bellabella Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Happy New Year everyone! I have looked at this website quite a bit for the past year and there is often good advice, so now i'm in a bit of a pickle, I thought I'd try to get some advice from you LS-ers. I will give the background story next, but my simple question is - is it always innapropriate to start seeing someone if you have had a fling with their brother in the past? I had a short lived fling (no sleeping together) with a man from my rowing club at the beginning of 2008 - let's call him Pete. Pete and I decided to call it a day after about 2 weeks (just not working) but have remained friends, not great friends, but we hang out sometimes - nothing has ever happened between us since we ended it though. I have also known his brother (Sam) for a similar amount of time from the club but we didn't know each other as well Sam is not as into rowing as seriously as I, and Pete, are. Sam is more into squash which I also enjoy. Sam and I had breakfast alone together after rowing training the other week (he paid) and we got onto chatting about squash and arranged a game for this week. So we met to play squash, but what I wasn't expecting was to get on with him quite as well as i did. We really clicked, ended up going out for dinner afterwards, then back to his house, eventually I had to force myself to go home as it was late. Nothing untoward happened though, just really got on well and chatted and laughed for hours. Since then we've texted a few times and he called yesterday, but we didn't make any plans past seeing each other at training next week. Sam is aware of what happened with me and his brother, though Pete's away at the moment and won't know about the extra time I've spent with his brother yet- not that it's a secret though. I really like Sam and would love something to happen, but not sure if it's really wrong after what happened with Pete. He might not even like me in that way anyway, that's a whole different question! Thanks.
alphamale Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 I will give the background story next, but my simple question is - is it always innapropriate to start seeing someone if you have had a fling with their brother in the past? since you never had a sexual relationship with "Pete" then I think its ok as long as they are both cool with it...
mortensorchid Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 This is a sticky situation. Be friendly but not too friendly with both. If either one wants you pursue a friendship or something else with you, then they can. But whatever you do, don't sleep with either one of them. You will not feel good about yourself if you do this. Even though you did not have a sexual relationship with the first brother, it's still a bad situation. It's best if you just let this stand.
Author bellabella Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 i just hope there isn't a third brother haha, there are two more
You'reasian Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 haha, there are two more You get around lol
Author bellabella Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 You get around lol If I'm asking advice about brother number 3 in a year, then I'll be worried!!
Author bellabella Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 since you never had a sexual relationship with "Pete" then I think its ok as long as they are both cool with it... The fact they would both have to be cool with it would be crucial, they are very close, and both lovely guys, wouldn't want anyone to be hurt here.
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