BubblyPopcorn Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 My point was if you're going to hop into bed and get it on in front of strangers, don't expect to be valued by the guy as a serious prospect and expect that he will call. (in the other thread) The point is the same here. If you're going to make out with strangers by putting it out there, what is the difference between that and her kissing two guys in one night that she didn't even know? None. I'm saying if you're going to be intimate with strangers in front of all, don't expect your date to exhibit puritanical behavior, either. Pot/kettle, you get it. Ahh, I see. Apples and Oranges, Potato Po'ta'toe
sweetgirl99 Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 From a girls perspective..I think her behavior sounds kinda trashy. On top of that she was probably really drunk. I'm not going to judge this girl because "to each their own" but classy girls do not behave like that. Its one thing to meet someone and hit it off at a party, but to publicly makeout with two "strangers" with in such a small amount of time is just plain tacky. Maybe she was drunk and having a good time, but do you really want to date a girl like that?
D-Lish Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 D-Lish, I can get a guy 9 years younger than myself to bed me, too. Sorry, this is not a really amazing accomplishment. Neither is making out with women in the street. Having a career and not having to live at home with parents when you're pushing 40 really isn't an amazing accomplishment, either, but you can't manage to do that! Well- you haven't kept up with my story then? About the new job, and move, etc? read up?.... things are looking up again!? Maybe? And I still LOVE younger men- and sometimes women too. MMMM I don't look at it as an accomlishment as much as a "right".... know what I mean? This post is about ROD- not your stalking.
Trimmer Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Now isn't it time to go to bed, D-Lish, won't your parents be mad if you don't get to beddy-bye soon, hon? I'd be worrying more about getting a job than on this board wasting time if I were you!!! If I were your age and had to live with parents and not able to support myself, I would be scared crapless!!! It's not like your 26, you're almost 40 and what do you have to show for it??? Living at home, unsuccessful careerwise, worrying about young men and cougering....may 2009 bring you luck, D-Lish! LOL, I knew it was you Petra... Just checking. P.S. I LOVE cougaring. do you guys know each other? sounds like there's some kind of personal grudge going on here Sometimes a poster will create a new account with a new screen name and come on as a "new member" and stir the yogurt, for whatever reason... Sometimes you can tell because they have a chip on their shoulder, and although they may have just "joined" in the last day or so, they have an incredible familiarity with the community, have already established strong opinons, and seem to have built up oddly antagonistic histories with certain members in that very short time, etc... Rod - if you're going to get to know her socially, without "going after" her romantically, then maybe you'll get a better sense of who she is and what she's about. It will be interesting to see who she turns out to be "in the light of day..."
CommitmentPhobe Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 My point was if you're going to hop into bed and get it on in front of strangers, don't expect to be valued by the guy as a serious prospect and expect that he will call. (in the other thread) The point is the same here. If you're going to make out with strangers by putting it out there, what is the difference between that and her kissing two guys in one night that she didn't even know? None. I'm saying if you're going to be intimate with strangers in front of all, don't expect your date to exhibit puritanical behavior, either. Pot/kettle, you get it. Having a cheeky snog with someone you just met "in public" has nothing to with dating material potential or whatever, it's just some fun. And from your perspective i'd probably rot in hell for my new years behaviour.
Bells Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 After a while of dancing we started making out.And this is called "Chemistry"? LOL Funny, you start making out with a girl you JUST met and you call it Chemistry? It's lust...not chemistry. Funny, there was this woman friend that kind wanted to introduce me to her friend that was single....she wound up making out with some strange bar patron on the dancefloor. And she was wanting to take things slow? A little late for that isn't it??
OpenBook Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 And this is called "Chemistry"? LOL Funny, you start making out with a girl you JUST met and you call it Chemistry? It's lust...not chemistry. Funny, there was this woman friend that kind wanted to introduce me to her friend that was single....she wound up making out with some strange bar patron on the dancefloor. And she was wanting to take things slow? A little late for that isn't it?? Actually, chemistry IS lust - or at least contains elements of it. They're intercommingled. You sound miffed that your bar chick didn't go for you. C'mon! It doesn't mean anything! People just out having a good time.
CommitmentPhobe Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 And she was wanting to take things slow? A little late for that isn't it?? lol it's a good point actually Though Rod, how did you get into that "taking things slow" conversation so quickly?
Author rod_in_gtown Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 lol it's a good point actually Though Rod, how did you get into that "taking things slow" conversation so quickly? I too agree. A little late for that. That part of the conversation kind of spontaneously occurred in the middle of the dance floor. We were dancing after having kissed, and after taking a couple of "party pictures" (self taken portraits with her digital camera) she turned to me and said: "I have to be honest, I just got out of a relationship and I'm looking to meet a good guy, someone who will take it REALLY slow, and I don't know if you're a good guy but I want to get to know you better" she then asked me for my number and proceeded to call it to make sure I had hers. Then told me: "PLEASE call me, I want to get to know you" The whole make-out definition is too vague and I feel some of you may be making it a lot more vulgar than what it was. We had a few of 5-second kisses, a couple of short neck kisses and that was it.
