moveon Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 How do you move forward after a long term relationship ? I can't seems to get him out of my mind no matter how hard I tried. It has been 8 weeks of n/c, the pain is far less than before, but I still think of him everyday, wondering what's he doing, whether he's thinking about me or miss me. I really want to get back together with him.
starzphalling Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 i didn't like to look at it like moving on from my long term relationship. i looked at it rather just moving. no matter how hard i tried i couldn't not think about him, dream about him, see him everywhere i turned, so eventually i gave in and stopped trying to not think of it, and just let it come as it did. for me i let myself think about it for a while, but always made sure i did something with my day. the feelings are gonna be there for a while. to me there is no way to get rid of them but identify with your feelings and let them run their course, but not let them run you. i don't know if this post will be any help, or is just me incoherently babbling trying to make myself feel better lol
Author moveon Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 I am having an extremely tough time just cutting someone I've known and loved for so many years completely out of my life. I guess I still haven't totally accepted the fact that we're no longer together, I'm still hanging onto hope.... I always try to analyzie his words before the breakup and his actions after the breakup.....
Izzie1973 Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Do new things that you have always wanted to try. Give to others who need your energy.
mm4184 Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 why did you guys break up? because i have a big problem with NC being that we have mutual friends and i don't want to change my lifestyle just to avoid him. there's days i go without contact but like you, i always wonder and think about what's happening in his life, if he's trying to date someone new or SLEEP with someone else (ouch)... i want to just have closure but right now it just seems like something's up with him, like he's angry about something and i hate having this control me!
BikerBeagle Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 As you said, "the pain is far less than before" and it will continue that way until you no longer care what he is doing, who he is with, or whether he thinks of/misses you. The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. Keep breathing and you will make it to the other side.
durotto Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 my ex is already talking late nights with her new bf ... Even today I dreamt that she was crying on my chest .... the dream was so powerful .... I do not know ... but hang on ... remember it hurts now but you will get over him ... Someone who has hurt you so much does not deserve your love ...
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