Eweezy Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Well this girl i'am seeing tells me i'am tooooo calm because i'am not moved about her problems could this be a problem? I honestly think most people worry about such small things what am I suppose to do about it. My friends also think i'am too calm and too relaxed. I would appreciate input from everyone.
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Well, being too calm indicates a lack of empathy. Which can definitely be hard for some people to understand. My X has a calm demeanor and while I don't expect him to fly off the handle freaking out, at least SOUNDING empathetic would have been nice. But the over-the-top calmness indicated disinterest.
Author Eweezy Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 I get where you are coming from I sound similar to your ex. I can listen to her discussing her problems and I will give her my take in on it. She says the way I talk and react is just too calm like it isn't nothing, but what do you expect me to do scream and cry about it.
fral945 Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 I honestly think most people worry about such small things what am I suppose to do about it. My friends also think i'am too calm and too relaxed. I would appreciate input from everyone. You sound a lot like me. I have that calm demeanor as well. I think you just have to accept the fact that women tend to focus on little details (generally speaking) more so than men and tend to worry more. That's just how they are wired. My best advice is try to express more empathy, by your words especially. If it really is petty, I'd be honest, but if there is some legitimate gripe, try to show some empathy. Women put a lot of emphasis on what you say. They are capable of remembering conversations that happened years ago. I, on the other hand, can't remember what I had for lunch today.
You'reasian Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Well this girl i'am seeing tells me i'am tooooo calm because i'am not moved about her problems could this be a problem? I honestly think most people worry about such small things what am I suppose to do about it. My friends also think i'am too calm and too relaxed. I would appreciate input from everyone. Being calm and relaxed can work to your advantage if you are able to maintain this under pressure. Alot of people crack under pressure, but if you're able to stay relatively focused with fire and chaos around, congratulations! Women, however, like a little bit of fire so to speak. So your cool headedness is probably undervalued. Solution? Beef up your humor value.
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