2sunny Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 just admit that you are simply a narcissistic man and be over it. call the spade a spade and go on living with your selfish self every time you look in the mirror.
whichwayisup Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Yes, I know in my mind it's wrong, but like I said I can't/won't stop. Thats why I think something is wrong with me. But I am what I am. You won't stop until you get busted by one of the husbands. You have had NO consquence of your actions, felt no pain and you're riding the rollercoaster high.. It'll come crashing down one day and ONLY THEN will you have to change your ways. That or you'll get a nasty STD..
Author TheBandit Posted December 31, 2008 Author Posted December 31, 2008 And aren't we responding nicely by getting properly stirred? Bandit, these women are married, and seeking something they are not getting in their marriage. Great sex, affection, tenderness, passion...whatever. Of course they adore you, of course they want to be with you. You are sweet, loving, romantic, sexy, you represent excitement, thrill...all the things that stir a person's heart and body. I do not have a problem at all with what you are doing. And I am sure you are spreading happiness in your wake. But perhaps you should stop being so surprised. For a lot of people, marriage is a desert when it comes to romance. And you are a welcoming oasis. Thank you for understanding. As I've said before .. this is not just about sex .. or my self gratification. Every experience I have with these women is very special to me, and to them, and very very fullfilling in my life.
Meaplus3 Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 [quote=TheBandit;197911 Actually, these women very much have morals. There is no lure for me to attract a woman who has cheated before. These are most, if not all, first-time affairs for these women .. some even after 15 years of supposed "happy" marriages. (at least on the outside) Yes, I know in my mind it's wrong, but like I said I can't/won't stop. Thats why I think something is wrong with me. But I am what I am. I think I'd have to agree with you here. Have you ever heard of NPD? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder I have a feeling this could be part of why you can't stop. Mea:)
2sunny Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I think I'd have to agree with you here. Have you ever heard of NPD? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder I have a feeling this could be part of why you can't stop. Mea:) yep, see my post #51.
Author TheBandit Posted December 31, 2008 Author Posted December 31, 2008 I think I'd have to agree with you here. Have you ever heard of NPD? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder I have a feeling this could be part of why you can't stop. Mea:) I suppose if this was just about some huge ego trip, then yes ... you might be right. (I can see why someone would just assume that.) But to me it's not about conquest as it is with some men ... it's about the experiences and connections I build with these women. There is definitely something very rewarding there.
2sunny Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I suppose if this was just about some huge ego trip, then yes ... you might be right. (I can see why someone would just assume that.) But to me it's not about conquest as it is with some men ... it's about the experiences and connections I build with these women. There is definitely something very rewarding there. i think if you're honest with yourself... you'll admit that you have designed this to mainly fool yourself. we call that delusional. cousin of delude - which means: 1: to mislead the mind or judgment of : deceive , trick 2 : obsolete a: frustrate , disappoint b: evade , elude synonyms see deceive
Meaplus3 Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I suppose if this was just about some huge ego trip, then yes ... you might be right. (I can see why someone would just assume that.) But to me it's not about conquest as it is with some men ... it's about the experiences and connections I build with these women. There is definitely something very rewarding there. What do you think the reward is? Do you think your helping these woman? What's going to happen when one of thier Husbands find of ..lets say by mistake? Then will there be a reward? Mea:)
Reggie Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Actually, these women very much have morals. There is no lure for me to attract a woman who has cheated before. These are most, if not all, first-time affairs for these women .. some even after 15 years of supposed "happy" marriages. (at least on the outside) Yes, I know in my mind it's wrong, but like I said I can't/won't stop. Thats why I think something is wrong with me. But I am what I am. Like Popeye, eh? Why worry about it, then? Who knows how this will all turn out. Are you worired about STD's? You may find yourself more than what you "am" if you catch one.
Lizzie60 Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I guess I am your female counterpart.. except for a few things: I never scr*wed my friend's bf or husbands.. never will. For most of them.. I scr*w them and I get the benefit$. I think it's easier for a female like me.. cause these guys (most of them) do not get attached.. men and women are wired differently.. .in your case, one of those W can get sooo in love with you and crack down and admit everything to her H... women are more emotional and sensitive in that way.. I agree though.. it's hard to stop. Oh I should add.. I have never been cheated (not that I know of) so I don't do it out of bitterness.
