sonofhud Posted September 18, 2003 Posted September 18, 2003 My g/f said something along the lines of "can we get married" the other day. I kinda just shrugged it off, but we did kinda get into a discussion about "what if". Is this a topic that I should try to stay away from? Is she just kinda joking around?
moimeme Posted September 18, 2003 Posted September 18, 2003 Some girls might. Some guys might. My ex did. He used to ask what I'd answer if he asked me to marry him. My reply was 'ask me and I'll tell you'. Eventually he did LOL.
HokeyReligions Posted September 18, 2003 Posted September 18, 2003 My husband and I did bring it up casually in conversations when we were dating. I knew that I would marry him - but he didn't know it yet so we joked about it. It got him used to the idea of getting married and put the thought in his head to ask me. I know that sounds manipulative - but it wasn't that way at all and neither of us has any regrets and we've been together a couple of decades. We both knew we were right for each other (I knew the first day we met - but we dated for a couple of years to make sure, and he didn't officially ask me until we'd been together a year and a half) She may be trying out the idea for herself. If you absolutly don't want to get married that is something you may want to discuss. If you think that someday you may want to marry her - well that you need to discuss too. But I would wait a while and see how often the "M" word comes up in conversation and what kind of conversation it is. When you feel the time is right, communicate!
cindy0039 Posted September 18, 2003 Posted September 18, 2003 Originally posted by sonofhud My g/f said something along the lines of "can we get married" the other day. I kinda just shrugged it off, but we did kinda get into a discussion about "what if". Is this a topic that I should try to stay away from? Is she just kinda joking around? She might be just testing the waters to see what you'll say. At your age I would definitely laugh it off or say something like, "Yeah, maybe in five or ten years" (if you're serious about her). You're probably both too young to be considering marriage. Didn't you say you're 20? You have college to finish and a life to start before thinking about any of that. Enjoy your freedom while you're young before settling down for good. Just my advice.
Author sonofhud Posted September 18, 2003 Author Posted September 18, 2003 Yah I know, and I will not get married until I have real job and I am out of college. I have made that commitment to myself to prevent any kind of financial problems. I am by no means saying that it couldnt happen down the road. Its kinda weird how different we are, yet how happy we are together and how well we get along with each other as well as our families.
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