I think i just had the breakthrough every dumpee waits for

[blackrider27]

You know when you just get dumped, and you feel completely alone, and you just wish everything went back to normal, everything was the same with your ex, you were still back together, and you want to fight for that relationship again. Basically it's the stage you make before you go online and find out what no contact is the begging stage right?

 

Well the past 2 months i went on and off contact, still thinking my ex was the right girl for me. And i would still sometimes plead to get back together, and such.

 

Well, after the things she did this week, i am seriously laughing out loud on how stupid this girl is, and how much of a fool i was for believing she was the one, and believing i need her back. Because one, some of you know that she posted pictures of her with another guy (who seems to really like her cause he's like 24 and shes 17, you see the chemistry right?) And NOW she has all these pictures of her drunk at a party, hahahaha, i remember her not drinking.

 

But it seems i was holding her back from being the kind of person she hates, she's not cool, she thinks everyone likes her though i've talked to all her friends and they have a thing or 2 to say. She's just trying to be something she's not, and i cannot even think about dating her again because of the stupid ****ty person she is. The only sorrow i'm feeling right now, is that it's sad that she's not the sweet little girl i fell in love with anymore, and no guy is going to be able to see that.

 

But my breakthrough is that i really don't' need a girl like that. she's stupid for breaking up with me because i kept her being a good person and not some fake bitch. But now she is, she'll do anything for the "cool" kids to think she's "cool".

 

Well i hope she's proud that now she's a stupid fake backstabbing **** of a person, and now i pity any guy that dates her.

 

And all of the dumpees on the site, that just have been dumped by a cheater, or just a total bitch, you'll soon realise how great of a person you are, and how ****ty they are. And just watch as they're life falls apart (even if they think it's doing good for them like my ex) without you. And you'll have the breakthrough i'm having, and you'll pick up your feet and get out there and find the true one :]

thank you loveshack.org!

[MWH]

I know where you're coming from but...

 

Enjoy it today pal. Tomorrow or the next day you'll be missing her and feeling all sorts of sad again. Sorry to rain on your parade but that's how it goes. It's gonna be up and down, back and forth, for a while.

 

I am glad you're feeling better though!

 

Just hang in there, ride the waves, and move forward towards your new life!

[blackrider27]

I've had feelings like this before, but seriously, i prolly be missing her again, but i won't want to date her, i'm passed that stage.

 

Now i just have to know that that girl i feel in love with isn't in whatever they call my ex now. She's long gone.

 

I just think this is a big step for me

[MWH]

It IS a big step and I'm glad for you!

 

Growin' like a weed!

 

Funny, isn't it, how just one little realization can make such a profound difference?

 

Welcome to "acceptance".

[blackrider27]

yeah, i wish you guys could just see the person she was, and the person she is now. I'm sure you would be laughing too.

 

But i wish i could do something to prevent her from being the kind of person she and i both hate. Or maybe she's supposed to turn out that way:eek:

[MWH]

There ain't a damn thing you can do about HER. Keep thinking that there is something you can do, blah blah blah, and you'll be here cryin' the blues about how you broke n/c and she handed you your 'nads on a paper plate.

 

If you have a few hours I'll be glad to share with you all the things I did tring to "help" my ex. In then end she is just as disordered as she was when I met her but I'm a couple years older, a wee bit wiser, and, well, here I am trying to get my head screwed back on the right way.

 

If you really need to torture yourself by checking up on her then by all means enjoy the show. You will, eventually, see something that tears your guts out in a whole new kinda way. Not the pain you're feeling now but instead you WILL enter a whole new realm of pain.

 

Unplug from her now and look forward rather than back.

[blackrider27]

No i mean it kinda it just sucks how much she changed, and it's funny to me that all that bad stuff comes out when we break up.

 

As if she wanted to be that kind of person the whole time. I'm not gonna do any checking up on her, she want to be the kind of person everyone hates (including her friends who enjoy to say some **** about her) then she can go ahead, but i was the one to hold her back, and she stupidly gave that up. I hope she enjoys her new life. sounds like it works out doesn't it?

[EmperorR]

ah yep they hate so and so then they become it. My ex always used to talk about other girls calling them "sluts". One of our mutual friends met a guy and slept him the same night and my ex is like what a "slut" I don't respect her anymore.

 

My ex goes away for 2 weeks meets a guy and screws him 3 times. Comes back dumps me a week later is with another guy going over to his house to watch movies.

[Riffmeister General]

And all of the dumpees on the site, that just have been dumped by a cheater, or just a total bitch, you'll soon realise how great of a person you are, and how ****ty they are. And just watch as they're life falls apart (even if they think it's doing good for them like my ex) without you. And you'll have the breakthrough i'm having, and you'll pick up your feet and get out there and find the true one :]

 

This actually gave me a glimmer of hope this morning. It was only a glimmer, a brief feeling that yeah, this mantra can work for me, but then I relapsed a little. It's totally the right way to think, and I can see exactly how much it's going to help me in the future, but as MWH said, there'll be ups and downs, and being on day 6, it's a bit early for me to be feeling prolonged periods of relief.

 

I think that's the point tho. At this kind of stage, all you should expect from these nuggets of great advice is to get a glimpse of how they're going to help you in the future, a brief taster of how they'll make you feel. Don't be disappointed if reading them doesn't give you instant permanent gratification and then dismiss them because of it. Remember what that brief glimpse felt like, and imagine feeling like that for a day. Store them up. Write each one down as you come across it. Look forward to them giving you the epic boost they will when you're ready for it. I find the most useful advice on here is the self-revelation, because it's true and real, and not an objective "I've never been through THAT, but this is what I THINK I'd do in your situation..." (as useful as that can also be in changing your perceptions, it's important to point out!)

[DSM-IV Tom]

Emporer I am going to slap you at this point. Your sig says 2009 - Not looking back.

 

But read your post.

[blackrider27]

haha, let's not get violent, but i am planning on leaving everything about my ex behind in 2009 (cept for forgetting how to please a women;) I think i'll save that for later)

 

EmperorR I know you've been through a lot, and we all went through a lot in 2008, but it's time to move on and spend the new year with a new girl/guy, and that's what i plan on doing this year.

 

Theres another out there for everyone, Or else we wouldn't have lost our ex, everyone always has to remember that, and that's what should keep our heads high