What is the difference between silent treatment and no contact after breakup ?

[moveon]

I often hear giving your ex the silent treatment. Is that the same as n/c ?

My b/f broke up with me 3 months ago and we have not contact completely for 8 weeks. He did not acknowledge my birthday, when I sent him email & text to wish him Merry Xmas, he did not respond. Our breakup was not overly negative, and is not we grew out of love. I first initiated the breakup due to misunderstanding, I regret it, and wanted to get back together, but he didn't want to give us a second chance. We were together for 6 years, we love each other very much, but we just cannot be together anymore, he had to let go of the relationship is more for my sake and happiness. We still have feelings for each other even though we're apart. But I just don't understand how can he be so cold to me after the breakup ? How can he acts like this to someone that he has loved for so many years ?

[Geishawhelk]

people know and feel different degrees of Love.

"The silent treatment" is usually temporary, and exercised between people who intend to speak eventually, and are usually still together. But it's a bit of a control issue, because it's on one person's terms, and it's done also to be hurtful and to teach a lesson.

 

NC is going off the radar completely and making yourself entirely unavailable in any way shape or form.

It helps people get over the break-up more quickly.

 

I would guess he's combining the two.

He's trying to get over you by going NC, but I'd be willing to bet there's an element of 'Cold shoulder' in there, too......