alwayssme Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 How long has it been since you guys talked to your ex? (and for how long have u been broken up) I feel weird not talking to him at all...and when we do its so awkward...Sorry, but this is my first real relationship so I have no clue how it's "supposed" to go...Do ex's remain friends or just completely dissapear from each other's lives? After two people break up, what happens to their "relationship"? Do we just cut the other off our lives? It feels weird being so distant with someone who knew me so well....I'm confused...
EmperorR Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 broke up sep 4, last time I received any contact from her was a text oct 21. Last time I spoke to her like a convo on the phone sep 14
lofi_tokyo Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 1st relationship Broke up Sept 4th Have not talked since early November, but prior to that we hardly talked anyways. Somedays I wonder how the heck he doesn't feel a sense of loss like I have felt. But I suppose, he had left the relationship long before it ended. Thinking of it that way... its not so weird we don't talk now. It gets less and less weird. Once, he was literally everything, I would have given the world to make him and I work, giving up whatever it took. Now, I would not sacrifice anything to make him and I work. He is still a part of my life, and always will be, but each day he slips further and further away, and no contact seems more... normal.
Helioz Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 its been 3wks, and im still in the thick of this sh*t hole.
MalachiX Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 We broke up some time early February and stopped talking at the end of February. I don't remember the exact dates.
CarrieT Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 We broke up in July and only stopped talking to each other two weeks ago. Every relationship is different; I'm in touch and talk with my very first BF (I was 13 and he was 15) -- and that was 30 years ago... Mostly, I am touch with most of my Ex's when the ending of our relationships were amenable.
not_a_happy_camper Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 my ex broke up with me nov 15th. last contact was christmas eve, when he sent a text to wish me a happy christmas. i replied the same. i know what you mean about how strange it is to not be in touch with someone who was such a big part of your life. you don't just lose a lover. you lose your best friend. i felt for the last few weeks like a huge chunk of me was missing. he was my first love too. but i'm slowly beginning to realise we just weren't meant to be. we spoke about being friends when we broke up. it was he brought it up first. i thought how could that be fair? but then thought to myself, i can't imagine not having him in my life, i need to be friends with him...........but in my own mind, i know that it would have been with an agenda.........to try and get us back together, when now i realise that would be a bad thing. i haven't seen him in almost a month, and when i did see him, it really set me back. seeing him again will most certainly do the same. i know i'm better off not to see him. and probably better off not being friends with him. he hurt me too much for me to consider being his friend. even though i know i have forgiven him. i just can't see it working. that said................god only knows what way i'll react if we do happen to speak. it's so easy to say all these things when you know you won't see them anytime soon..........i hope i won't anyway! i went out last night for new year's...............i put up a post previously on another board about how night's out without him weren't the same, because he's so full of life. he has an infectious sense of fun, and he's a great dancer. i'll admit i wasn't really looking forward to new year's out and single..........depressing, eh?! but i had a fantastic night! rang in the new year with a bottle of champagne, thinking i'm starting as i mean to go on....................full of bubbles?!! i spent the night in the company of great friends, and it was just what i needed. yeah i thought about him. but it didn't hurt so much, and i cried............i don't even know why i cry anymore! think that might have been an alcohol induced wobbly moment. but i know his best friend saw me having a laugh with my friends and with a bottle of bubbly. (and didn't see me cry!) and i'll admit, i want him to find out that i was smiling all the way. i notice a lot of people on these boards write because they are out of their first relationship, like myself. i met a lovely guy last night (not interested romantically!) but just had a huge heart to heart with him. he said first relationships will always stand out. you go into them blind, but you come out of them, and after a while, the blindness disappears so that for the next ones, you can see! the first one is for learning (not in any way taking away from the meaning of the relationship). but you make mistakes and learn from them and are hopefully a better person because of it. sorry for the big long post!
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