moveon Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 We've broken up for almost 3 months, and completely no contact for 7 weeks. We were together for 5+ years. Our breakup wasn't overly negative, we love each dearly, I think he still does, and I still love him very much too, but we just cannot be together so he had to end it for my sake. He didn't get in touch with me on my birthday, on Christmas Day, I sent him a simple email and a text message to wish him Merry Christmas, I did not get any respond from him. Should I still send him a New year's greeting ? It seems that he doesn't want any contact from me. But I thought that this is a happly holiday season, I want to show him that even we are apart, I still care about him. On the day we broke up, we both cried, if he want to breakup up, why would he cried ? I don't understand. Is it easier for men to get over a breakup then woman ? Any comments ?
northstar1 Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 We've broken up for almost 3 months, and completely no contact for 7 weeks. We were together for 5+ years. Our breakup wasn't overly negative, we love each dearly, I think he still does, and I still love him very much too, but we just cannot be together so he had to end it for my sake. He didn't get in touch with me on my birthday, on Christmas Day, I sent him a simple email and a text message to wish him Merry Christmas, I did not get any respond from him. Should I still send him a New year's greeting ? It seems that he doesn't want any contact from me. But I thought that this is a happly holiday season, I want to show him that even we are apart, I still care about him. On the day we broke up, we both cried, if he want to breakup up, why would he cried ? I don't understand. Is it easier for men to get over a breakup then woman ? Any comments ? No. You attempted contact on Christmas and he didn't reply. Why put yourself out there again, when it will only hurt if he ignores you again?
starzphalling Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 i'd say no. he didn't respond to your other one, or contact you on your birthday. so he obviously wants to keep strictly to nc. if you love him, respect his wishes, and leave him be...and respect yourself and don't drive your brain crazy
Helioz Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 and no its not easier for men to get over a break up, it all depends on the type of person they are and their emotional attachment to you.
Riffmeister General Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I'm going to have to deliver the third strike here... and you're OUTTA HERE. No, don't do it. See reasons above. As for him crying, whether you want to end a relationship or not, it's stressful and upsetting. It's definitely a time you remember the good things over the bad and reflect on what you've lost. Like you say, you still have a lot of compassion for one another, and seeing you upset would naturally make him upset. As for men getting over it quicker than women... wow, could really stir up a hornet's nest here! Evolutionarily speaking, it wouldn't be surprising; men spread their seed willy-nilly where women need the security of the man to protect her through pregnancy (not so much the case now, I'm thinking of pre-history here). It's pretty well understood that women crave companionship and security far more than men, and place more importance on relationships of all types, so it's not surprising if they take longer to get over a break-up. I sit and await the backlash from the Society of Modern Feminists...
EmperorR Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Nope why? He dumped you, let him contact you if he wants.
californiadreaming Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 No. You attempted contact on Christmas and he didn't reply. Why put yourself out there again, when it will only hurt if he ignores you again? -If he didn't respond do not try again it is not worth it. It has to be a 2 way thing.
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