kiki30 Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Hey Y'all, Question from a woman new to the dating game, okay so I met this guy recently we seemed to have some chemistry, similar sense of humour and what not. Over the course of a week, I started picking up some hints that he kinda liked me... etc... offering to get me coffee when I mentioned I needed a hot drink, friendly little hug after we all departed, sitting beside me a few times...then by the end of the week he casually asked me for number and mentioned that he'd call me or something. So, the holiday week goes by, I don't here from him until I check my phone today and noticed that he sent me a text like 3 in the morning, saying hi and that wishing me a happy new year and see you soon. At first, i figured oh wow someone had a few drinks considering it was 3 in the morning .... but i texted him back saying happy new year and wished him all the best as well. Now I'm wondering should i be flattered or turned off. I had not heard from him since he asked for my number it has actually been two weeks since he asked - then i get a text on new years morning... what to think?
zilverenvlinder Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Awww! He was probably just nervous and had to wait until he was shnockered to text you. He's probably shy. That's so cute. You should ask him to lunch or something.
kashmir Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Erm, 2 opposite views are going through me now. One hand, I feel like drunk texting is nothing and you should give the guy a break. On the other hand, I realize what it says about the guy. I mean, it WAS new year's, and even I got like 5 texts at midnight (not 3 am though), but a drunk text in general usually means a) the guy is looking for a booty call, b) the guy is too much of a wuss to call during the day, so he needs to do it at night so he can always use the excuse that he was drunk, or c) he's so god damn drunk that he doesn't even know what he's doing. Neither of those things are good. I used to drunk text, but I was never really that drunk now was I looking for a booty call or chicken. I honestly did it because I felt like I was too much of a square, so sending texts at 2 am would show that I'm doing something fun. Pretty stupid...
Author kiki30 Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 Hmmm. Given that he texted me at 3:30 in the morning and said in passing that he is usually pretty wasted every new years to me indicates that he was drunk. He also referred to me with a nick-name, considering we have only known each other for a bit, it was a little off. He was not completely out of his mind, but drunk enough to be texting someone he has yet to speak to over the phone at 3:00 ... if it was simply happy new years then i am positive that we would have sent me a message closer to midnight like most people do.... So in this way, it is a little confusing, I obviously crossed his mind whether it be a booty call, or just to chicken to call whatever.... geez why must guys do things like this?
sweetgirl99 Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 I think that he likes you. Yes, he may have been out partying and drinking to celebrate New Years, but he did in fact think of you to text. Sounds like he didnt have enough nerve to call you before (or text) and needed a little liquid courage in order to help him out. Next time you talk dont give him too hard a time about it, he may be a bit embarassed that he texted so late. Keep us posted!
Author kiki30 Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 hi sweetgirl, i will give an update for sure, thanks for responses everyone. My worst fear is that his sending a msg at that time may indicate that his interest in me is primarily sexual in nature, even though the content of the msg was not, hope he turns out to be good guy... to be continued
Enema Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 hah, you're reading wayyyyyy too much into this. A number of my friends sent "Happy new year" messages to everyone in their phone. Pretend this message doesn't exist.
CommitmentPhobe Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 It doesn't mean anything I had way too many p1ssed phone conversations/txts that night. Cmon seriously, he was drunk and probably happy and sent you a txt. That's what people do. That's all.
christian6 Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Don't take this too seriously, it doesn't mean much...yet.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 He might have sent it out at midnight and you did not receive it until 3 am. Recently I sent my friend a text around 8 pm and she got it at 1 am.
Author kiki30 Posted January 8, 2009 Author Posted January 8, 2009 I have to say i'm a little confused now. Since the new years text, this guy has made no effort to call me, or anything. I was pretty sure that the text at least meant that he was interested in me along with the other small things he was doing while he was sober. Could he be just embarassed, or playing it cool so i don't think he is creepy. I don't know what to make of this guy, I haven't seen him in person as yet, i might tomorrow. I guess that will be the test, another part of me thinks that i should just forget the whole thing. Can't deny that there seemed to be a little chemistry though... cripes
D-Lish Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 If he took your number and then waited a week to text you a drunken NYE message... then didn't respond when you answered him... It should say enough to forget about him. If he wanted to start a dialogue- he should have when you answered his text. Texting is a shy person's haven!
Miss Ting Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 Now I'm wondering should i be flattered or turned off. I had not heard from him since he asked for my number it has actually been two weeks since he asked - then i get a text on new years morning... what to think? Wow, you guys are a bunch of over analyzers! IT IS NOT THAT SERIOUS! What is in that to be turned off about? How do you even know he was drunk (granted, I would bet my money on him haven drunk that night, but still)? He thought of YOU at 3 in the morning! YOU! If he were drunk, he didn't send you anything lewd and offensive, JUST a New Years greeting! Stop being dramatic...be flattered that he even remembered you at that hour to say something nice. And so what that he waited to all the rush of the holiday to die down before sending you a text. He could be shy, he could've been crazy busy, it really doesn't matter...he remembered you.
Author kiki30 Posted February 16, 2009 Author Posted February 16, 2009 we started to date a bit, then found out that this ******* is in an 11 year relationship and was trying to make me the other women, guess my instincts weren't way off, i ddint have all the details but something about his texting 330 in the morning as his first form of communication, was actually communicating something much more about his character. thought i'd give an update
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