tuscansun Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 So me and my, I don't know what you call it, I guess you could say friends with benefits, had a little fight. This is actually our second one...I know, not a good sign. If this was someone who I was considering being with in the longterm than I'd probably just walk away but I just got out of a messy 4 year relationship and have just come out of the wallowing and Im really enjoying life, and him for the most part. We're not having sex yet but we've done everything but that which may be whats frustrating him, I dont know. When we first started talking a few months ago I was just finishing up the rebound thing so I had a few other guys on different backburners (lame ones) and I wasn't interested in being anything but friends with this guy...we'll call him *Rick. Well one night we were hanging out and one thing led to another and we ended up making out pretty hard, then the next time was worse, and the next time worse....I was reluctant in the sack because he seemed a little clingy and I didn't want to anyone to get their feelings hurt. He'd say things like, how come you don't kiss me more when we're fooling around, and how come you don't invite me down there more (he lives about 40 minutes away). Our first fight happened when he was at my place and I fell asleep during a movie and he LEFT while I was sleeping. I was so pissed. I called him and asked where he went and he was mad I had fallen asleep despite the fact that we had both downed a ton of beer and were both (I thought) pretty tired. We had a nasty text war but he came back to my house and we got into pretty hard...again. Well after that episode, Ive been txting him a little more because Ive been somewhat sick and bored because a bunch of my friends are out of town ( I didn't tell him that) and he's been snappy with me. If I txt something like, I miss u, wish u were here, he'll write back something like, why so you can fall asleep on me? Or if I say something like, I wanted you last night, he'll write back, oh you miss NOT kissing me? He blew me off for a couple days and I finally got mad and asked what the hell his problem was and he goes, 'what the hell is YOUR problem? Why are you trippin, im busy as hell'. So needless to say I didnt call or anything after that. Its been a day, giving him some space. If he's mad about the other night I don't see why, He got his rocks off when he came back....Not sure how to proceed. Typically Id just write him off, but I don't think he's being an ass as much as he seems hurt about something. I kinda expected him to say something today about his attitude but I havent heard a peep from him...I dunno...
Geishawhelk Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Hellooooo...this isn't a FWB... this is a friendship, full stop, that thinks it should be moving into the sexual stage, and hasn't. It's a relationship, but celibate. You guys need to decide whether you want this to go further. Or not.
Author tuscansun Posted December 31, 2008 Author Posted December 31, 2008 call me obsessive but we talk pretty much every night....he's clearly pissed right?
EYECANDY000 Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Yes, it sounds like he is pretty upset to me. Why r you still talking to this guy? It seems like he has clearly written you off.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 FWB? More like friendship gone awry. There's clearly a power struggle on who gives in first. Based on his behaviour and reaction I'd say he's trying to gauge a reaction out of you, and it's working. Do you want to pursue something with him? If you don't, you have to draw a line. Friends don't kiss and have make out sessions unless they want to pursue a relationship. You should write him off.
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