Bells Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Maybe I'm going crazy here, but I went out with a friend of mine and other people 4 people, boy girl/boy girl And my friend seemed to be really hitting it off with this girl...couldn't keep their hands off each other. Actually, I thought they were trying to "split off" from our group when they were hangin with us. WE went to this bar did some dancing, and they were getting close on the dance floor, figured they were hitting it off. Holding hands and all that jazz. I email him later and say, "Hey, what's up, looks like you were hitting it off <her name>" And he goes "What are you talking about 'hitting it off'....we're just friends. And I'm like "Okay, I guess I need to get glasses or something...but it DID look like you were hitting it off." They did everything short of kissing. Heavy petting and such. I mean, the general public could assume they are a couple with what they were doing. Wierd. Anyone see anyone deny such things? lol
Trialbyfire Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Bells, isn't it better to just respect your friend's stance, until or if, something does happen between the two of them? For all you know, they might be FWBs, thus supposedly friends.
carhill Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Well, what do you do when you hit it off with someone? Personally, I always end the encounter early. We might otherwise find something we don't hit it off about Seriously, your friend was just angling for some physical stimulation and/or a casual hook-up. The lack of kissing is the key, IMO.
Star Gazer Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 It's really none of your business what two other people are going. Also, I really cannot understand how they could be heavy petting and not even kissing. That's another sign to me that you misinterpret signals.
carhill Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 No reflection on the OP, his friend or the lady involved, but men who frequent prostitutes don't kiss them (nor are they "allowed" to). It's purely physical and sexual. Kissing is a sign/act of emotional affection in most cultures. For myself, being close emotionally to many women, I experience the reverse. Lots of kissing but "making out" only with my wife. Sounds like the OP's friend gets the better end of the deal Seriously, Bells, why do you concern yourself with what other people do? Guess I could ask myself that same question, having responded to this thread
Author Bells Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 It's really none of your business what two other people are going. Also, I really cannot understand how they could be heavy petting and not even kissing. That's another sign to me that you misinterpret signals. Heck, they had their arms around each other in an embrace and were holding hands while they were walking. They couldn't keep their hands off each other. They probably kissed, just didn't witness it, couldn't see them all the time. lol Your a woman, you mean to tell me you never ask your friends, "Hey, who was that cute guy you were with? What's up with that? (Wink wink , nudge nudge) I was just asking things were progressing or if anything came of it. Friends do that all the time, man.
carhill Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 She was getting her ego feed for the night. Been there, got the medal
Author Bells Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 She was getting her ego feed for the night. Been there, got the medal Probably...wouldn't suprise me. Must been the booze, too
Star Gazer Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Heck, they had their arms around each other in an embrace and were holding hands while they were walking. That is NOT heavy petting, Bells. Heavy petting involves rubbing the genitals and breasts, some serious grinding going on. Your a woman, you mean to tell me you never ask your friends, "Hey, who was that cute guy you were with? What's up with that? (Wink wink , nudge nudge) Usually, no. I don't ask something like that. In catching up with friends, I'd ask "So are you dating anyone special? Do tell!" but not "Oh, I think you two are an item!" But if I did and they were to respond as your friend did, I drop it. The only interpretation of two other people's relationship that matters is theirs. Not mine, not yours.
Author Bells Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 That is NOT heavy petting, Bells. Heavy petting involves rubbing the genitals and breasts, some serious grinding going on. Usually, no. I don't ask something like that. In catching up with friends, I'd ask "So are you dating anyone special? Do tell!" but not "Oh, I think you two are an item!" But if I did and they were to respond as your friend did, I drop it. The only interpretation of two other people's relationship that matters is theirs. Not mine, not yours. Potatoe ...POEE taaah Tooe You're just splittin' hairs SG.
Star Gazer Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Potatoe ...POEE taaah Tooe You're just splittin' hairs SG. No, I'm not. YOU can't read the signs. EVER. Here's another thought. You're just... nosy. You invade people's privacy. ALL.THE.TIME. Maybe your "friend" doesn't feel comfortable sharing the details of HIS relationship with you.
