Ex keeping presents?

[le-arc]

How do you feel about visiting an ex (that I guess you get along with/friends/maybe more?) -which I just did- and I found out he still kept everything I gave him. I'm not sure if he does that with every ex, but I saw the last present I gave him (month before he broke up with me) and he had it lying on his coffee table, next to his reading books (which included one of the books I gave him) and a recent special photo of him and his nephew.

 

Is that normal? And he was still calling me babe and my pet name but never said I love you or asked to get back together. He also hugged me, held my hand, and acted as if nothing happened (no break up) to the point he brought me over to his brother's house? (luckily we're all in good terms unlike his previous ex girlfriend whom his family hates)

 

Maybe this is false hope but I'm not expecting too much... I'm still going to wait til he says the magic words that he wants me back in a relationship (only for a month or two... otherwise I'll move on...). I miss him and love him and was just trying to figure out what's his intensions.

 

How would some of you relate?

[Geishawhelk]

Why would you be in touch with him, if you're not over him?

He's being gentle with you to not hurt your feelings, but this is giving you false hopes.

You need to sever ties with him until you can view him in a neutral light.

 

Tell him - for your own recovery, well-being and healing - that you are going No Contact, until such a time as you are able to sit in the same room with him, with no pangs or pain. You should be able to see him hugging and kissing a girl and not feel a thing, except happiness at their happiness.

 

He can do what he likes with the stuff you gave him. It's his, why should he dispose of it, 'just because'....?

 

Girl, you need to move on, hun.

[Surfer Dude]

I threw out and burned everything my ex ever gave me, including a nice expensive watch. I don't need anything to remind me of that cheating scum, she's out of my life now.