Nagini Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 A guy i dated 2007 started asking me out again in 2008. he blamed 3 hour distance for why he stopped asking me out. This Summer/Fall he spent 3 whole months telling me over and over again that when i move to his cit for my job and friends that we must start dating again (this winter) he even told me to get an a apt not too far away from him town. he said he showed him mom my photos and she liked the sound of me he made comments on all my photos on my blog about how im stunning, lovely and a 'vision' my friends have seen and heard about him and think that he has really led me on... now my 5 weeks ago i noticed some new woman posting flirty remarks about him and his photos.... i inally asked and he told me "i don't think we're dating, just going on dates . slo mo no pressure" sounded lame.... He was out all NYE and I heard from him 3 pm next day online. Does his New year's wishes to me sound like a goodbye ? me: happy new years ! I hope you can be really happy soon ! and have a great 2009 ! HIM: January 1 happy new years to you too! And, gosh, that's a tough wish to follow. peace and happiness to you to in all the paths that you choose to go down in life and safety and comfort in the paths that choose you. doesnt that sound impersonal ? like something your insurance agent would write you ? WHAT THE HELL ? thats so impersonal and like i would say to someone i barely knew.
Storyrider Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 What you said sounded like a farewell first. "I hope you can be really happy soon," sounds like you're expecting to go in different directions.
Author Nagini Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 What you said sounded like a farewell first. "I hope you can be really happy soon," sounds like you're expecting to go in different directions. He knows Im moving there and even told me he would take me out to dinner the second i move. he joked th eonly xmas gift he could get me would be a place there. I meant be happy for th enew year.... Him saying paths in life sounds hokey and like you say to someone youll never be in contact with in the future.
Storyrider Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 I wouldn't read much into it. He was at a loss for a response and blurted something out. Doesn't mean he isn't into this other girl, he might be, but I don't think his message means anything deep. Again, your message doesn't sound very intimate either.
Author Nagini Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 I wouldn't read much into it. He was at a loss for a response and blurted something out. Doesn't mean he isn't into this other girl, he might be, but I don't think his message means anything deep. Again, your message doesn't sound very intimate either. well if youre familiar with facebook whats weird is she hasnt posted anything new on his page since nye, but he has already posted a virtual toast to me (and me alone) on his wall. confusing.
torranceshipman Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Forget all this stupid waiting to see what is posted on Facebook and analysing what an online message means...instead, pick up the phone and have a sensible conversation with him about it. Or write an email laying out how you feel. You need to know where you stand and if he cant make that clear then move on. You'd expect by now that he'd be feeling excited that you'll be in his town so soon... I really hope this guy wasnt a big factor in your moving to a different town!!!
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 I don't think it is farewell. Whether you move there or not, he is going to keep you around in the limited way that he has for as long as you will let him get away with it. Unless he finds someone that he wants to be exclusive with. Then he will cut you loose, probably without so much as even a goodbye. A few years (hell, probably months) later he will contact you again and want you to be his OW.
lovingalways Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 F^&% Facebook. That's all I have to say. People read too much into this S%#%. I'm going to go and close my account now.
EYECANDY000 Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 I think your thinking to much into these messages as well as who's posting on who's blog.. Are you moving to his town only to be close to him, or because its close to your job?
Author Nagini Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 Forget all this stupid waiting to see what is posted on Facebook and analysing what an online message means...instead, pick up the phone and have a sensible conversation with him about it. Or write an email laying out how you feel. You need to know where you stand and if he cant make that clear then move on. You'd expect by now that he'd be feeling excited that you'll be in his town so soon... I really hope this guy wasnt a big factor in your moving to a different town!!! Nah I only know him BECAUSE I was supposed to move his town over 1 year and half ago (ive been distracted by ill family members instead of moving there) But I already think I DID write an email saying exactly how I felt just before Xmas: (* back story on note -I should add that after we stopped dating last year he got a new gf and didnt ever tell me about her until 8 months later when he broke it off with her - so last xmas 07 i thought he was single ) Dece 20, 2008 ME: btw I think Im upset/shocked that I'm missing you for a 2ND year in a row around Christmas. wth. (although last year i thought you were single and that would've changed my silly pining if i had known you had XXXXX as your gf the whole time) I like to think of myself as sensible....... It seems so stupid and absurd of me to be longing for you at all. I mean you have zero problems getting new gfs all the time. lol My friends have pretty much told me to not dwell on anything xxx. sigh............ oh well, hope you enjoy your weekend .... HIM December 19 at 8:40pm yeah, it's crazy. It sucks, maybe you will eventually see me or move here or let me visit. >>> in between this email and the nye one he sent me about 25 other short ones. just talking about his workouts, puppy, job, nothing substantial. he also seems to email me every day to ask how i am and i think i got suckered in that that means he cares. But then he talked about all the gifts he was buying people he knew for xmas. He even aske dme for input on helping with a gift for his Godson.... Since he had mentioned getting me a gift a couple times back in October I thought it was fine to get him one. I sent him a small gift. He thanked me and said oh he didnt get me one but would take me out for Christmas dinner when I move. That lame offer and also the NYE greeting maes me feel like his interest is nil.
Author Nagini Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 F^&% Facebook. That's all I have to say. People read too much into this S%#%. I'm going to go and close my account now. I use facebook for work and to keep in touch with my closest and oldest friends..... It rocks and its great BECAUSE cheating guys are OUTED by it.
Author Nagini Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 I don't think it is farewell. Whether you move there or not, he is going to keep you around in the limited way that he has for as long as you will let him get away with it. Unless he finds someone that he wants to be exclusive with. Then he will cut you loose, probably without so much as even a goodbye. A few years (hell, probably months) later he will contact you again and want you to be his OW. Ow ? Hah. No he knows how popular I am with other guys. Um no we didnt even have sex. Im old fashioned.
BCCA Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 It seems like his emails are somewhat generic, but Im wondering how much effort you think he should put into something when your so far away. It also seems like you've been 'moving there soon' for a while, and I can understand that things come up, but how long can someone wait before they start to get the feeling that maybe youre not coming? I wouldnt worry about any of this. Once youre around and you can see eachother easily, his intentions will be clear. I think your expectations on someone who you really arent dating and dont see regularly are a tad high, personally.
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