D-Lish Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Having a cheeky snog with someone you just met "in public" has nothing to with dating material potential or whatever, it's just some fun. And from your perspective i'd probably rot in hell for my new years behaviour. Ohhhh- do tell CP! And it was a familiar troll... and she'll be back! Is probably already here under a different peronality.SO, if you've participated in this thread and she feels offended by you... you'll know in the future when you get some random cyber smack in response to your posts out of nowhere... Rod- When are the two of you planning on hanging out? If anything else- it creates a larger friend group, so that means a bigger dating pool as well! See how it goes though. And as I said- making a judgment call about a person on NYE, when they are whacked on booze and just out of a relationship? Nah- it means very little! I am very tired today Roddy-G!!
Author rod_in_gtown Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 Ohhhh- do tell CP! And it was a familiar troll... and she'll be back! Is probably already here under a different peronality.SO, if you've participated in this thread and she feels offended by you... you'll know in the future when you get some random cyber smack in response to your posts out of nowhere... Rod- When are the two of you planning on hanging out? If anything else- it creates a larger friend group, so that means a bigger dating pool as well! See how it goes though. And as I said- making a judgment call about a person on NYE, when they are whacked on booze and just out of a relationship? Nah- it means very little! I am very tired today Roddy-G!! I haven't called her yet. I said I would today so if I'm going to do it I have to do it in the next few hours, it's all about getting over that awkwardness of "hi, we were drunk, now we're sober, sooooooooooo, how are you?". I'll post if and when we do get together. PS, yeah... very tired indeed too.
Author rod_in_gtown Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 Rod- When are the two of you planning on hanging out? If anything else- it creates a larger friend group, so that means a bigger dating pool as well! See how it goes though. And as I said- making a judgment call about a person on NYE, when they are whacked on booze and just out of a relationship? Nah- it means very little! We're hanging out on Sunday, she has some friends who play and dance flamenco and she wants me to go with her. I think we'll grab a bite to eat and then head on over there. Sounds fun enough and not too "datish"
Star Gazer Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 We're hanging out on Sunday, she has some friends who play and dance flamenco and she wants me to go with her. I think we'll grab a bite to eat and then head on over there. Sounds fun enough and not too "datish" I don't like the sounds of this, to be honest. Making out after meeting while drunk, followed up by "hanging out" and nothing "too datish" is a recipe for FWB. If that's what you want, great. But methinks you're looking for something "real." "Real" begins by setting a certain courting standard. This is already way off path from that.
Author rod_in_gtown Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 I don't like the sounds of this, to be honest. Making out after meeting while drunk, followed up by "hanging out" and nothing "too datish" is a recipe for FWB. If that's what you want, great. But methinks you're looking for something "real." "Real" begins by setting a certain courting standard. This is already way off path from that. You're absolutely right, I'm looking for something real, I'm not going to "date" this woman, but after talking to her on the phone she seems nice enough to have a friend, and I don't really have many single female friends, most of my female friends are married or in serious relationships so it's nice to have someone to hang out and do things without a significant other reminding you that you're single. I've down the FWB path and it has bit me in the ass so I'm pretty sure I won't go that direction.
Star Gazer Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 You don't want to date her, yet you've made out with her and were pretty excited about her before your buddy filled you in on some other details. You don't need more female friends, Rod. No one NEEDS platonic friends of the opposite sex. Don't lie to me. More importantly, don't lie to yourself. You can find quality friends - whatever their gender - through other means. This will only cause drama.
Jilly Bean Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Rod, why would you even want to be friends with such trash? She sounds like one hot mess, and I think you're buying yourself a whole boat load of drama. OR, are you just hoping to bed her as then it might nullify her making out with the other dude right before you which invalidated her "attraction and chemistry" for you? I say filter this one out, hon.
BubblyPopcorn Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 I don’t see how this can remain a platonic friendship given what you’ve posted. You’ve kissed, there was a level of chemistry between the two of you and this was only a few days ago. The dynamics formed and were in place naturally from the onset. Like SG mentioned, no one really “needs” platonic friends of the opposite sex and in most cases, they end up becoming acquaintances versus anything else. If you aren’t interested in dating her but if she has any interest in dating you or is physically or emotionally attracted to you in any way, then this will result in nothing but “drama”, so best to avoid it altogether.
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Sounds like she was looking for an ego boost.
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