lofi_tokyo Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 I remember in the first week of my breakup with my ex (sept 4th), I did some counting and I did some projections. He left me for someone else. How long could they last? Lets say 6 months to be nice. So in Feb. he'd come crawling back. Then I thought, okay but maybe 8 months. So April... which is good - school would be over by then! Still, even while I was making all these guesses on when he COULD come back, I kind of knew I was kidding myself. I knew I couldn't wait on him - not 8 months, not 6, not 3... I shouldn't be waiting at all. So I set a more important deadline: Be over that ex by 2009. At the time, almost four months ago now, that seemed impossible. How could I make it to JANUARY 2009, when I was caught in a horrible horrible September? Well. I've met my goal, but not without great difficulty. I'm over my ex, I don't want him back, I'm not grieving the loss anymore. This time last year I was at his house drinking champagne with his parents, running around the house turning on all the lights and doing crazy Fung Shui stuff for the new year. In some ways, it seems like just yesterday we were doing really well, but in fact, at was a year ago. I'm not sad, I'm not regretful, I'm not indifferent, I'm just me, enjoying the end of an old year that was incredibly fun (despite heartbreak), and looking forwards to a promising 2009. Sorry this thread is super self-centered! Its more of my personal thoughts than anything else. Happy 2009 everyone! I hope it will be one where all of you can make happy memories, and I hope each of you can find some good to hold onto that happened in 2008 - even disaster can lead to wonderful things!
Eyeofthoth Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 congrats tokyo - I wish I was doing that well. Almost 7 months for me and I still want him back! Some days I think there is something wrong with me to feel like this. Other days I think he was just the love of my life and so it is normal to feel like this . . . I'm going on with my life in every way I should, but . . . I just still want him back. Anyway . . . that is my self-centered contribution to your self-centered thread Happy New Year and here's to a GREAT 2009!
EmperorR Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 Congrats tokyo, its 09 i'm doing the same, putting my ex behind me. Happy new years
Ratherunique Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 Happy New Year...........I am still deeply saddened, but its tiime to move on.
CherishG Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 Tokyo, very glad to see you've reached that point of not caring about the ex! long time no talk ! Wishing you a much deserved Happy 2009! love n kisses, cherish
darnay Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 Hey TokyoVogue, that's great news, i'm stoked for you! My ex dumped me for the second time in August just after I had major surgery on my back. I set my goal to be back fully fit by Jan 1st and hopefully over him. Well here I am and i'm back to full health, my back has never been better. Am I over my ex? Well I've been NC for 3 months now, he's contacted me asking for forgiveness but i've never replied. I did have the urge to send him a forgiving text or phonecall over Christmas but thought what's the point. He has to forgive himself, it's not for me to forgive him. I'm done with him and his games.. A new life beckons and i'm up for it!
MalachiX Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 Good for you Tokyo. My Ex and I broke up in February after 2 1/2 years together. I think I've gotten to the point where I'm over her as far as the relationship goes but I do realize I'm still a lot more hesitant at getting into a relationship then I was when we first met. Perhaps you don't ever quite get over the loss of the first person you said, "I love you to." Still, I'm just happy I made progress.
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