georgejungle Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I'm just curious. I'm happily married now, so i'm only curious to ask the question for a new thread's sake. I've had two relationships in the past where the gal broke up with me only to say: "It's Not YOU, it's ME". and "You're such a wonderful, Loving, supportive, handsome man, you do so much for me, I Don't Deserve You". "You'll make a great husband someday". I sometimes think about my first ex and how much i loved her, she breaks up with me, My heart breaks, i cry, she gives me that excuse, contacts me 10 years later and apologizes, says the same thing "You're were such a wonderful, Loving, supportive, handsome man, you did so much for me, I was foolish". ???
The Collector Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Sometimes because their desire for a challenging, sexy bad-boy fades and they are looking for a 'good provider' type instead. Or they didn't want to settle and then they do.
againstallodds Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 My ex contacted me as well a few years later after she got married and had kids. She told me she regretted not giving us a chance. She said I was a funny, nice guy bla bla bla. She said the guy whom she married was not what she thought he was. She thought she hit the jackpot but the guy is a poor sap. She went for him because her family like him instead of me. She still call me once in a bluemoon to talk and wish me happy birthday and stuff. I can destroy the family if I want too, the bastard stole her from me but it's not worth it, I don't want to waste my time. When she called I never pickup the phone or call her back. He was the one chasing after her. She chased me when I was with her. To find out your ex is not happy it just feel like a million bux. I guess I got my revenge.
You'reasian Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I'm just curious. I'm happily married now, so i'm only curious to ask the question for a new thread's sake. I've had two relationships in the past where the gal broke up with me only to say: "It's Not YOU, it's ME". and "You're such a wonderful, Loving, supportive, handsome man, you do so much for me, I Don't Deserve You". "You'll make a great husband someday". I sometimes think about my first ex and how much i loved her, she breaks up with me, My heart breaks, i cry, she gives me that excuse, contacts me 10 years later and apologizes, says the same thing "You're were such a wonderful, Loving, supportive, handsome man, you did so much for me, I was foolish". ??? I would think that she's not really looking for a wonderful, loving, supportive, handsome guy....at this time? And for your ex from 10 years to contact you from so long ago to reiterate those same qualities says something good about you, my friend. Two completely different, unaccquatinted women are saying the same thing. Seems like you must be a gentleman through and through - good qualities to keep and strive to further develop! Be patient. You will meet someone whom is right for you and she will be exactly that - wonderful, loving, supportive and beautiful and it will blow your mind and heart out of the water. It may not be today. It may not be next year, but fate will bring the two of you together. You will never want to look at another woman again. Having dated women whom just weren't that into you for timing, circumstances or whatever, you may question yourself if you just got lucky and it may seem overwhelming so hold on tight and keep yourself grounded
You'reasian Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 To find out your ex is not happy it just feel like a million bux. I guess I got my revenge. I find it hard that you can keep this grudge for so long. When I was much younger, I took dating disasters pretty hard - but I guess after a few more years in this life, I've learned to protect myself from being overcome with negativity - not to say that you won't every be hurt or angry again, but you should find yourself being able to keep that joy and love inside you regardless of your external circumstances.
againstallodds Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I find it hard that you can keep this grudge for so long. When I was much younger' date=' I took dating disasters pretty hard - but I guess after a few more years in this life, I've learned to protect myself from being overcome with negativity - not to say that you won't every be hurt or angry again, but you should find yourself being able to keep that joy and love inside you regardless of your external circumstances.[/quote'] I am not angry at her. I has been too long already. I am so indifferent it's not funny. I don't care if she call or not and I don't call her neihter. I am not holding grudge but it's not good to be friend with ex either. I keep my distance. I can never be close to an ex. One time she invited me over to her house when her husband is away but I refused. Looking back I don't even know why I fall for her hahaha. That's the funny part. After a few years and a few exes later you can't even feel the pain of the previous ex. I could have done alot of thing to take revenge but I choose not to do anything and just moved on. Most of the time it's true that the ex does come back but at that time you don't want them anymore.
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