nick80 Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Hello everyone I'm new here and thought i'd share my story and ask your opinion. First, me and my wife have been married for almost 5 years. We have a 7 year old(from her previous relationship) and an 18 month old. We have really be through a lot in our marriage; I owned my own business that went south and we ended up loosing our house, she lost both her grandfathers, and many other things. In the past few weeks she has really been making some weird comments (in order) 1. maybe should go to a swingers club 2. maybe should have an open marriage 3. She wants to see me with another girl A few days before Xmas she tells me that next week(this week) i should take the kids and go to my parents house out of state for the whole week so she can have some "alone" time. Which i can understand that some people get overwhelmed during the holidays and i didn't mind. So Wednesday i have to go home for the night and she unloads that she isn't happy anymore and that sex doesn't interest her anymore. So i ask if it doesn't interest her anymore why all the talk about swinging and such...the response i get is "i thought those things might get me back in the mood again" Now I've never been abusive or cheated. I try to give her everything that i can..a lot of times even when i cant afford it. I take care of the kids when i'm home to give her a break. I do a lot of the same things that i did when we where dating( going on dates,etc) She tells me that she want to be by herself and that she feels like where just roommates and not H/W. She wants to go to MC(which is good i guess) What the hell is going on here???
skinman Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Well nick80, Sorry to hear what your going through friend.. Read my post "she asked for space and I gave it to her" well my wife was the same way said she didnt feel the love or wasnt in love anymore... well come to find out she was screwing some other dude and still is.. after 16 years together she did this to me and our family... Dont put anything past her buddy.. she will tell you anything so she can make timne with her friend.. it took me a while after defendnig my stbxw making excuses for her and everything.. but my eyes were opened... Ther are some good folks on here that have been through it all... be patient and you will get the answers you need.... best of luck buddy !! I know how hard it is to watch the woman you love change in front of your eyes... be prepared.. the worse is yet to come... god bless !!
cyabye Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Well, I do believe your wife is cheating and wants a week to herself and her lover. Confront her and see how she reacts. cyabye
Author nick80 Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 see i really haven't even considered that she would be cheating on me until this week...all day my mind has been racing thinking what is she doing, who is she with. I did look at her phone one day and i know she text's all the time, but all her messages(except for a few) are deleted. I dont know when she would even have time to cheat. she works all day and is with the kids in the evening until i get home... now i do leave on the weekends during hunting season, but thats really the only time she would have also why would she as to go to MC if she was cheating...just to throw me off, maybe?
BikerBeagle Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 She may not be physically cheating on you (although there is plenty of opportunity depending on where she works ...like lunchtimes, taking days off work you aren't aware of, at work, etc), but she most certainly is emotionally cheating on you. She is interested in someone else. She's deleting her text messages = glaring, neon sign that says "I'm hiding something". MC may be a means for her to relieve herself of any future guilt. "Hey, I went to a few sessions, I gave it my best shot, I still don't love you, see ya loser".
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