kashmir Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 Now and then I like to reflect on my past actions to maybe see what I did wrong. Tonight was lame...if you can't tell by me posting at 1 AM. I went to 2 parties. 1 was a total sasuagefest and the other was out of control. Anyway, despite the first one being a sasuagefest, 1 cute girl seemed interested in me. We exchanged looks, smiles, she did the nervous "hi" when we held eye contact long enough. I approached her. Awesome, I did the hardest part. She lost interest though. It was obvious. She made an excuse to get away and then ignored me from then on. I didn't say anything offensive. I just told her about myself when she asked, asked about her, seemed interested and WAS actually interested. I don't really understand what happened. I was being myself. What could I have done to turn her away? I'm not asking this out of frustration, just curiosity to learn from. She's going away to California in a week so nothing would have come of this girl anyway. Let me propose 1 thing. I talk well...like, I'm a clever and elaborate speaker, but I don't flirt. Nothing I say is flirty. I'm not sure how to describe what I do, but I guarantee if you name something flirty then I probably don't do it. Do girls get frustrated by this? Do they EXPECT the guy to say and do flirty stuff? And what kind of stuff can I do to flirt? Seriously, I'm stumped. Anyway, New's Years sucked this year...but I've still got the Honeymooners marathon to look forward to, lol!
xpaperxcutx Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 Kashmir that's just sad... Forget the girl, everybody gets hits and misses. There will always be people who are attracted to you and others who won't even acknowledge you.
Author kashmir Posted January 1, 2009 Author Posted January 1, 2009 I'm not sure I understand, what's so sad? You know, I don't mean to be a jerk blaming other people, but now that I think back to it I think that was the case. See, I was with these 3 other guys...only 1 of them I knew and the other 2 were his friends from back home. Right from the start I was getting a embarrassed. When we were walking to the place these girls crossed the street and started walking in front of us. Right away these guys started hit on them, but in such a creepy way. Constantly asking where they were going, if they were cold in their skirts, etc. It was so evident that these girls were really uncomfortable. I mean, it's fine to say hi and be friendly, but these guys were just being creepy. One girl even said something like, "I don't like to talk to people I don't know" and they still kept at it. I felt so embarrassed, so I separated myself from them and told them to follow me a different way to get away from those girls, but they still wouldn't leave them alone. That was just the beginning. At the party they were doing similar stuff. When I was talking to that one girl, first one of them came up and started talking to me while she was looking up something on her phone to show me. While I was waiting I was talking to him for a bit, but once she found what she was looking for I went back to her. He said something snippy like, "Oh, so you're just going to interupt me while I was talking to kashmir." Then the other two came over and they swarmed around this girl. She got out of it and motioned for me to follow her, but they followed us and kept interrupting. It was soon after then that she left and eventually left the party. I don't know what I was thinking last night when I wrote this post. This shows how I'm too critical of myself and tend to blame myself before anything else. I needed some time to realize how these guys screwed things up. They were also really drunk and really horny, and it's never good to be around really drunk and horny guys. We were watching TV prior to leaving and they were constantly commenting on was women's breasts. I mean, all guys do that to some extent when they're around other guys...see a woman and say she's hot, but these guys were just over-doing it.
Author kashmir Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 Let me note that this post has absolutely nothing to do with the previous topic, but it's a reflection nonetheless, so I felt it fit in here. I once said that sometimes I just like to write down my thoughts and put them on here, just as an update on me for anyone who cares. Anyway, I thought back to all the girls I've gone for, and I have to say that looking back, the path is ahead clearer, and I'm also proud of myself. It seems to be a trend that I've been more successful with girls who I showed more initiative for. These were also girls who were attracted to me but showed minimal signs, or at least no signs that I noticed. In other words, it was mostly my own will that started things, not the beckoning of a girl. Most of the girls I've encountered have beckoned me a lot, or just outright approached me. Besides one really aggressive one, they all went nowhere. I almost feel like they were deceiving me just to get an ego boost. Before school ended, I saw this girl that I approached in the dining hall last spring. She might have given me a look and a friendly smile, but I told myself that I've gotta approach that girl and I did. We talked for 10 minutes and then she mentioned a boyfriend. Anyway, back to a few weeks ago, I saw this girl for the first time since then. I was shocked. I'm not kidding when I say that she's the most beautiful woman I've ever seen, more than movie stars or anyone else I've ever seen. Then I realized, "Last spring, I approached and acted cool (with my foamy latte in hand ) with the hottest female I've ever seen. Wow, if I can do that with HER, I can do it with anyone." Unfortunately, not as many girls were as friendly or as approachable as her. Looks don't intimidate me, but rather their manner and facial expressions. If she looks like she would bite my head off for approaching her, then I don't want to get near her. But hey, at least I know I can approach the hottest woman I've ever seen, assuming she's got a smile on.
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