Knight_Ctrl Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Hey everyone. Well its been coming along here since my breakup, for those of you who don't know what happened for me let me give you the readers digest version. Girl and I meet, we have a fantastic relationship NO big fights, get along fantastically fall in love, have great sex. etc...fast forward and come about late October early November she is telling me she is unhappy and how we have so many problems and differences and stuff. Right around the same time she starts getting close to a friend of mine, badda bing badda boom a few weeks later she dumps me and goes out with him. Ok I got the shaft, I understand this, I spend the next few months being really depressed because I loved her so much. Bad stuff too, I stopped eating started fooling around with painkillers, drinking to often. Not good.....I start to get better and call her (dumb idea sent me back to square one). Basically I asked her for another chance to show her who I am and to try and make things work with me and I told her I wouldn't ever call her again and that she'd have to contact me if thats what she wanted. Ok now here I am, it still hurts yes, I still cry occasionally, but I know I've made huge strides in my recovery of this...Have even started spending more time with a new friend of mine who I get along with amazingly. Were just friends for now but I think we could be more. I don't want to rush a damn thing though, this new girl deserves to not be a rebound, so for now....just friends, only friends until I get my **** together..... And its happening...my **** is coming together, I've had a broken ankle for about a month now so I can't work out, but once I'm able I'm going to continue my workout regime I had before the injury, I've lost 20lbs since my breakup (between being depressed and not eating right, but also working out). I don't take painkillers anymore, and I'm back to drinking not every single night lol. The point of this post, keep doing your NC. Contact is a bitch and it sets you back, and yes YOU will start to feel better guys, I feel like such a bitch saying this. But everyone here has been so much help to me. Yeah it still hurts, yes I miss her, but at least now I'm wise enough to know that getting back would be bad. Thanks for your help everyone, I'll definitely be sticking around here to give back to the community...I'm not over this yet, but I'm getting there.
hereandnow Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Congratulations man! I'm still two steps forward, one step back myself.
californiadreaming Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 The most important thing is always going to be your well being so good job that your back focusing on you. - Just keep that up, and things will start to look different in your eyes, and everyone else's around you. The hurt and pain will kick us in the a** for as long as it needs too, but as long as you are making efforts to be better as a human whether she realizes it and gives you a 2nd shot or not - in the end you win, and you will love better the next time. So good job, keep up the good work.
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