BusterBrown Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Hi all, I'm 27, going through a divorce. I'll soon be losing most of my friends on my wife's side just because that kinda happens in a divorce. I'm realizing that my social life is about to take a major hit. I've got one best friend that I've known since I was sixth grade. I've got a few more friends and acquaintances, but nothing real deep. I am looking to make some new friends, and hopefully eventually be able to attract the kind of woman I want. The problem is probably 99% of my friends smoke cigarettes, smoke pot, and love to party until 7AM. Sometimes that stuff is fun but I am looking for some friends that live clean and don't sit at home all day smoking pot. I've had a disastrous relationship with cigarettes in my life. I keep quitting them for long periods, yet they always find some way to sink their claws into me again. I would like to eventually meet a woman that is interested in her health and fitness, and doesn't smoke. My STBXW never exercised, smoked cigarettes, and just let herself go. So where can I find these women? Obviously not bars or clubs. I'm not into that anyways. I do go to the gym but I've never even so much have got eye contact from any of those cute girls. Of course I had a ring on and wasn't trying to meet them. How can I form a circle of friends that are just normal?
citizen67 Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Join a running or biking club in your area - some of the members might smoke but most probably will not. As you get older this will be less of a problem - when I was in my 20's me and all my friends smoked cigarettes and worse and drank to excess, now I am in my 40's and none of us do that anymore. In the meantime, worry about yourself - don't ditch your friends just b/c they smoke (they'll quit eventually, esp. when cigarettes go up to $8 a pack!) just remain committed to not smoking yourself.
carhill Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Can't remember a single member of our cycling club smoking. Lots of nice female ass to follow down the road too FWIW, there are many people who I've known for years who quit smoking, mostly in their late 30's/early 40's. I came from a two smoker household but haven't ever smoked (or used drugs) myself. I echo the sentiment that you should retain your friends who support you, regardless of their personal habits. I draw the line at drug use, but your perspective might be different. Also, when I worked at the zoo as a volunteer, none of the staff there smoked (disallowed) and a goodly portion of the patrons were nature conscious (air and ground pollution) so few I socialized with smoked. Both pursuits were great ways to meet women. If I were single again, I'd take up those pursuits before joining a dating site. Much healthier and gives back to the community besides
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