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Hi all,

 

I'm 27, going through a divorce. I'll soon be losing most of my friends on my wife's side just because that kinda happens in a divorce. I'm realizing that my social life is about to take a major hit.

 

I've got one best friend that I've known since I was sixth grade. I've got a few more friends and acquaintances, but nothing real deep.

 

I am looking to make some new friends, and hopefully eventually be able to attract the kind of woman I want. The problem is probably 99% of my friends smoke cigarettes, smoke pot, and love to party until 7AM. Sometimes that stuff is fun but I am looking for some friends that live clean and don't sit at home all day smoking pot. I've had a disastrous relationship with cigarettes in my life. I keep quitting them for long periods, yet they always find some way to sink their claws into me again. I would like to eventually meet a woman that is interested in her health and fitness, and doesn't smoke. My STBXW never exercised, smoked cigarettes, and just let herself go.

 

So where can I find these women? Obviously not bars or clubs. I'm not into that anyways. I do go to the gym but I've never even so much have got eye contact from any of those cute girls. Of course I had a ring on and wasn't trying to meet them. How can I form a circle of friends that are just normal?

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Join a running or biking club in your area - some of the members might smoke but most probably will not. As you get older this will be less of a problem - when I was in my 20's me and all my friends smoked cigarettes and worse and drank to excess, now I am in my 40's and none of us do that anymore. In the meantime, worry about yourself - don't ditch your friends just b/c they smoke (they'll quit eventually, esp. when cigarettes go up to $8 a pack!) just remain committed to not smoking yourself.

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Can't remember a single member of our cycling club smoking. Lots of nice female ass to follow down the road too :)

 

FWIW, there are many people who I've known for years who quit smoking, mostly in their late 30's/early 40's. I came from a two smoker household but haven't ever smoked (or used drugs) myself. I echo the sentiment that you should retain your friends who support you, regardless of their personal habits. I draw the line at drug use, but your perspective might be different.

 

Also, when I worked at the zoo as a volunteer, none of the staff there smoked (disallowed) and a goodly portion of the patrons were nature conscious (air and ground pollution) so few I socialized with smoked.

 

Both pursuits were great ways to meet women. If I were single again, I'd take up those pursuits before joining a dating site. Much healthier and gives back to the community besides :)

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