Lizzie60 Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Does your ex-wife know about your new found pleasure in helping a wife cheat on her husband, betray her whole family? Too bad Lizzie isn't here, I think you'd get along with her fine. Ha--I'm here.. I replied after I read the first page.. now I'm reading the remaining thread... Too bad he doesn't get the benefit$ I do.. what a shame.. imagine all the money he would make.. I guess I'm wiser..
2sunny Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 here's something i hadn't considered before... maybe you do this as a form of manipulation and control...
Reggie Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 Ha--I'm here.. I replied after I read the first page.. now I'm reading the remaining thread... Too bad he doesn't get the benefit$ I do.. what a shame.. imagine all the money he would make.. I guess I'm wiser.. Yeah, me too. I am getting paid huge dollars for my services , as well. I'm packing heat. What's wrong with this guy that he cannot command a decent fee for services?
Myusername Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 I see what BANDIT is getting out of it, and perhaps their is a bit of many things. Being the other guy, builds your ego way more than building these womens egos. They are looking to something easy to take their minds off their own issues. You feel like the DR PHIL of adultery..that your are somehow SAVING OR TEACHING these women something...but what I think might be happening, is that you get to been seen in the HERE COMES MY SAVIOR on a white horse kind of guy. You FEEL you are saving them and they are then raising you up and giving you what you need, its comes down to being about you. If you wanted to help these people you say you care for, you could help them without being in an adulterous situation. You love thr thrill of hearing how great you are and how you meet their needs and their spouse does not. You win, you come and go, you get to be the fantasy for a time. But thats not real. It may help these MW realize they are unhappy but they knew that before you or they would not be ******* you. As a single women who has been very independent, sassy and fun, and sort of a bar fly for many years (not anymore) but as a one-of-the-guys cute girl that could hang with boys at the bar but also be sweet and sexy, I used to get a lot of attention from married men. I have a few affairs (i mean i was the OW). I hated it but was really crippled inside and did not think enough of myself at the time, had other issues.. But anyway, to these MM, whether we just sat at a bar and talked or had a small thing, kiss, whatever, oh boy they all thought I was the answer, the savior, the one who would listen and be fun and yada yada and incite their passion. I decided early on, I could not trust men partially because i saw how easily men will cheat in a second. I also saw that i was filling some need for men who were in lonely or painful marriages. SO ooooh what an ego boost to be the object of all their affections (mostly just men at bars who i talked to, but did not end up with). I saw what they were seeing me as, and at first i liked it, i was like..YEEE HAA I am special ...I am not what their wives are, I am cool and fun and bla bla. Then I realized it was all about my ego and swelling my head and playing some game. I stopped doing that a long time ago. For me it was an insecuirty and yet an ego thing. Oh how they found me thrilling and nothing like their partners. I listened or understood or they could open up to me. ALL THIS WAS because I was not their regular partner. Dont fool yourself, its about you and your needs. Being there for them is about boosting your ego. You get too feel grand and different and like you are a unique guy offering them something they dont have. You might be, but you could also be the stepping stone they walk over to get where they really want to go. We are all broken to some degree and love hearing how great we are..so you are soaking up how important you feel in their lives. But they are working through something that existing before you and perhaps using you as well. I am not giving you a hard time but you dont want help with it. You wear it as a badge, maybe you should get a cape ...SUPER CHEAT...lol...and wear it proudly when you prance off your white horse into the arms of some other mans wife. I pray you dont get hurt (some angry husband is not going to find you half as charming as you find yourself ..lol) and someone is going to want to take a swing at you....I hope that you dont get hurt..and I also hope that you realize you may not be the knight it shining armor, but a dude they can just come to and have fun. It builds you ego big time, and perhaps u justify it by thinking you are really helping them but i think its about the attention you get, not give. Just MHO...and that does not count for everything...lol You obviously wanted feedback or to strutt your stuff here and show us something, and you succeeded. If you came here seeking help and feel badly, i would sure offer some support and help..but you are loving this and not seeking advice...just bragging rights it seems. All in peace, I wish you a good NY MUN
Lizzie60 Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 You feel like the DR PHIL of adultery what's wrong with that... maybe he prevented a suicide in one of those unhappily married women.. I guess that makes me the Oprah of adultery..
