Author Tinkerbelll Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 You know, I hope it works out for you, I really do, but didn't you only date for 1 month, and have been broken up for 2? Until he actually shows up at your door wanting to reconcile, then I think you need to keep your hope in check. A text is a weak way of getting in touch with someone - it's easy, and detached from any sort of real emotion or in person discussion of feelings. Please don't build yourself for disappointment if he doesn't want a relationship. The universe may not be willing to offer you your money back if it doesn't happen the way the books says it will. Yeah..but I first fell in love with him when I was 7 Staying with him was a dream that became true for me..
Author Tinkerbelll Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 Im sorry Tinkerbell but youve gotta listen to what these people here are telling you. Some of the way the advice is worded might seem harsh, I see that, but theyre only trying to protect you. I wish I had known about this site when my ex came back after 2months NC. words are NOT ENOUGH. dont settle for empty promises you WILL get hurt again. a text? a TEXT? whooppeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee e NOT ENOUGH you are worth a LOT more wait for that, then and only then consider it actions speak louder than words I know how hard/confusing/frustrating this is but trust us. these people will not see you wrong. clear your mind and read all the posts again. find a compromise, take something/anything you can swallow and dont jump in 2 feet just yet. Yes, I agree..It is not enough. But I can wait.
carhill Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t170821/ Read those journals again NC isn't a game; it's a way to heal yourself. Do you feel healed? I'm going to contradict convention and suggest that you do have your dinner and night of lust. I think it will be an excellent life lesson for you. Good luck!
FF84 Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 If it doesn't work out, maybe give moonmoon a shout? I believe he read the secret too. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t171006/ I sense you're both heading to the same place. I hope you both aren't, as I really do love happy endings, but life isn't a fairy tale.
EmperorR Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Emperor, you changed your pic lol Trust me, we are going to go back together. I imagine things going this way: he will invite me to dinner to talk about the break up, I will tell him that I will agree to go back as long as he make the commitment to make things work between us. Than we will have a night of pure lust ahahahaha:laugh: And then, I will post to LS and celebrate with all of you! I sure did got to be happy lol, I hope every thing works out for you though.
northstar1 Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Yeah..but I first fell in love with him when I was 7 Staying with him was a dream that became true for me.. Wow, all I have to say is goodluck.
not_a_happy_camper Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 DENILE IS NOT A RIVER IN EGYPT!!! all i can say is you are setting yourself up for a big fall. my ex texted christmas eve to wish me happy christmas. but he also point blank ignored me two weeks before when he ran into me in a pub. as has been said above, text is an easy way of contact with detachment. no emotions. wait for him all you like. life will happen around you and you'll be missing other things that might be right under your nose. don't waste your time on this person. and i'm sorry, but in love since the age of 7? let go of your dream............it happened and it didn't work out, time to let go.
saturnfell Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Has he contacted you since New Years? When was the last time you saw him? These are two very important questions... when you answer, we may continue.
Author Tinkerbelll Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t170821/ Read those journals again NC isn't a game; it's a way to heal yourself. Do you feel healed? I'm going to contradict convention and suggest that you do have your dinner and night of lust. I think it will be an excellent life lesson for you. Good luck! Yeah..that's what they say "One day you will look back at it and laugh", and I suggest "Why don't laugh at it right now?":D
Riffmeister General Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Sweet Jesus, this is like watching a car crash. You know you shouldn't look, but you just have to...
Author Tinkerbelll Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 If it doesn't work out, maybe give moonmoon a shout? I believe he read the secret too. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t171006/ I sense you're both heading to the same place. I hope you both aren't, as I really do love happy endings, but life isn't a fairy tale. What's wrong with you? I just want to stay with him..it could work or it couldn't, but there is nothing wrong with it. Yes, he dumped me..but it was me that the previous days had sent him a text saying I considered myself single because of an argument we had (I was angry and childish and impulsive..I know!) I think that our discussion would me more valuable if we realize that the dumper isnt't always the bad guy and that the dumpee has some kind of responsibility on what happened.
stray_cat Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 just out of curiosity, how old are you? i'm sorry and i dont mean to sound judgemental but you sound so immature. if you know what you want no matter what then why did you come here for advice? i really hope that your interpretations are right but if not then you had it coming.
Author Tinkerbelll Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 Has he contacted you since New Years? When was the last time you saw him? These are two very important questions... when you answer, we may continue. 24 Dec: we see each other after 6 weeks NC: he tries to establish contact, I ignore him. 26 Dec: we meet again and we talk (see my previous post). He send me a text "Good to see and to talk to you again. Have fun during your holidays. Kiss". 29 Dec: he calls me 2 times in a row and send me this text "Are you around? Call me" 1 Jan: he texts me "Best Wishes. Kiss" Well I know it's not that much..but I know him, and I know it wasn't easy for him to do it. He thought he had all the power..I gave him a good life lesson, believe me.
saturnfell Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 24 Dec: we see each other after 6 weeks NC: he tries to establish contact, I ignore him. 26 Dec: we meet again and we talk (see my previous post). He send me a text "Good to see and to talk to you again. Have fun during your holidays. Kiss". 29 Dec: he calls me 2 times in a row and send me this text "Are you around? Call me" 1 Jan: he texts me "Best Wishes. Kiss" Well I know it's not that much..but I know him, and I know it wasn't easy for him to do it. He thought he had all the power..I gave him a good life lesson, believe me. Each and every person that has posted on here, has recommended that you walk away and do not think anything will become of the situation. My question to you is: why don't you just ask him what he's thinking?
