Author Goatsbreath Posted January 1, 2009 Author Posted January 1, 2009 went ice skating with family and friends then watched some fire works and drank a few beers. pretty dull and she did not call or text me. Even though I did monitor my phone and was somewhat dissapointed she did not call or text me a happy new year I held on and did not call or text her either. the whole time I was ice skating I was thinking, damn, would of been nice to take her ice skating. I feel like we never did much together because we did not have a lot of money. Overall it was a sad one
starzphalling Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 lol loving, I'm totally there with you! Finding Nemo has been in my head all week. Though when I'm feeling beyond crap, I drift toward "The Last Unicorn" You just have to keep going no matter what gets in your way or what feat stands in front of you. You are strong on your own, and you can do it....but today...blah....i'm feeling like i should watch "American Psycho" but that could give me some very bad ideas.....I'm torn...
Riffmeister General Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 went ice skating with family and friends then watched some fire works and drank a few beers. pretty dull and she did not call or text me. Even though I did monitor my phone and was somewhat dissapointed she did not call or text me a happy new year I held on and did not call or text her either. the whole time I was ice skating I was thinking, damn, would of been nice to take her ice skating. I feel like we never did much together because we did not have a lot of money. Overall it was a sad one I think we were all there last night. I monitored all night, but nothing. The thing that I'm happy about though is that although I was disappointed not to hear from her, despite all the beer and Jaeger I had, I wasn't tempted ONCE to text her. I looked around for girls in the bar that looked like her, sure, but hey, whatt'ya gonna do? I think I'm not tempted cos I want HER to give ME hope, I don't want to manufacture it by prompting her to contact me. If I mean anything to her (as she claims), she'll contact me without being prompted.
Author Goatsbreath Posted January 1, 2009 Author Posted January 1, 2009 haha, nothing to make you feel a little better then dysfunction at its finest. Try country boys, I just watched it. I watched it over 2 days because its like 6 hours or something. Its a PBS documentary on these 2 kids growing up in kentucky in a alternative school system. Its on DVD now and its pretty interesting.
Riffmeister General Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 lol loving, I'm totally there with you! Finding Nemo has been in my head all week. Though when I'm feeling beyond crap, I drift toward "The Last Unicorn" You just have to keep going no matter what gets in your way or what feat stands in front of you. You are strong on your own, and you can do it....but today...blah....i'm feeling like i should watch "American Psycho" but that could give me some very bad ideas.....I'm torn... Lol, yeah! Like I said in another thread earlier tho, those little mottos all sounds great, but it's too early to get any long-term comfort from them. I get a glimpse of how great it'll feel when I'm ready to, and that's what I'm holding onto right now.
D-Lish Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 I actually put my ex on block on my cell, msn, e-mail, etc... It helped to take the power out his hands and put it in mine. I spent NYE on MSN with JillyBean... cracked open a few beers and then went to bed. Just didn't want to deal with going out last night.
lovingalways Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Well, this is sort of how my night went: I went out to my bf's best friend's place and he invited over like 30 people. So we all sat around and drank before deciding to go to the bar. I met a couple of very nice people but then I noticed that my bf's best friend was having this really sort of weird convo with his gf and it was awkward because it seemed as though she was really pissed at him for something. He just kind of looked at me and I could see something in his eyes telling me "Please HELP ME!" But I didn't want to be in the middle so I just hung out with people. Then it was HER idea to take the cab down to the bar and so I ended up being in the cab with my bf and that guy. Out of curiosity I asked him whether he was okay and then he broke down and told me how she got mad at him for the stupidest reason ever (which I won't mention on this board - believe me it was a dumb one). So then we decided that we will take the subway instead because we were being ripped off by our cabby and it took us about half an hour to get downtown. Obviously, she was already there and fuming at him (they were standing in the cold and she had no idea where he was). At the same time, another one of my friends kept receiving calls from his ex. She kept calling him over and over and over again (they broke up a year ago). He was trying to be honest, saying he's freezing his a$$ off and that he'll call her in 20 minutes once we get in the bar. But she had no understanding so she just kept calling. So I had to listen to him complain. Then we walked over to another bar because we didn't want to be stuck outside in the cold and my bf's best friend's gf was like red from anger. She started blaming him for needing to walk to another bar, for making her wait, and then she said it was HIS idea to take the cab. I felt sorry for the guy because he's honestly, such a sweetheart. I just met the girl yesterday but I know he's a decent guy and doesn't deserve such treatment especially for New Year's Eve. Anyway we all celebrated it and then chilled. Atmosphere was still pretty weird when when we left, so I’m expecting a call from both of the guys complaining about their gfs some time soon. Honestly, I really try to avoid drama in my relationship. The moment there is drama, I turn around and walk away. I don’t like it when people are controlling and telling me what I should or should not do. It’s my life so let me be. Anyway, interesting night overall. I still managed to have a good time though.
