mm4184 Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 we broke up in september. after a month, started sleeping together then that stopped and then in december we slept together twice but no contact aside from when we were together and it was good. so i find out he's trying to talk to this girl i know that is a year younger than me and we went to HS and college together. we're not that close but i'm close to one of her best friends. supposedly it's friendly and she doesn't like him but he's the one pursuing. (and she's a total downgrade might i add) so NYE we were all at the same party. he didn't say happy new year to me until half an hour after when he saw me but my friend told me he even TEXTED the other girl and then when i was leaving i saw them talking. my friend keeps telling me she's just friendly and knows better than to do anything but i keep making stories up in my head that she's lying and she's seeing him etc. we still have to "exchange" christmas presents but it's been kinda weird between us lately. i don't know if he knows i know about that situation. but i really want to have our gift exchange and just let it go and go NC forreal this time but i want to tell him that i'd appreciate it if he was a little more considerate and would just leave me alone including trying to date people i know. just out of consideration and sympathy that i'm already hurting, just sacrifice a little and if he's going to date then date someone i don't know so i don't have to hear about it. i know i have no control but is that really a lot to ask? i'm just so frustrated and hurt and i wake up with chest pain and i'm so depressed. i need to get over this for the new year. i can't keep doing this to myself
Riffmeister General Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 You broke up in September. It's now January. Whichever way you look at it, he's kind of free to go after any girl he wants. It's tough, I know, and yes, in an ideal world, you'd never hear of him going out with someone else. Sadly, the world is smaller than you think and you'll find out sooner or later. In this case, if this girl's not interested in him, then why waste time worrying? Work the problem, don't make things worse by guessing the situation. If she's not interested (which is what you're told) he'll get sick of chasing after a while and just move onto someone else, whether you like it or not. He's moved on, and I think it's time you did too. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, I didn't mean it to. It's late, I'm tired and as you can probably guess from me being here, I have my own problems, but sometimes telling someone what they need to hear rather than what they want to hear is best. Chin up. It gets easier from here.
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