and unstable, as does your gf. I would not date a girl like that. She sounds like a pain in the ass. Don't go backward, go forward. If you want time to experience other women, be single and do it. You'll find one when you're ready.
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