forte Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 and she goes on to say.. "I hope all your New Years dreams and wishes come true". Yeah, well FFFFFFFFUUUUUU!!!</small vent> We were together for two months of perfection and then she breaks up with me the day after Christmas because we were having some difficulty with our long distance relationship.. fighting, lack of real conversations, etc.. (she's been in the Czech Republic (+6 hours) for six weeks on winter break). Oh.. and she's coming back Saturday, lol. <shaking head> I didn't even ask for a reason, didn't really care.. if she wanted to end it.. fine. I just said she was cold and foolish for not wanting to see if things would have worked out when she got back but I guess we'll never know. She said she hoped we could still be friends to which I replied.. thanks but I wouldn't count on it. We had some great times but that's all in the past now. And that was 5 days of total NC ago. And I've been cranking "Bullet for my Valentine" albums on repeat ever since. Fantastic break-up FU music:) AFAIK, the problem wasn't with me. And I wasn't needy or anything like that. Maybe the opposite if anything but only while she was away b/c it was difficult to communicate with such different times. But when she was here, I always did the little things. Flowers for no reason.. small hidden notes she'd find later.. always happy to help.. the friday before she left I surprised her with a limo, dinner, clubbing, champagne.. the night could not have gone better if I scripted in advance. Yes, I love her and I fell hard and fast. And no I'm not replying to her stupid txt. But she totally expects me too. Absolutely 100% sure and when I don't, it will definitely throw her mind a bit. I know she probably feels guilty and is second guessing the decision. Especially when she gets back and I'm not there for her but whatever... I don't regret anything b/c I did nothing wrong. She's a ****ing idiot. But will I take her back? She's a suprisingly intelligent (so I thought) and very talented model from the Czech Republic. And her KGB accent is pure sex... so what do you think? Of course I'll taker her back but..it definitely won't be easy. And if we don't get back together at all.. so be it... we're not together now so nothing will change and I'll still be heartbroken. meh. happy ****ing new year, lol. Thoughts? Predictions? Or you could just tell me what I wanna hear?
Geishawhelk Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Daaah-link, pliz, yhou knov hai khan't tell yhou vat yhou shoood do, baht, hif yhou tink thaat eets a chanz yhou vill ghet bach togetherrrr vit hurrrr.... I vood rhan van handrrred mailes hin the orther dairekshun!
Author forte Posted December 31, 2008 Author Posted December 31, 2008 Daaah-link, pliz, yhou knov hai khan't tell yhou vat yhou shoood do, baht, hif yhou tink thaat eets a chanz yhou vill ghet bach togetherrrr vit hurrrr.... I vood rhan van handrrred mailes hin the orther dairekshun! Nice accent, lol.
Geishawhelk Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 It's the closest I could get, but "pure sex" it ain't! Seriously, I know you said you'd take her back at the drop of a samovar, but really, you're just setting yourself up for more confusion and heartbreak. Once things are over, they're over. And even going back is never the same, because there's always this tiny voice at the back of your mind, setting doubt into your heart. Your instincts to let it go and "meh", are bang on. Keep it that way. Daaaahlink.
Author forte Posted December 31, 2008 Author Posted December 31, 2008 honestly, I couldn't agree more. It will definitely end in heartbreak even if we did get back together because she's graduating in 6 months and there's a very good chance she might get a job somewhere else or even go back to Czech Republic b/c no one is hiring. And there's just no way I'm marrying her for a green card. And there's just no way I'm marrying her for a green card. And there's just no way I'm marrying her for a green card. </repeat repeat repeat> Why do I have a feeling I'll be back here in a few months (or sooner) with you guys saying "I told you so"? Which I will totally deserve. </finding happiness in misery>
Author forte Posted December 31, 2008 Author Posted December 31, 2008 You know.. it would have been a lot easier for me to move on if she didn't send that txt. I mean.. why even bother? I already told her I didn't want to be friends.. she should just let me go if there was never any potential. kinda messes with your head. The biggest issue I have is that I know it was the distance between us that was causing the problems. We were perfect when we were together so the possibility of never knowing if things could have worked out is a little troubling.
Surfer Dude Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 You know.. it would have been a lot easier for me to move on if she didn't send that txt. I mean.. why even bother? I already told her I didn't want to be friends.. she should just let me go if there was never any potential. kinda messes with your head. The biggest issue I have is that I know it was the distance between us that was causing the problems. We were perfect when we were together so the possibility of never knowing if things could have worked out is a little troubling. Cause dumpers often don't know how to let go. They don't deem you to be worthy enough to be a part of their romantic life, but there is still something in them that forces them to keep contact, likely sense of guilt or need for validation (their ego gets hurt when we tell them to f off). The more you try to get away and move on, the more they harass you.
Author forte Posted December 31, 2008 Author Posted December 31, 2008 Cause dumpers often don't know how to let go. They don't deem you to be worthy enough to be a part of their romantic life, but there is still something in them that forces them to keep contact, likely sense of guilt or need for validation (their ego gets hurt when we tell them to f off). The more you try to get away and move on, the more they harass you. Even though it's unlikely, I just can't help but have hope. And honestly, I really don't care if I get rejected again because she means too much to me to give up. I am confident if I'm creative, careful and selective about my tactics, I will succeed. I would rather try and fail than to never try at all regardless of the pain I have to go through. The only risk is not taking one. And if anyone thinks I don't know what pain is.. I was married for 5 years, wife cheated, and I had to continue living with her in the same house for another 1.5 years while she dated the same guy. Please be optimistic for me. I am a true believer in the occasional happy ending and I would wish the same for everyone here who is holding out hope for another chance. Thanks to all and have a happy new year.
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