luverly Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 How or when did you know it was really over with you and your ex? Was there that "moment" that you knew you loved them, but were no longer IN love?
xpaperxcutx Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 When you break up with someone, mostly you aren't thinking with a clear head. So your mind would become two opposite entities, one loving him, one hating him. You can fall out of love but it doesn't mean you'll forget them.
Sexy Kitty Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 The only guy I have lost love for was my ex of 6 years. That ended a year and a half ago. I don't think I was really truely madly in love with him ever. I didn't get the feelings of love that I felt for my more recent ex's. I just found myself unhappy. Wanting more and wanting out. He was a great guy and all but just not "the one" for me.
Author luverly Posted December 31, 2008 Author Posted December 31, 2008 I was crazy over-the-moon in love with my ex...until the 6th month I was crying over him denying me sex and he had the nerve to tell me in an argument that he wasn't sure if I was the person he fell in love with anymore. I could physically feel my heart break and everything die. Idiot.
georgejungle Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 The only guy I have lost love for was my ex of 6 years. That ended a year and a half ago. I don't think I was really truely madly in love with him ever. I didn't get the feelings of love that I felt for my more recent ex's. I just found myself unhappy. Wanting more and wanting out. He was a great guy and all but just not "the one" for me. i'm just curious, why would you stay with him for SIX years??? that's a long time. I've never been in a relationship with a girl unless i was REALLY into her. I wouldn't want to waster her time and I wouldn't want to waste my time. So i've never fallen Out of Love with any girl, then felt the need to break it off with her.
Hersheys Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I knew it was over when: - communication dwindled - what used to be manageable and easy became difficult and confusing - he unabashedly told me one blatant lie after another - we were no longer each others priorities - certain acts of his became questionable - nobody is willing to compromise anymore
Sexy Kitty Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 i'm just curious, why would you stay with him for SIX years??? that's a long time. I've never been in a relationship with a girl unless i was REALLY into her. I wouldn't want to waster her time and I wouldn't want to waste my time. So i've never fallen Out of Love with any girl, then felt the need to break it off with her. I was into him and loved him but I guess it just wasn't true love. I wasn't unhappy the whole 6 years. More towards the end I was.
Author luverly Posted December 31, 2008 Author Posted December 31, 2008 Is it just me or did you feel it so hard that it seemed like you could physically feel the emotions just die?
Joker77 Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I basically knew we were done the day before we broke up. We had talked on the phone every day for almost six months. The day before the break, she was acting more flakey than ususal. I had asked if she wanted to go to some park to see Christmas lights because I knew her daughter would like that. She asked me what time and then I replied a time. I didn't hear back for about three hours until she texted me that she had just woke up from a nap and then texted me an hour later saying she felt like crap and was going to bed at 8pm. I had a bad feeling and my feeling was right.
Riffmeister General Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 When she told me it was. Bitch. I've entered 'Anger Phase', methinks...
lofi_tokyo Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 When I saw him falling in love with someone else while we were still together. I remember flying home from Japan (I had been gone a month, in which time he had met this girl and told me all about her), and on the plane I thought to myself "we are over". After that, I definately had moments of denial, moment of pretending it couldn't be over, but truthfully, it just kind of hit me like a brick. The signs had been there for ages that we were going to break up, but I only truly acknowledged them about a week before the split.
D-Lish Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 When I asked him to come for x-mas dinner and he got silent... I felt the distance snowball on his end after that. We had the break up talk a few days after that.
Crestfallen_KH Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 Probably when we agreed to a separation. He packed a bag, was only going to be gone a week, but I suspected that he was having an affair. Well, I KNEW he was, but I still wanted to believe he wasn't and that we'd work it out. As I watched him walk out the door to the pickup, I whispered "Have a good life." I guess that was my first conscious acknowledgement that my marriage was over.
D-Lish Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 Probably when we agreed to a separation. He packed a bag, was only going to be gone a week, but I suspected that he was having an affair. Well, I KNEW he was, but I still wanted to believe he wasn't and that we'd work it out. As I watched him walk out the door to the pickup, I whispered "Have a good life." I guess that was my first conscious acknowledgement that my marriage was over. Wow, that's really sad- and brings back memories for me.
alwayssme Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 i knew it was over the week after our break up that i went to see him and was crying the whole time and he told me he fell out of love with me...i will never forget that day..esp/ when he was driving me back home and this sad song ws playing in the car...everytime i think about that moment i feel my heart breaking all over again.. "the first cut is the deepest" lol...its my first love so it sucks..but hoping things will get better.
Author luverly Posted January 1, 2009 Author Posted January 1, 2009 The worst is when you're in that phase of remembering everything that could have been done differently...and then all the signs you ignored that screamed you should have left his as* ages ago.
TG84 Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 My ex broke things off over the phone a few weeks before we were going to end LD, despite telling me she loved me the day before and tha she missed me. She refused to see me or talk except by gchat, and when our friends she they would cut her off unless she gave me some sort of clusure, she only agreed to do it by phone but intially wanted to do it by AIM. This is fun...
jc Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 I think I really knew it was over after he had gotten back together with me...and then didn't contact me at all for 5 days. I ended up driving out to his place on Christmas day and I gave him his Christmas presents. He hadn't gotten anything for me, even though we were supposedly 'back together'. He didn't want me to come in even. He couldn't look me in the eye. And when I began to cry because I knew in my heart that this was probably the last time I'd see him, he just sat there, emotionless. He even said, "God, shut up, you're giving me a headache" while I was crying. It still hurts to think about it, but he just really didn't care. And if the other person is done caring, there really is nowhere to go from there. It's over.
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