Angel 81 Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I have been dating my friend for 7 months, we have known each other for about 8 years. We have always been friends, but in a social way. He was married for 4 years, but for the last 2 years they have been separated, living in there own houses, and living there own lives. We recently made contact again, and started dating, very discretely, because the divorce was getting ready to go through. I was fine with this, because I knew what the consequences could bring upon him in court. OK here is the tough part, 1 month ago, his still wife, dies....Remember he is still leaglly married. He has to deal with all the Family, the going through her belongings, the funeral, etc. I did what I could to support him and help......still being discrete about or relationship. I understood he would have to have a grieveing period, but now he is isolating, and has become distant. He has asked me to give him sometime,which I have. I know there are feelings there and he has to sort through them all, and it is the Holidays which makes it even harder. This has taken a toll on me also, I have been the most supportive and understanding person that anyone could want, not pushy and given him much space. I just keep remembering, us and what we shared talked about, and I am hurting too. I feel like I just buried him and he is still alive. We have keeped in contact, almost everyday, until Christmas Day, this is the last day I have talked to him or recieved any emails. I am very concered about his welfare. My question is do I just keep giving him space? I have not called or emailed because I do not want to stress him any further. Or should I just go get him and pull him out of his isolation? This is a different situation, because they haven't shared a life for sometime, yes they were still friends, he wanted the best for her, it just wasn't him. Any suggestions are welcome...........
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Yes, he definitely needs space and probably for a long while.
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