oxy_yuna Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years and 7months when i got inlove with my crush in school.let's name my boyfriend as D.A and my crush as PAn.well, i dont intend pan to be my husband for life..i just did like him..i broke up with D.a. whom i had a long distance ralationship..but since i had a new guy who is near me, i misthought that i love him..i have even thought to replace D.A..Pan and I had good times together that even reached to a point where we had made love..for a month .but pan's ex-girlfriend chased him..told him that she was pregnant..and that she needs him back..what can i do..i gave pan back to her because i dont want that child to be a bastard..i still have my conscience..ive been broken..i could always see that girl with pan at school..im hurting inside to see what's going on with them..and poor me..i had taken for granted my 3-year boyfriend..at this point of my life..i had realized..how much he love me..he even beg for me not to leave..but still i did...that same time when pan and I had been in our relationship, my relatives knew it..they were not for pan..because they knew D.A had loved me more..and he has been in the family for 3 years..no one likes pan in the family but i fought for him..thinking he would too..and at that same month..D.A and i were still texting..i dont want to lose him too..im kinda torn between two lovers..ive been scolded by my parents and relatives..any words that they can utter just to plant in my mind to leave pan and be back with D.a..then there came a time,that i had realized what i have done..i apologized to d.a and asked him if we could start all over again..for few weeks weve been happy..the love that we had was back..until one night..i decided to tell him evrything that happened when we broke up..i told him that i had that one night stand with pan..he got furious!he cant take it..i had given myself for just a month to a person whom i doesnt knew for so long..i know it will hurt him..but as for me..i just wanted him to know everything what had happened..i dont want to be secretive..i told him evry pieces..now he's mad at me..he's not even afraid of losing me..i know its my fault..i should have not done that..i shoudl have been faithful to him..he said..he still love me..but not as the same as it was before..and i can feel it..he;s kinda cold to me..and i cant stand the pain..i love him and i dont wanna lose him..im been very sorry for evrything..but the trust he got for me was lost..and is now difficult to win..what should i do?.. im desperately in need..i want him to be my man until my last breath...i dont want to lose him....help!
lofi_tokyo Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 If Pan had stayed with you, would you even be thinking twice about your exboyfriend? I think thats something to consider. You took a gamble and lost, and now you want your chips back, don't we all? Give yourself to detoxify from needing love. Maybe you'll find out neither man was right for you. If you left your ex because you were looking at other men, there was clearly something wrong.
lovehim4ever Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 If you want him forever, you must let him go for now. Give him space. A lot has gone on and I'm sure it's been hard for him to take in. Begging for him to come back right now is only gonna make things worse. Here's a youtube video that could help you get him back http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TjJzA0Dz1Ok
LostNLonely Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Look inside and fix what's broken. Leave d.a. and pan alone, no contact whatsoever. Take a year off from dating. Your damaged goods until you can figure out why you cheat.
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