lioness09 Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 I have been dating this guy for a year, he is black and I am white. We fell into a deeply passionate infatuation which led to love, but the relationship has always been rocky and tumultuous and now I am not feeling the love from him anymore. He told me yesterday that he loves me emphatically, but he hasn't wanted to see me in two weeks. Yesterday I ripped into him about the fact that I have to fight to get him to see me and he started using his charm on me to hook me back in. Yet again today he didn't want to see me. He said he wasn't feeling well and he has to clean his house and bla bla bla.... I can't stay mad at this guy, he is such a charmer and I love him so much. But the relationship has become very painful for me. I try to get out...i've broken it off with him about 10 times this year, but he keeps pulling me back in with his I love you, I don't want to lose you, your the best thing that's ever happened to me, I can't let you go because I'll never find anyone like you again....B.S. So #1, why would a guy tell you this crap if it's not true, and #2 how can I break up with him when I'm crazy about him. I have to end this cycle of pain!!! We work together and sit two cubicals away from one another which compounds the difficulty when it comes to breaking up!
whichwayisup Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 You may always love him, but it doesn't mean you two are good together. It sounds like an exhausting and dramatic relationship - And in all honesty, relationships should not be this hard, so take it as a sign that it's time to end it. BE strong and don't give into his advances..Tell him that it's for the best that you two walk away now before things go nasty.. Might want to think about changing departments, or asking for a transfer so you don't have to work so close to him..Maybe even find another job.
Author lioness09 Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 Was the man who says he loves you ringing in the New Year with you last night? Nope, he didn't even call me to wish me Happy New Year! He sent me a text.
Author lioness09 Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 I turned off my cell phone last night so that I wouldn't obsess about him. That way I won't know if he called or tried to text me. I refuse to contact him or even reply if he makes contact. I know that it's absolutely ridiculous for him to not want to see me, especially yesterday when we had tentative plans to get together and he was too tired and had to clean his house...did he honestly think that was an excuse that was acceptable???? He's a jerk and I'm throuroughly sick of hurting. Thank you for your replies it really helps to talk about it and get feed back from people to know I'm doing the right thing ending it with him.
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