why would an ex boyfriend call me at 12 am CRYING about his current girlfriend?

[serendipity_2008]

He broke up with me about 2 in a half months ago. I was so hurt and he was a total d*ck about the whole thing. He told me to never call or speak to him again, yet he continued to call me the entire time. There were even times were he called me to tell me that I had better not be dating other guys or he called me to tell me how much he spent on his current gf etc.

 

Any who he called me this morning at 12am crying like a complete baby. He could barely get his words out. He told me how he was very sorry for how he treated me. Now most of his call consisted of him talking about how the new girlfriend dumped him and how he wants her back and is so upset.

 

He talked about how he had not ate in 3 days or even slept because he was so upset. I am just very confused as to why he'd call his Ex of all people. Especially after treating me so badly during the initial break up. He says that he is so in love with this girl but they've only been together for about 3 months and during that entire time he has called me. He also apologized for being a total D*ck etc. I mean he went from the very beginning to the end about our relationship and why he broke up with me etc.

 

What's going on here? Am I reading into this too much? I just think it's odd that he'd contact ME?

 

i just want to also say that he hasn't dated the new girl for even 6 months and 2 wks ago he was asking me to go back out with him. During the entire time he was w/ her he called me. We never had sex bc I am a virgin and he knows that I am very moral so there's no chance of a fwb relationship.

 

i am just confused as to why he was calling me etc. but then claims to be so in love w/ her. Not too long ago he called me saying they were just "fwbs." He said that they were just "sleeping" together, but after hearing him cry like a 3 month old baby there has to be more to it than that. I am just very confused.

 

My ex is 20 and I am 21 so we are both rather young. I am just confused by his behavior. He claims to be in love but was calling me the entire time.... even telling me that I had better not be dating other men. Something does NOT add up. E

[LucreziaBorgia]

It all adds up to you being the back burner girl. Honestly? You'd be best off in the long run simply saying, "sorry, but I've moved on" and hang up on him.

[LostNLonely]

He broke up with me about 2 in a half months ago. I was so hurt and he was a total d*ck about the whole thing. He told me to never call or speak to him again, yet he continued to call me the entire time. There were even times were he called me to tell me that I had better not be dating other guys or he called me to tell me how much he spent on his current gf etc.

 

Any who he called me this morning at 12am crying like a complete baby. He could barely get his words out. He told me how he was very sorry for how he treated me. Now most of his call consisted of him talking about how the new girlfriend dumped him and how he wants her back and is so upset.

 

He talked about how he had not ate in 3 days or even slept because he was so upset. I am just very confused as to why he'd call his Ex of all people. Especially after treating me so badly during the initial break up. He says that he is so in love with this girl but they've only been together for about 3 months and during that entire time he has called me. He also apologized for being a total D*ck etc. I mean he went from the very beginning to the end about our relationship and why he broke up with me etc.

 

What's going on here? Am I reading into this too much? I just think it's odd that he'd contact ME?

 

i just want to also say that he hasn't dated the new girl for even 6 months and 2 wks ago he was asking me to go back out with him. During the entire time he was w/ her he called me. We never had sex bc I am a virgin and he knows that I am very moral so there's no chance of a fwb relationship.

 

i am just confused as to why he was calling me etc. but then claims to be so in love w/ her. Not too long ago he called me saying they were just "fwbs." He said that they were just "sleeping" together, but after hearing him cry like a 3 month old baby there has to be more to it than that. I am just very confused.

 

My ex is 20 and I am 21 so we are both rather young. I am just confused by his behavior. He claims to be in love but was calling me the entire time.... even telling me that I had better not be dating other men. Something does NOT add up. E

 

 

He's a D*ck + Abusive + Emotionally Immature= LOSER

 

It all adds up, go ahead, check my math!

[FeedingOnFever]

He really IS being an emotionally abusive, immature *******! Just reading the first paragraph of your post is enough to determine that.

 

Damn, I'm sorry that he's doing this. I don't get how people can be so messed up. You are definitely much better off going NC with this guy... blocking his number, blocking him on Facebook/Myspace, deleting emails without opening them, etc. I hope this guy gets the hell out of your life... you don't need someone so toxic rearing his head again and again.

[serendipity_2008]

Just a little update for you guys. He called me once again this afternoon and told me that even if he caught the other girl in the bed with another man that he would still take her back. Surprisingly I am part of a dating site online and happened to browse around and he has already created another dating profile. Now I logged back into the dating site and his profile is erased. I know a lot of you are going to say to ignore and I am a firm believer in NC but you know he was my 1st real bf.

 

Although I am ashamed to admit that I am 21 and that was my first boyfriend, but it is true, and in essence it makes it harder to ignore the calls etc. I am just having a very hard time believing how he could be soo in love with her but just called me 2 wks ago trying to get back together, and then when she finally dumped him he had already created another dating profile. Is what I am going through normal? We've been apart for about 2 in a half months now and although we were broke up, he CONTINUED to call.

[Knight_Ctrl]

It all adds up to you being the back burner girl. Honestly? You'd be best off in the long run simply saying, "sorry, but I've moved on" and hang up on him.

 

best advice possible

[serendipity_2008]

This is a lot of great advice but it is a lot easier said than done. I always have this small glimmer of hope that bc he is young that he will change. Is it possible? Can a person like this ever change? I know i am not the smartest person for accepting his calls, but I have always been the type of person to help people. This goes far beyond this relationship, but all my life I have been the martyr. I am only 21 yrs. old but I have a horrible life and I know that it is up to me and only me to change this, but it's so hard. I was around a lot of emotional abuse as a child so in my mind I am pre programmed to think that as long as he is not beating the crap out of me, I am fine. I know this is a very very very bad habit that I have acquired and I need to change it. How can I move beyond him if I am sincerely trying to change? I know a lot of you will say just ignore his calls but that is so much easier said than done. I know I am only 21 and I practically have my whole life ahead of me and plenty of time to meet new guys, but he was my first boyfriend and I just feel like an utter failure bc I normally make good decisions. Any advice?? I know a lot of you are saying that he is doing this to me simply because he can, but there has to be some ulterior motive.

[Hersheys]

I'm sure he'll continue to call you and talk about his gf. Do you really want to be his 'listening ear'?

 

You sound like a nice and caring girl. Stop wasting your time waiting for his midnight phone calls.