BCCA Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 So, I met someone on my way to work the other day, we hit it off pretty well, and exchanged numbers. I called her last night, which was the next day after meeting her, and no answer/call back. I didnt leave my number again, because I figured she had it, and I dont want to kid myself into thinking thats the reason she hasnt called back. Is this normal? Should I give it a few days and call again? She seemed really interested, but perhaps not?
D-Lish Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I'd give it some more time. With today being NYE, she may be busy and might wait to call back. It's not even been 24 hours, so I'd just be patient.
kashmir Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Yeahhhhh...I'd say she's flaking on you. Forget her.
Trialbyfire Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Did she give you her cell phone number or land-line?
Author BCCA Posted December 31, 2008 Author Posted December 31, 2008 Did she give you her cell phone number or land-line? She gave me her cell, then had me call her right then so she had my number as well. I don't understand why she would give me her number if her intention was to flake, but I suppose thats an option. I'll give it a few days for sure, but I'm wondering if I should try again tomorrow or Friday if I dont hear from her.
kashmir Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 She gave me her cell, then had me call her right then so she had my number as well. I don't understand why she would give me her number if her intention was to flake, but I suppose thats an option. I'll give it a few days for sure, but I'm wondering if I should try again tomorrow or Friday if I dont hear from her. They do it because they're too timid to turn you down face-to-face, so they give you their real number but never intend to answer your calls or texts. It's kinda annoying because it would be nice if a girl giving you her number actually meant something positive, but you've just gotta keep digging deeper to maybe find some positive feedback.
Author BCCA Posted December 31, 2008 Author Posted December 31, 2008 What message did you leave with her? I just said, Hi X it's X, I just called to say hi and see what you were up to. Just give me a call back whenever you get a chance, talk to you later. Thats not verbatim, but something pretty close. Kashmir, I appreciate the advice, but honestly man, Im not looking for anything positive. I was looking for answers just like the one you gave.
Trialbyfire Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I just said, Hi X it's X, I just called to say hi and see what you were up to. Just give me a call back whenever you get a chance, talk to you later. Thats not verbatim, but something pretty close. Kashmir, I appreciate the advice, but honestly man, Im not looking for anything positive. I was looking for answers just like the one you gave. It sounds like you were looking for a New Year's Eve date. Was this your intent?
Author BCCA Posted December 31, 2008 Author Posted December 31, 2008 It sounds like you were looking for a New Year's Eve date. Was this your intent? No, not at all actually. I wanted to hang out this weekend, but I didnt want to call Friday as ask what she was doing the next day. Should I have mentioned this weekend in my call? I just thought it was kinda wussy to sort of ask her out over a voicemail haha
Sears Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 So, I met someone on my way to work the other day, we hit it off pretty well, and exchanged numbers. I called her last night, which was the next day after meeting her, and no answer/call back. I didnt leave my number again, because I figured she had it, and I dont want to kid myself into thinking thats the reason she hasnt called back. Is this normal? Should I give it a few days and call again? She seemed really interested, but perhaps not? I'm more inclined to believe it's New Year Eve more than anything else. You just met this lady. You can't expect her to give you priority over things she had going on or planned the day before you met. Or she could be going by rule #5 from the book of rules as listed below · 01: Be a “Creature” Unlike Any Other · 02: Don't Talk to a Man First (and Don't Ask Him to Dance) · 03: Don't Stare at Men or Talk Too Much · 04: Don't Meet Him Halfway or Go Dutch on a Date · 05: Don't Call Him & Rarely Return His Calls · 06: Always End Phone Calls and dates First · 07: Don't Accept a Saturday Night Date after Wednesday · 08: Fill Up Your Time before the Date · 09: How to Act on Dates 1,2, & 3 End the date first especially if you like him. · 10: How to Act on Dates 4 through Commitment Time · 11: Always end the date first · 12: Stop Dating Him if He Doesn't Buy You a Romantic Gift for Your Birthday or Valentine's Day · 13: Don’t See Him More than Once or Twice a Week · 14: No More than Casual Kissing on the First Date · 15: Don't Rush into Sex & Other Rules for Intimacy · 16: Don't Tell Him What to Do · 17: Let Him Take the Lead · 18: Don't Expect a Man to Change or Try to Change Him · 19: Don’t Open Up Too Fast · 20: Be Honest but Mysterious[ · 21: Accentuate the Positive & Other Rules for Personal Ads · 22: Don’t Live with a Man (or Leave Your Things in His Apartment) · 23: Don't Date a Married Man · 24: Slowly Involve Him in Your Family & Other Rules for Women with Children · 25: Practice, Practice, Practice! (or, Getting Good at The Rules) · 26: Even if You're Engaged or Married, You Still Need The Rules · 27: Do The Rules, Even when Your Friends & Parents Think It's Nuts · 28: Be Smart and Other Rules for Dating in High School · 29: Take Care of Yourself and Other Rules for Dating in College · 30: NEXT! & Other Rules for Dealing with Rejection · 31: Don't Discuss The Rules with Your Therapist. · 32: Rules May Be Pulled Out of Thin Air If the Situation Requires · 33: Do The Rules and You’ll Live Happily Ever After! · 34: Love Only Those Who Love You · 35: Be Easy to Live With ·
kashmir Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 It sounds like you were looking for a New Year's Eve date. Was this your intent? How did it sound like he was looking for an instant date? He was just asking what she was up to. It's synonymous with asking 'how are you?' or any other friendly bull**** opening small talk question. And that list is mostly retarded.
