BrokenSmile Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Last week I stayed round my friends in San Fransisco (3 hours away from me) who I had met off the internet 3 years ago, and have always been really flirty and sweet with eachother (we have met up 4 times before) but he's had 2 girlfriends in this period and still flirts with me the same to me. Everytime we meet up we act like we're a couple, hugging, kissing holding hands etc. He invited me for the week so I said yes and drove up. Anyway, I stayed round his for a week. On the first few nights we were snuggling up and kissing on the sofa, and watched a number of movies. He was a gentleman, paid for our Chinese Takeaway, allowed me to get changed for bed first etc. He was cuddling and kissing me in bed, but nothing went any further. He took me to the movies during the week too, held my hand to the movies or had his arm around me and paid for the tickets and popcorn. He did say about going for a meal afterwards but neither of us were hungry so decided to go back home. Over the week I don't think I've ever been kissed or hugged so much in my entire life, it was so nice just to be with him. Although one night we did end up having sex, but speaking to him the next day he said he felt bad and that he liked the idea of waiting to wait so felt guilty, which I thought was sweet. It was nice him having his arms around me just snuggling uip in bed and him calling me his girl and being really sweet. We spoke a lot and had a good laugh, he was the one that always seemed to initatite most things which was nice. He sent me cute texts before I went too, counting down the days, saying sweet things etc.The problem is, now I like him even more than I did before. I think he knows I like him, as Ive basically spelt it out to him before. When we first met he was unsure, and I remember him saying "I wasnt sure if you liked me either" as I was shy about kissing him etc. I really dont know what to do, obviously the distance is a problem, and that he may be joining the army next year, but theres just something about me that doesnt want to ask him whats going on. My friends are like "You may aswell go out". I was devastated when I left last week, I was in tears when I got home.. and now I just really miss him, want to be with him and love him to bits. I just dont know what to do, or even if he does like me but hes such a nice guy.. Does it sound like he geniunely likes me? What are your views on my situation?
BCCA Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Has he remained in contact with you the same way he was before you got went to see him? You may have to flat out ask him. Don't ever be affraid of answers, you'll get them now or you'll get them later. It's better to know where you stand now, and it's next to impossible to know where he's at or what he's thinking without asking. The distance/army thing could be a concern to him, but it could be a million other things, too. My advice, see if he contacts you, if/when he does, feel him out on the phone. If you feel like you have a good opportunity, ask him something simple like 'what do you see coming out of all this?' and see what he says. What do you really have to lose?
xpaperxcutx Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Are you guys still in contact and how much does he initiate? Feelings can change. A guy can be sweet around you one minute, but cold and distant when you're out of the picture.
Author BrokenSmile Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 Yeah, we often talk over messenger. I spoke to him the day after I left, he said that he really enjoyed the few days and that it was really nice. I said I missed him and he was like me too. He hasnt been online much, but I know thats because hes working a lot at the moment.
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