starzphalling Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 my night: fell asleep watching a movie, was woken up by fireworks and gunshots at midnight, sighed thought about him, and went back to sleep. IM SO EXCITING!!!! but yeah....your night was drama central there. i remember when i had a bunch of friends (me and my ex's have always had mutual friends, and its always been easier for me to just walk away and let him keep them all then try to deal with seeing him or hearing about him from them)... and holiday nights or when big groups of couples would go out, someone would always get pissed at someone and then everyone would break into groups and there would be yelling and crying then consoling....WOW i sooooo don't miss that. so congratz on surviving last night there loving lol
belladonna Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 lovingalways: Damn was it cold out last night! Good that you still maintained a fun time My NYE was..meh. I went with a friend to a bar briefly until 10, then went to a house party with some people from high school that I rarely see so I really didn't know most of the people there, it was fun meeting everyone. Anyway, I ended up spilling my drink all over myself (but I was pretty drunk so I didn't care that much) and barely remember counting down to midnight I do remember getting really depressed at midnight though. I was fine until then..I kept thinking about him and how I was debating texting him. So like the sap I am I did actually send him a "happy new years. miss you" text, although it took me a good hour to send it because my texts weren't going through. Anyway..he did send me one back saying happy new years (but did not reciprocate the miss you statement). I took it to mean that he's not angry at me anymore at least. So I sent him one saying "gimme a call if you ever wanna chill, i'd rather be friends then exes". I got a reply from him 2 hours later when I was stumbling into my bed, it was around 4 am saying "So come on by". I guess he was still partying but as much as I wanted to go I was too tired to even respond. Soo this morning (waking up with a nasty cold!) I sent him one saying I had gone to bed by then but to give me a shout next time. I don't know if it was the right thing to do or whatever, but I do feel better now that I know we're on good terms. But that's it now, no more initiating contact for me! He knows I'm not mad, he knows I want to be friends, so that ball is in his court. Anyway so it was an interesting night for me too. Monday I go back to school so I'll have lots to keep my mind occupied.
lovingalways Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 my night: fell asleep watching a movie, was woken up by fireworks and gunshots at midnight, sighed thought about him, and went back to sleep. IM SO EXCITING!!!! but yeah....your night was drama central there. i remember when i had a bunch of friends (me and my ex's have always had mutual friends, and its always been easier for me to just walk away and let him keep them all then try to deal with seeing him or hearing about him from them)... and holiday nights or when big groups of couples would go out, someone would always get pissed at someone and then everyone would break into groups and there would be yelling and crying then consoling....WOW i sooooo don't miss that. so congratz on surviving last night there loving lol Hahaha... I wish my New Years was like yours. Honestly. I would have rather stayed at home, bundled up in a blanket and read a nice book with cocoa. Haha... How sad. LOL But yeah... Drama maaaama... It was crazy. One of my new year's resolutions is to stay away from drama. But for some reason, drama always seems to find me and people always make things so difficult. Instead of thinking in simple terms, they make it complicated as hell. I used to be like that, but when I broke up with my ex, I was like "No more of this" and from then until now, I have tried to make things simpler than they seem to be. Haha...
lovingalways Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 bella, sounds like an interesting night. IMO, it is ALWAYS better to end things on good terms. This is the way I view it right now: you try a relationship and if it doesn't work, you sit down and you say "Listen, this ain't working out for me. And I think it's not working out for you either. I think that can only mean 2 things: 1. we're not meant to be; 2. this is not the right time for us. So, I would like to end this on good terms. I want us to stay friends because we know we have tried being something more but it didn't work. Nothing bad. I'm sure we will both find someone better or we might one day realize that we should be together." And that's how I always end it. And I actually mean it. It's not like I'm lying to the guy. I honestly mean it and try to end on good terms. I ended on bad terms with my ex only because he wasn't respecting my space and he acted as though he was the ONLY one in pain. Pffft... However, I think he changed his mind about us being friends on my birthday and he sent me a "Happy birthday" message. But, now it's too late. I do care about him but I don't care as much about being in contact. So I just replied with a "Thank you" and obviously, the next day, he shut off his fb account. Wonder why! So, don't think about him too much. It helps. You'll find someone better, trust me. And it might be one of your long term friends too so keep your eyes open!
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