pr1970 Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Hello, Well its almost New Years and I am feeling really blue right now.. It all started with a girl i met on myspace about 2.5 years ago. She lives in Brazil in a small town called Parnaiba. Its pretty hard to live there , but anyways we have spent in that time period a total of 3 months together due to me being an american and the visa only allows me to stay for up to 3 months. I have been back now in the states for about 6 months and we have still kept in contact everyday. I use to call her 3 times a day and sometimes a little more but then she got bothered by it and now its down to 1 time a day. Which is actually good with me it saves me money. Fast forward ahead to Christmas eve she calls me and its the best conversation I can remember. She talked about how much she loved me and wants to have a child with me and can't wait to get married. Oh yes we are planning on getting married when I get back. I have been planning to get back there in June so we can go on with our lives. But yesterday I tried calling and she wasn't home at our time that we had set for . I guess she had gone out with her sister to do her hair and all the stores where really busy due to the new year. I spoke with her mother which also lives there with her. Since yesterday I haven't heard from her and its now going on 630pm and I still havent heard anything yet. I called twice today and no answer. I know she has a lot on her plate as far as her mother, sister, brother, and brothers son that lives there as well. We had some romantic moments and she tells me everyday she loves me. I don't know maybe its me being me. It just annoys me that the one time I can call she is not there. I work during the day and when I get home all i can think of is her. I really miss her a lot not talking with her these last going on the 2nd night. I was told not to call her and let her call me. Any advice out there?
LikeCharlotte Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 First, Who told you to "let here call you"? Unless that came from her mouth those words are not valid. Nobody knows what is between you but you and her. Don't let other people dictate your relationship. There is nothing wrong with missing someone or being concerned when you haven't spoken. When you care for someone you should be invested enough to want to know if they are okay and try to make time for them. I think that you should try to not be angry with her when she cannot keep an appointment to talk. It can be very difficult finding time to set aside to speak with you especially if there is a major time difference. Sometimes it just isn't going to work out the way you planned and although you can feel disappointed it isn't reasonable to be angry with her. This happens with every relationship of any kind - even professional ones. I know that it is harder because you look forward to that time much more than you look forward to other meetings but try to keep it in perspective. It's just a couple days over the course of a lifetime. You will speak again and if she is a decent woman she will tell you if she's lost interest or is finding it difficult to continue on. Don't worry - as long as you know she is ok.
Author pr1970 Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 Thank you for the words LikeCharlotte I appreciated it. As a matter of fact I broke down and called today. We spoke for a while on the phone and it was the longest we had spoken in a while but it was all good. I tell you long distance relationships are the hardest thing i have come upon. I have been in two other ldr that didn't work but this is the longest one I have been in. The last ones lasted about 7 months if I remember right. This one is going on 3 years which we have just celebrated our third one today. By the way happy new year.
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