Sears Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 How did it sound like he was looking for an instant date? He was just asking what she was up to. It's synonymous with asking 'how are you?' or any other friendly bull**** opening small talk question. And that list is mostly retarded. Retarded or not this book sold millions of copies and I'm sure there are plenty of women who go by it. It's the holidays with plenty of things to do. Most likely she's getting together and ready to hang out with family and/or friends...
kashmir Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 Well then a lot of women are retarded too. =p Seriously, "rarely return his calls?" WTF. I can understand not initiating calls, but that's ridiculous. And always end the date first especially if you like him? Way to play games.
Author BCCA Posted January 1, 2009 Author Posted January 1, 2009 Well then a lot of women are retarded too. =p Seriously, "rarely return his calls?" WTF. I can understand not initiating calls, but that's ridiculous. And always end the date first especially if you like him? Way to play games. I couldnt see how rarely returning a guys calls would be a way to keep him interested. I mean, you could let it slide a couple time here and there, but thats rude if nothing else.
Sears Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 I couldnt see how rarely returning a guys calls would be a way to keep him interested. I mean, you could let it slide a couple time here and there, but thats rude if nothing else. While I don't think this is the case here, look at how much thought you put into the reasons she may not be calling back. This is an effective tactic you will have to admit. Chillax...Follow up with her Sunday to set up a mid week date...
Trialbyfire Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 No, not at all actually. I wanted to hang out this weekend, but I didnt want to call Friday as ask what she was doing the next day. Should I have mentioned this weekend in my call? I just thought it was kinda wussy to sort of ask her out over a voicemail haha Haha...I understand. How did it sound like he was looking for an instant date? He was just asking what she was up to. It's synonymous with asking 'how are you?' or any other friendly bull**** opening small talk question. Hi X it's X, I just called to say hi and see what you were up to. While this is very casual, it also says to me that you're looking to get together in the next day or so, hence the conclusion of NYE date. She might already have plans, as mentioned by D-Lish. Just give me a call back whenever you get a chance, talk to you later.Casual again. Next time say something like this. "I'm looking forward to hearing from you." or whatever suits your style.
Author BCCA Posted January 1, 2009 Author Posted January 1, 2009 Ok, so should I try again at a later date, or leave it alone?
Trialbyfire Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 I'd give it some more time. With today being NYE, she may be busy and might wait to call back. It's not even been 24 hours, so I'd just be patient. Ok, so should I try again at a later date, or leave it alone? I'd do exactly what D-Lish says. Wait another day or two. Then try again. If she still doesn't respond, you've got your answer. If she plays the waiting game and calls you back a few days after your second call, write her off as a gamer.
Author BCCA Posted January 1, 2009 Author Posted January 1, 2009 Thanks for all your advice, I really appreciate it!
D-Lish Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 Yeah, 24 hours is still not long. If I had have gotten a call last night- I'd probably return it tomorrow, after NYE when things have died down. She probably has plans. I think it's just the timing of NYE.... And you did leave it as "no hurry", "when you get a chance"... I wouldn't worry- as TBF said, I'd call again after NY if you don't hear back. But only one more time.
Trialbyfire Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 Good luck BCCA! D-Lish has some good advice. She's helped me in the past too!
Author BCCA Posted January 1, 2009 Author Posted January 1, 2009 Thats great advice all around! Thanks to both of you, I'll keep you posted
D-Lish Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 Good luck BCCA! D-Lish has some good advice. She's helped me in the past too! As you do me! Good luck BCCA, enjoy your NYE!
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