saturnfell Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 Hi, I have plans to see my ex on Sunday. I'm not sure whether or not I should go. To be honest, in a way, I'm upset and hurt that I have to wait until Sunday to see him, but on the other hand... I should be happy I even get the opportunity, right? I can be rational, but then I change my mind. We broke up for a variety of reasons. I still care for him, and he still leaves the hall light on for me sometimes. We have some things we would absolutely need to work through, I'll be the first to admit that. He wants to take things slow and see what happens. I don't know what to do. If I followed my heart, I would go. I'm so afraid though, a part of me wants to run screaming in the other direction because I cannot even think about going through the pain I went through again. However, is it worth it? Is it worth the chance? Absolutely, I think.
Helioz Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 I would say go for, you only live once right. Hell, pain is just the seasoning to that feeling of being alive. Id say you go for it but not over expecting much, dont get your hopes up too high. Then if you dont, youll be wondering "What IF" I guess pick which ever bugs your mind less...or maybe its all horrible advice. Hell, id go if my ex wanted to meet up.
Tinkerbelll Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 I would go only as I am sure I can handle the situation, which seems not to be the case..
BCCA Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 I think its worth a shot. Why not see what happens, you really do only live once. Better to know for sure than to always wonder.
LexD Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 yep, think about how you will feel if you don't- would you have that constant nagging thought of "what if..."? if so, then you should go.
Author saturnfell Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 I actually ended up seeing him yesterday. We're taking it slow and seeing what happens. It was so wonderful to see him, and so difficult to not talk about everything that was running through my mind, but I didn't. I didn't talk about it because this is an opportunity I don't want to ruin. I just want to take it slow. What's your take on the situation? He's a great guy, and I think we're both weary and just treading with caution.
BikerBeagle Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 I'd need a little more information ...did he actually say the words, "we are back together" or any variation of that statement that makes you believe you are? I'm more than a little concerned here that you are inviting him to use you ...for sex (not sure if you are even having sex), but most certainly for those moments when he can't find someone else and he's feeling a little lonely, etc. That's a rollercoaster ride you aren't going to have a fun time riding.
birdie Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 I actually ended up seeing him yesterday. We're taking it slow and seeing what happens. It was so wonderful to see him, and so difficult to not talk about everything that was running through my mind, but I didn't. I didn't talk about it because this is an opportunity I don't want to ruin. I just want to take it slow. What's your take on the situation? He's a great guy, and I think we're both weary and just treading with caution. just keep your cool girl and take babysteps. with time make sure your differences are dealt with but wait until the time is right. make sure you both enjoy eachothers company a lot. good luck
Author saturnfell Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 I'd need a little more information ...did he actually say the words, "we are back together" or any variation of that statement that makes you believe you are? I'm more than a little concerned here that you are inviting him to use you ...for sex (not sure if you are even having sex), but most certainly for those moments when he can't find someone else and he's feeling a little lonely, etc. That's a rollercoaster ride you aren't going to have a fun time riding. To answer you question, our agreement is as follows: we are going to spend time together, take it slow and see what materializes. Please understand, I made a lot of mistakes in the relationship. So, as much as I hate hearing the phrase "take it slow" I know I just need to be patient. I understand the concern about sex, but with us: it's not about the sex.
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