Author Bells Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 That is NOT heavy petting, Bells. Heavy petting involves rubbing the genitals and breasts, some serious grinding going on. Usually, no. I don't ask something like that. In catching up with friends, I'd ask "So are you dating anyone special? Do tell!" but not "Oh, I think you two are an item!" But if I did and they were to respond as your friend did, I drop it. The only interpretation of two other people's relationship that matters is theirs. Not mine, not yours. Bull crap...you mean to tell me when you see a friend of yours with a girl...you don't ask "Hey, who was the cute guy I saw you with last night?" I don't buy it. EVERYONE has done that at one time or another.
Star Gazer Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Bull crap...you mean to tell me when you see a friend of yours with a girl...you don't ask "Hey, who was the cute guy I saw you with last night?" I don't buy it. EVERYONE has done that at one time or another. You're not listening. Sure, I might ask that. BUT if she were to say, "Oh, he's just a friend," UNLIKE YOU, I'D DROP IT. I wouldn't be posting here about it, unable to understand why she'd say that. HER definition of HER relationship is the only one what matters. NOT YOURS. Seriously, get your nose out of other people's business. Stop looking outward. Stop pointing fingers. Look at YOUR OWN behavior.
carhill Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 I would generally agree with S_G on the petting descriptor, but women are devious in this regard. They can get a lot of personal pleasure/ego feed from relatively innocuous behaviors. Men are more blatantly sexual, grabbing breasts and crotches.
Posco_Proudfoot Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Usually, no. I don't ask something like that. Age difference maybe?
Trialbyfire Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Standard practice for my male friends. If they're leading me to the dance floor, they will either pull me by the hand or put their hand behind my back...even putting their arms around my shoulder. We've also hugged each other....OMG, HOW INAPPROPRIATE!
Star Gazer Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 I would generally agree with S_G on the petting descriptor, but women are devious in this regard. They can get a lot of personal pleasure/ego feed from relatively innocuous behaviors. Men are more blatantly sexual, grabbing breasts and crotches. The guy... nay, boy... in this thread is the one defining petting in an innocuous way. Age difference maybe? Or maturity level? Keep in mind that Bells didn't see his friend and *nudge, nudge* He went so far as to write the guy an email to ask him about it. Intrusive, much? I think it's just plain weird. I'd bet the dude in question doesn't even consider Bells a friend, but an acquaintance. And again... WHY does Bells even care about OTHER people's love lives?!?!
Author Bells Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 Standard practice for my male friends. If they're leading me to the dance floor, they will either pull me by the hand or put their hand behind my back...even putting their arms around my shoulder. We've also hugged each other....OMG, HOW INAPPROPRIATE! Just an FYI there were doing this on the Sidewalk as well....like I said holding hands, cuddling, you name it pretty much (people seem to be skipping right over that part) On a danceflloor, you have an excuse to get close....out on the street...mmm, not so much.
Posco_Proudfoot Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Just an FYI there were doing this on the Sidewalk as well....like I said holding hands, cuddling, you name it pretty much (people seem to be skipping right over that part) On a danceflloor, you have an excuse to get close....out on the street...mmm, not so much. Just curious. How old are you and how old is your friend?
Star Gazer Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Are they friends? Was it...dare I say...COLD outside? Had they had ANY amount of alcohol to drink? And again... WHY do you care?!?!
Author Bells Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 Just curious. How old are you and how old is your friend? 30's....and I think he's in his 40's, why?
Posco_Proudfoot Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 30's....and I think he's in his 40's, why? Yea, I think I'd let them do their thing and blame it on the booze or something. Try and keep out.
Author Bells Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 Yea, I think I'd let them do their thing and blame it on the booze or something. Try and keep out. Yeah, I guess so...<shrug>. Thing is, they made it so obvious, that I don't think he would care if it was brought to his attention. lol.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Why do you NEED to bring it to his attention? That is kind of a strange statement, Bells.
Trialbyfire Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Bells, there's no way you're in your mid to late thirties. It's not possible.
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