OCCDAVE Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 My ex of almost 3 years dumped me a month and 2 weeks ago and moved on fast.Below is what has happened and for such a short time i feel beyond sick and dirty Nov 20th -We broke up Nov 27-New bf steve is in the picture Dec-27 word of mouth has it they broke up(karma has come back i think) Jan 2-word has it she has a date with a new guy named andrew. My friend even joked after steve kicked her to the curb or whatever happened she would find some new guy in a week tops if even.How do i feel good about myself when it shows i am part of this game she has been playing.I am also hurt the sweet girl i once new is excuse me for saying this turning into a whore.Heck i would say id never take her back after the whole steve thing now its some other guy ugh thats disgusting.sigh
northstar1 Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 My ex of almost 3 years dumped me a month and 2 weeks ago and moved on fast.Below is what has happened and for such a short time i feel beyond sick and dirty Nov 20th -We broke up Nov 27-New bf steve is in the picture Dec-27 word of mouth has it they broke up(karma has come back i think) Jan 2-word has it she has a date with a new guy named andrew. My friend even joked after steve kicked her to the curb or whatever happened she would find some new guy in a week tops if even.How do i feel good about myself when it shows i am part of this game she has been playing.I am also hurt the sweet girl i once new is excuse me for saying this turning into a whore.Heck i would say id never take her back after the whole steve thing now its some other guy ugh thats disgusting.sigh Many, you need to stop hearing this stuff about her. It isn't going to help you at all. can't you remove the source of this info?
openbook08 Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Many, you need to stop hearing this stuff about her. It isn't going to help you at all. can't you remove the source of this info? yup i agree when i heard he had a new girlf, i knew hed be bringing her to our town, but i dont go out here anymore so as not to put myself into a situation im not ready for, this meant i also had to ask me friends not to tell me anything about him, or her, or his friends. even if they didnt mention him, if they even said X (his friend) id be off wondering well was he out, was she with him or are they in her town? nyyyyaaaa. one friend continued to mention him, so much so that i had to tell her, look ive asked you nicely, but if you dont stop bringin him up ill have to stop hangin out with you. people can be so thick sometimes. look after no. 1 sorry youre hurting X
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 Many, you need to stop hearing this stuff about her. It isn't going to help you at all. can't you remove the source of this info? Well I knew about steve cause I was at the mall and found her all over some dude.the break up her cousin messaged me saying happy new year and she thinks they broke up and wish me and my ex were together.the date today came from my friend Who saw it on her myspace status.
northstar1 Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Well I knew about steve cause I was at the mall and found her all over some dude.the break up her cousin messaged me saying happy new year and she thinks they broke up and wish me and my ex were together.the date today came from my friend Who saw it on her myspace status. If i can offer some advice, ask your cousins/friends to not update you on your ex. you need to treat her and any info about her, like she does not exist. that stuff just stabs you in the heart.
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 I have a question anyone think this guy steve karma came back to her or she got bored of him like she did with me.I find it sad and at the same time im a bit hurt u mean to tell me after today in a span of not even 2 months u will have dated 3 guys yuck
EmperorR Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 I have a question anyone think this guy steve karma came back to her or she got bored of him like she did with me.I find it sad and at the same time im a bit hurt u mean to tell me after today in a span of not even 2 months u will have dated 3 guys yuck Your ex is like my ex, these people just can't be alone, so they will get with any guy even if they have nothing in common. I'm sure you got the "I want to be alone line" right? I'm sure steve and andrew are people your ex would never be with and are like the total opposites of you. And I agree stop wondering what she is doing, stop asking about it, you will just hurt yourself, just og total NC, clean your soul your mind, you don't need someone like that.
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 Your ex is like my ex, these people just can't be alone, so they will get with any guy even if they have nothing in common. I'm sure you got the "I want to be alone line" right? I'm sure steve and andrew are people your ex would never be with and are like the total opposites of you. And I agree stop wondering what she is doing, stop asking about it, you will just hurt yourself, just og total NC, clean your soul your mind, you don't need someone like that.Yep she told me she was gonna stay single for awhile and just keep to herself.A week later thats when steve popped up in the picture.:rolleyes:I wont lie i miss her a bit but Jan 1st marked 3 weeks strict nc it would have been a month and 2 weeks but i broke down and called 3 weeks into it.If nothing else this update i got only confirms that id never wanna be with a cheating scum like this and need better.
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 Im feeling like crap again anyone have anymore advice:(
BikerBeagle Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Im feeling like crap again anyone have anymore advice:(Like Northstar said, you need to stop "hearing' stuff about her ..tell your friends and cousins and coworkers and homeless people on the street not to inform you of her 'status'. You are obsessing far too much over this ...she's not with you ...what she does is none of your business, regardless of the wherefore or whyfore she is doing what she is doing. You are doing this to yourself.
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 I know just still miss her but at least im being honest I was with her close to 3 years so I think its common I still miss her.I have gone 3 weeks strict nc so I have that to be proud of if nothing else.I also started a journel and its helping me vent more.I also plan on taking a mini vaction come the 25th if all works out which I hope so I can get away for a bit and clear my head.
EmperorR Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 I know just still miss her but at least im being honest I was with her close to 3 years so I think its common I still miss her.I have gone 3 weeks strict nc so I have that to be proud of if nothing else.I also started a journel and its helping me vent more.I also plan on taking a mini vaction come the 25th if all works out which I hope so I can get away for a bit and clear my head. You miss the old her that's dead and gone. Just remember she disrespected you, be happyBy letting anger about her inside, it's like your letting her violate you again and disrespecting your space again.
emotionalydistraugt Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Emporer, You seem like a smart guy so I have a question. I too got the I want to be alone, i'm not ready to be in a commited relationship right now." WHile she still hangs out with him blah blah blah. But when I asked her what makes him better than me she said that we were pretty much the same. And she mentioned he was better looking then me, but I pryed that out of her. Advice? Comments?
EmperorR Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Emporer, You seem like a smart guy so I have a question. I too got the I want to be alone, i'm not ready to be in a commited relationship right now." WHile she still hangs out with him blah blah blah. But when I asked her what makes him better than me she said that we were pretty much the same. And she mentioned he was better looking then me, but I pryed that out of her. Advice? Comments? He's not better than you trust me, how can someone she just met be better than someone she has known for years and treated her good. To justify her actions she can't say oh your better than him, then you will ponder then why aren't you with me. He's probably not better looking than you either, dumpees use these tactics telling you the most hurtful things to keep pushing you away more, whatever you want to hear they will tell you the opposite. if your ex told you, oh no your much much better looking than him, then you would be thinking and pondering and wondering getting more hope etc. And she's lying that she wants to be alone, ya she wants to be alone but from you. My ex was the exact same as yours down to a tea cheated on me dumped me wanted to be alone, found a new "friend", Id never date that guy he's just a friend, a week later dating. Hell my ex said that she has so much in common with this herb she just met and I asked her and she said we like the same color, we like the movie the notebook and we both like math, this was the type of immaturity I was dealing with. It's sad but you can't compete with this new herb in her life man, I'm sorry, there still in a fog, still in the honeymoon stage of a relationship where everything si nice and bright no fights, the excitement of getting to know someone new the butterflies in the belly.
emotionalydistraugt Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Thanks emperor that helped. And I know She is in that floaty googly stage im not worried about it anymore
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