Author Tinkerbelll Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 DENILE IS NOT A RIVER IN EGYPT!!! all i can say is you are setting yourself up for a big fall. my ex texted christmas eve to wish me happy christmas. but he also point blank ignored me two weeks before when he ran into me in a pub. as has been said above, text is an easy way of contact with detachment. no emotions. wait for him all you like. life will happen around you and you'll be missing other things that might be right under your nose. don't waste your time on this person. and i'm sorry, but in love since the age of 7? let go of your dream............it happened and it didn't work out, time to let go. In my case, we saw each other..and he was quite impressed I could say. I would like to explain that I DID MOVE ON FROM THE FIRST DAY. I have a life beside him. I dated other guys. I am doing fine. Anyway, I want to get back with him.
Author Tinkerbelll Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 just out of curiosity, how old are you? i'm sorry and i dont mean to sound judgemental but you sound so immature. if you know what you want no matter what then why did you come here for advice? i really hope that your interpretations are right but if not then you had it coming. I am 30, how old are you? Which is your advice?
Eyeofthoth Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 tinkerbell -- I happen to agree with you that too many people on this board are all about blaming the dumper when usually there is at least a teensy bit of responsibility that needs to be taken by the dumpee. This is the hardest thing for a dumpee to accept, but unless it can be accepted, then all that breakup pain is for nothing. Sometimes the thing to accept is that you got involved with a person you should have realized was a train wreck, and sometimes there is more to it than that. Sometimes people leave because of bad behavior. I am sharing the last question asked of you though. Haven't you had enough games here? Why don't you just ask him if he's thinking of giving the two of you another shot? If he says no, then go NC NOW!!!!!!!
Author Tinkerbelll Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 Each and every person that has posted on here, has recommended that you walk away and do not think anything will become of the situation. My question to you is: why don't you just ask him what he's thinking? Because I want him to get closer and closer, to give me what I want without even having to ask him, ideally. I won't do anything, in fact. I will stay in my NC throne. I will go on with my life. I got back from a trip yesterday and I am moving away in a week. I can wait, no matter if it will take days, weeks or months.
saturnfell Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 I think you just answered your own post: you need to wait, just wait.
northstar1 Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Because I want him to get closer and closer, to give me what I want without even having to ask him, ideally. I won't do anything, in fact. I will stay in my NC throne. I will go on with my life. I got back from a trip yesterday and I am moving away in a week. I can wait, no matter if it will take days, weeks or months. Or years........... Is this the first relationship you've had?
Sexy Kitty Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 I know the feeling of wanting someone back that has left you. I want my ex back too and I'd take him back if we started talking again and if that is what he wanted. I'm sure many of us would take our ex's back if they gave us the chance and we still loved them. Even after everyone has said don't do it. Doesn't mean they won't do it again but that's the chance you take when getting back together. Sometimes it works out getting back together and sometimes it doesn't. I hope things work out for you TinkerBell. I know how badly you want this!
Author Tinkerbelll Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 Or years........... Is this the first relationship you've had? Oh God, no It's definetely not the first, but you never ask a Lady..
Author Tinkerbelll Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 I know the feeling of wanting someone back that has left you. I want my ex back too and I'd take him back if we started talking again and if that is what he wanted. I'm sure many of us would take our ex's back if they gave us the chance and we still loved them. Even after everyone has said don't do it. Doesn't mean they won't do it again but that's the chance you take when getting back together. Sometimes it works out getting back together and sometimes it doesn't. I hope things work out for you TinkerBell. I know how badly you want this! Wise Kitty!!! "Sometimes it works out getting back together and sometimes it doesn't." Life is risky, at the end.
Author Tinkerbelll Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 I think you just answered your own post: you need to wait, just wait. Yes..SILENCE IS THE ANSWER!
Knight_Ctrl Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Yes. Almost 2 months of hell after he dumped me on a sunny Sunday morning.. I did like everybody: I tried to convince him that there was something special between us; I asked him another chance; I begged him not to throw away our future. He never answered. That happened on that unforgettable Sunday: on the following day I made the resolution to go NC, not to contact him ever again whatever it would take. Was it difficult? It was pure hell. It was even worst when I was told he was dating another girl, it was unbearable to realize that a friend of mine was now his friend and they were hanging out together. Yes, I experimented pain, but I NEVER loose the hope I would manage my way through. When we saw again, I felt like a rock. A magic night in which I could feel his eyes on me all the time. I ignored him. He texted me. "Nice to see you again." I ignored him. He called me. Two times. I ignored him. He texted me again."Are you around?Give me a call" And I still ignored him. He finally texted me " Happy 2009" And I answered him "Thanx, I hope this year will bring you everything you want". And now, beloved loveshakers, I am ready to give us another chance. Please, tell me now what it's going to happen!!!!! I can feel him, God I can feel him.. Look, your post has "gimme gimme gimme" written all over it in big, bad, painful letters for me to read. Given I don't know what the circumstances of your breakup was, but why after the "nice to see you again text, and the calls did you feel the need to reply to his happy 2009 text. You said it was a proper answer, a proper answer to "nice to see you again" would have been something like "nice to see you again too". Bottom line is, you're being wishy washy. I want my ex back sure, I think lots of people on here do. But then there are those of us who KNOW it would be a ****ing dumb **** idea to take them back after what they've done to us. You need to join the club and understand this is only going to end up hurting you all over again, even if things are sweet for a while. Don't do this to yourself.
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