Meaplus3 Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 I guess that makes me the Oprah of adultery.. :lmao::lmao:
Myusername Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 ahh lizzie always looking at the bright side.. Perhaps....just maybe you believe you are sent on some mission to save others..lol...or beef up yourselves it seems. Maybe Lizzie and Bandit should get together and screw the heck out of eachother and cheat with and on eachother and see who can beat who to the punch..game on..lol. It could be like a silly game of twister, or TWIST HER..lol..or TWIST HIM... on the serious side...someone is going to get hurt from these actions..rather than helped. I am sure many people have already been hurt. Lizzie...you do this for money, than it is a different story all together. I read in a post or two you did this for money. Does that mean u get gifts and condos and jewelry and dinners...or you are a paid call girl type thing and work for cash? Or was that just a joke? If its your profession than that is a different story all together. You would, by job definition, be doing your job regardless of their marital status. I am not calling you a prostitute, but a few people said something about you doing it for money. I did not know if that really meant you enjoy finer things and if u sleep with random married who have money, you get some...?? confused BANDIT....its a dangerous game of delusions I think MUN
Author TheBandit Posted January 1, 2009 Author Posted January 1, 2009 So if I were seduce a married woman for money, this would be okay? No .. I don't do it for money. For ego, possibly somewhat .. but that's not my purpose here. I do it, simply because I enjoy it. And more importantly, so do they.
Reggie Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 So if I were seduce a married woman for money, this would be okay? No .. I don't do it for money. For ego, possibly somewhat .. but that's not my purpose here. I do it, simply because I enjoy it. And more importantly, so do they. You go girl, uh . boy. A woman will move mountains for you....
Myusername Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 no Bandit it would not be "ok" if you did it for money. I was not implying its ok if if its your job, what I was doing, is trying to not judge anyone too harshly...or their profession...i dont think any of it is really ok, but we all have our own opinions and I have learned to try and just debate or show another side, rather than be cruel or flame/blast people here. Nothing good can come from that. Do I agree with what you are doing, nope...do I agree with Lizzie...nope...but i try to refrain from judging, thats not what I am here. My opinion does not mean anything, you posted because you wanted to get the crowd going, and here we are watching the show.... peace out MUN
JustBreathe Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 Troll. Quit playing on the computer and do your biology homework or you're grounded.
2sure Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 These posts have the same writing style and verbiage as a previous poster who had a whole thing going on about how cheating on his wife made him more attractive to his wife. In the event you are not the same guy - MM and MW cheat for a variety of reasons. The OP is rarely a substantial factor - just a matter of being in the right place at the right time, and willing. The OP usually feels they are special (as you seem to) because the married person needs them to feel that way - the affair makes the relationship and the sex special - not you. Are you otherwise unable to date?
Nikki Sahagin Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 That's amazing honesty Bandit. It just reminds me of a friend, and there's nothing to say you are like him. But he was cheated on by who he thought was the love of his life. And he went on a mission to get virgins to fall in love with him - so he could do the dirty and dump then and get rid of a bit of that anger he felt towards his ex. It helped too for a long time. Until he started to hate himself and feel guilt. It caught up with him. He self-harms. He went back into it though - to prove that no-one can be faithful. He seeks out couples to break up, to validate for himself that committment is impossible. He scares me quite honestly. Because he has no become so hollow and empty. He is a great charmer but all his personality is displayed in a charicature. But the real him is a creepy, disturbed person on a one man crusade to damage himself and others. I don't think that's you...but people like you scare me. People that seek to prove the bad instead of the good. If I proved to myself that no-one could be faithful or loving - I think i'd kill myself. How can you live in a world where you can't believe there must be something good and lasting?
Meaplus3 Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 So if I were seduce a married woman for money, this would be okay? No .. I don't do it for money. For ego, possibly somewhat .. but that's not my purpose here. I do it, simply because I enjoy it. And more importantly, so do they. If it's an ego thing Bandit..look up NPD.. really that could be your problem here. So.. why not hit on single ladies? Mea:)
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