Joker77 Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 I decided that since it is a new year and I'm leaving my past behind me, I have decided to get back into the game. I joined a dating website. When she broke up with me, the ex told me not to wait for her, and nothing against her at all, I'm not. I don't want to waste my time pining for someone that probably won't ever come back anyways. Plus I want to find someone who will actually appreciate me for me. It's kind of scary for me because I've never done this before. I hope I'm not making a mistake.
EmperorR Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Doesn't hurt to give it a try. I did the same and I met a great girl that listened to all my rants about my ex when i thought I'd be pushing her away but I didn't and now were getting so closer.
Riffmeister General Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Good luck! Keep us in the loop, I've never done anything like that either, pretty brave decision!
Author Joker77 Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 Good luck! Keep us in the loop, I've never done anything like that either, pretty brave decision! Yeah I'm really hesitant about this, but I figure what the hell. I don't know why but I did a lot of thinking today about my ex and realized that yes I've known her for two years, but I didn't really know her. Also, we were together just short of six months. Not long enough to be feeling sorry for myself worrying about whether or not we are getting back together. She told me not to wait, so I'll take her at her word.
emotionalydistraugt Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Good luck man, We all deserve better than how we were treated. Find that girl who'll love you for you. Let us know how it goes man.
Riffmeister General Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Yeah I'm really hesitant about this, but I figure what the hell. I don't know why but I did a lot of thinking today about my ex and realized that yes I've known her for two years, but I didn't really know her. Also, we were together just short of six months. Not long enough to be feeling sorry for myself worrying about whether or not we are getting back together. She told me not to wait, so I'll take her at her word. You know, you're right. I knew my ex for 4 years, but in those 4 years there were massive periods of no contact (a year went past at one point) and most of the contact was email. Aside from when we were working together (when even then it was mostly email cos we worked in different offices and only met to make tea once a day for 5 minutes) we only got together a handful of times. Again like you, it was only 6 months together (long distance, again email, videocall 3-4 times a week). I look forward to having the same revelation!
Author Joker77 Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 You know, you're right. I knew my ex for 4 years, but in those 4 years there were massive periods of no contact (a year went past at one point) and most of the contact was email. Aside from when we were working together (when even then it was mostly email cos we worked in different offices and only met to make tea once a day for 5 minutes) we only got together a handful of times. Again like you, it was only 6 months together (long distance, again email, videocall 3-4 times a week). I look forward to having the same revelation! With my ex, I should have seen the signs very early on in the relationship. All she ever wanted to do was text. I hated it. Finally I just started calling her and then she would call me. Most of the time, it was texting. Next relationship I get into, it will not be a majority of texting. Pick up the damn phone and talk.
belladonna Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Yeah what is with that?? I hate texting all the time! Like sure just for a quick message here or there is fine, but having an actual conversation through texting is lame. Anyway, good luck Joker and have fun
You'reasian Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 With my ex, I should have seen the signs very early on in the relationship. All she ever wanted to do was text. I hated it. Finally I just started calling her and then she would call me. Most of the time, it was texting. Next relationship I get into, it will not be a majority of texting. Pick up the damn phone and talk. Love the user name
emotionalydistraugt Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 I think the fact that I don't have Text Messaging only hurt my relationship. But you guys are all right a relationship should be more than just texting. It should be phone calls, meetings, talking etc.
Author Joker77 Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 I think the fact that I don't have Text Messaging only hurt my relationship. But you guys are all right a relationship should be more than just texting. It should be phone calls, meetings, talking etc. Not having text messaging should not hurt a relationship ever. I think personal communication is the best form of communication. To me, texting most of the time to someone you supposedly love and care about tells me that the person doesn't have a lot of respect for you in the first place.
emotionalydistraugt Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 See I just see it as she texts everyone else soooo much that it became detrimental to our relationship. And after I found out she cheated I wondered whether or not she was texting him. I have made texting another reason as to why this happened
openbook08 Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Not having text messaging should not hurt a relationship ever. I think personal communication is the best form of communication. To me, texting most of the time to someone you supposedly love and care about tells me that the person doesn't have a lot of respect for you in the first place. Amen. dumped by text after 5years. good luck with your dating!! Id love to try that but where Im from I think its looked on as a bit of a joke & Id be too nervous of messers/imposters. Id never really feel comfortable as I think a lot of the profiles Ive viewed seem bogus 'one of the lads havin a laugh by settin his pal up on a dating site' no disrespect to you. and this is not how I feel. so go for it & let us know X
Sexy Kitty Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 With my ex, I should have seen the signs very early on in the relationship. All she ever wanted to do was text. I hated it. Finally I just started calling her and then she would call me. Most of the time, it was texting. Next relationship I get into, it will not be a majority of texting. Pick up the damn phone and talk. my ex before my most recent one used to be like that. he hardly called and would always txt or talk on msn. i hated it! im not a huge phone person either but I still like to talk on the phone when making plans and stuff etc...lol
northstar1 Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Yeah I'm really hesitant about this, but I figure what the hell. I don't know why but I did a lot of thinking today about my ex and realized that yes I've known her for two years, but I didn't really know her. Also, we were together just short of six months. Not long enough to be feeling sorry for myself worrying about whether or not we are getting back together. She told me not to wait, so I'll take her at her word. Good on ya dude. Life is too short to hang around on the small hope she'll come back. She's made her decision, let her deal with it.
Knight_Ctrl Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Not having text messaging should not hurt a relationship ever. I think personal communication is the best form of communication. To me, texting most of the time to someone you supposedly love and care about tells me that the person doesn't have a lot of respect for you in the first place. good luck bro. Also I really think texting actually helped ruin my relationship. If my girl wasn't texting this other guy so damn much I don't think they would have gotten as close and she wouldn't have left me for him.
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