Author Tinkerbelll Posted January 8, 2009 Author Posted January 8, 2009 Awful.. I got out from his car willing to die. Today he called me again: we decided to see each other for a coffee. Well..at the end we argued a lot, he said he called me just to be friends: I asked him to NEVER EVER CONTACT me again.. It was so hurtful.. I know everything is over now. I agree: better not to break NC, but today I really realized is over. I don't want to know anything from him from now on. __________________
Geishawhelk Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 Why the hell didn't you listen to us in the first place? I'm not having a go, it's a really genuine question.... Virtually without exception, people who break No Contact and harbour hopes invariably get trodden on, hurt and completely rejected. And this has always followed loads and loads of advice from most other people on the forum to NOT BREAK NO CONTACT!! Will people never learn.................??
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 Here's something the forum should learn. Listen to Geisha Listen to Thomas X. (DSM-IV Tom)
Geishawhelk Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 Warning: Off-Topic Post. Hey!! My guy Tom's back! Howya doing, Tom?? (((hugs!!))) Sorry, back to topic.
Author Tinkerbelll Posted January 8, 2009 Author Posted January 8, 2009 Why the hell didn't you listen to us in the first place? I'm not having a go, it's a really genuine question.... Virtually without exception, people who break No Contact and harbour hopes invariably get trodden on, hurt and completely rejected. And this has always followed loads and loads of advice from most other people on the forum to NOT BREAK NO CONTACT!! Will people never learn.................?? Because I needed to crash my nose against it I guess. I had to experiment it. I needed to feel the salt burning in my wounds! I hope this experience will help somebody that is in a similar situation. And by the way, I feel better: I was only a game for him. Now I know I won't ever permit him to hurt me anymore. Most importantly, I became aware that there is nothing between us, nothing to save, nothing that it was worth fighting for anymore. I wish everybody real joy, and real happiness.. Thanks for the support you gave me and sorry for sometimes questioning your intentions.
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 Warning: Off-Topic Post. Hey!! My guy Tom's back! Howya doing, Tom?? (((hugs!!))) Sorry, back to topic. Off-Topic reply. Hey love. I'm doing neutral. How bout you Back on topic.
audrey_1 Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 Warning: Off-Topic Post. Hey!! My guy Tom's back! Howya doing, Tom?? (((hugs!!))) Sorry, back to topic. Off-Topic reply. Hey love. I'm doing neutral. How bout you Back on topic. Okay you two, get your own post.;)
Geishawhelk Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 What? And spoil everybody's fun?? No, you're right. Just hello-ing.....
Author Tinkerbelll Posted April 1, 2009 Author Posted April 1, 2009 Hi all, how are you doing? Here goes the update..Well, after that evening I really realized it was over. It didn't hurt anymore..because I had understood that, as I told, there was nothing in that car worth fighting for. At the end of January I met another guy, we dated for a couple of weeks: it felt so good feeling appreciated by another man..But at the end, it just didn't work out... So, I was recovering from this break-up, when I run again into Mr X at the end of February. He was with some friends of mine..we were both very happy to see each other again, we hugged and shared a good conversation. The same night, we ended having sex at his place. From that moment, we started to see each other again..basically, we almost always met directly at his place and had sex. I know this was not good for me..One night I was driving back home from his place when I just broke into tears..asking myself why I needed to feel that used, why I kept hurting me with that etc.. So when a couple of days later he called me again I said him I could not be one among the others. He answered that I did decide everythng, that there weren't other girls and he invited me to his place for a dinner with some other friends.I accepted and God..it was amazing. He was so caring with me all the evening, in front of his friends..Well, I just thought we were back together. But 1,2,3 days passed and I didn't hear from him again. On the fourth day, I just sent him a text asking him not to contact me again. He said he was sorry we could not share great moments without making these considerations, of course asking me to be friends. I just said no..and here we are 5th day NC! This is to warn you: NEVER, NEVER, NEVER LOOK BACK AGAIN. Cheers!
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