Knight_Ctrl Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 Just something I've been thinking about...You know I've been told a lot "it wasn't a waste, what you've had was real, just remember the happy times". That's what gets me "just remember the happy times" because as far as I've experienced after my breakup those happy memories are the ones that hurt the most. Especially given my circumstances of said breakup, now I cant just think of those happy times. I think of them and my mind immediately replaces myself with my douchebag friend who stole my girl. Now I have to imagine all of the things her and I did together...only her doing them with him...
hoartiosans Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 I feel just the same, every time I remember something we did together, I remember her dumping me, and immediately think of her with someone else doing the same things, me just a distant memory. All the times I've broken down, have come after happy memories. I don't want to remember the happy times.
Riffmeister General Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 Totally. I think you only remember them fondly when you're over them. I'm not sure trying to think fondly of the happy memories is very helpful. What is helpful is writing a list of positives that have come out of it. It's hard, I know, but I came up with a few yesterday, like my relationship with my parents is better, I can do things I wouldn't have before etc etc.
alwayssme Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 of course the happy times hurt...its perfectly normal...i guess people mean that "once you're over that person, just appreciate the good times you had" not while you're hurting..lol..while you're hurting think of the bad times!! lol
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