spookie Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 She is smart, hot, pretty funny, and, though quiet, could hold up an end of the conversation pretty interestingly, with lots of surprises. She just chooses not to have friends. But you're special, and she wants to be with you. She's not too clingy. Less clingy than average. I know I'd be ok with the male version of the above. But do most guys expect girls to be social? Does it count against you if you're not?
Padthai Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I'm a girl, I pretty much am the same as what you're describing... Although I can be a bit clingy. I hate having friends. They complicate my life. I have the best boyfriend in the whole world. He is a lot like me, so it works. He doesn't see not having friends as a bad thing. He loves me for me. That's what it's all about.
johan Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I would be cool with it. With one reservation: she needs also to be independent. Sometimes a girl with no friends is just waiting for a guy to come along and provide a life for her. Also, she'd need to keep her place clean.
Author spookie Posted December 31, 2008 Author Posted December 31, 2008 I would be cool with it. With one reservation: she needs also to be independent. Sometimes a girl with no friends is just waiting for a guy to come along and provide a life for her. Also, she'd need to keep her place clean. So I'd fail on count 2?
mental_traveller Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 She is smart, hot, pretty funny, and, though quiet, could hold up an end of the conversation pretty interestingly, with lots of surprises. She just chooses not to have friends. But you're special, and she wants to be with you. She's not too clingy. Less clingy than average. I know I'd be ok with the male version of the above. But do most guys expect girls to be social? Does it count against you if you're not? Sounds fine to me. My ex was pretty much a loner, I don't see the problem with it.
zhsoj Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I wouldn't mind. I'm that myself. A social circle is nice... But self-reliance is better.
johan Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 So I'd fail on count 2? It's easy to clean a place up. Silly girl.
Citizen Erased Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 It's easy to clean a place up. Silly girl. I don't know...her place could be REALLY filthy.
crfsti Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 sure, i'd be interested.....i'm pretty much a loner myself, so why not!
MN randomguy Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 She is smart, hot, pretty funny, and, though quiet, could hold up an end of the conversation pretty interestingly, with lots of surprises. She just chooses not to have friends. But you're special, and she wants to be with you. She's not too clingy. Less clingy than average. I know I'd be ok with the male version of the above. But do most guys expect girls to be social? Does it count against you if you're not? Seh sounds wonderful. Less drama with the friends. I hate it when the GF has friends with a D-bag BF or husband and is always putting her in the men are pigs state of mind. It seems kind of odd though. Women as a rule are more social than men it seems. Maybe that is just my perception.
zenith Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 as long as she is willing to ****, yes I love pad thai by the way
Nemo Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Also, she'd need to keep her place clean. I assume that you mean between her legs.
GoneButNotForgotten Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Wow Nemo your dirtier than the rest of us LOL. But in all honesty it's not a bad thing at all as long as she can still be independent. I myself keep very few friends. Actually I can count them on one hand. I have a lot of aquaintances that I know would help me a lot of the time, but they aren't what I would consider friends. A girl like that can be amazingly fun to be around. But personally I also enjoy some of my time. I play WOW to keep in touch with my friends. 2 of them are in the military so it is our way of being able to still talk and have fun together. A lot of times I don't necessarily enjoy hanging out with a bunch of girls anyways. Most of the time it leads to much more drama. Guys tend to have much simpler friendships. Many girls tend to feed off drama with each other and it makes everything on all sides more difficult.
RichGuy Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I assume that you mean between her legs. LOOooOooOoooOooL Nemo, the LS ladies are NOT laughing with us!!! Hahaha!!
RichGuy Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 She is smart, hot, pretty funny, and, though quiet, could hold up an end of the conversation pretty interestingly, with lots of surprises. She just chooses not to have friends. But you're special, and she wants to be with you. She's not too clingy. Less clingy than average. I know I'd be ok with the male version of the above. But do most guys expect girls to be social? Does it count against you if you're not? You can come hang out with me anytime you want Spookie, and to answer your question, no, most guys don't mind loners as long as you are hot (and I believe you when you said you were hot). Come to think of it, looks is counts for some 95% of a guys attraction to a female, the rest (her social circle, her $$$$, her education, etc.) just really doesn't matter that much. Where do you live? Yes, I am hitting on you.
blind_otter Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I have always had a few friends, never a large social circle. I just can't manage having that many responsibilities. Call me lazy. I've never had a partner who had a problem with it, although I have had more than a few who seemed to think it necessary to encourage me to socialize with their friends, or, more specifically, their friends' girlfriends/wives. I can manage to be friendly to people, but not make friends, for some reason.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I have very few friends, but to me I consider them as close as my family. Having alot of friends doesn't make someone social, it's just another way for desperate people to avoid being alone. I'm very antisocial, but I do make time for those I feel that deserve my time. I also find that the more I avoid people, the more others want to include in their social circle.
fral945 Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 But do most guys expect girls to be social? Yes, I'd say most guys expect girls to be social, but that is just because most are (at least more so than men). IME, I've met very few women with few friends. But that shouldn't have much effect on whether or not men will date you. In fact, I think it is an advantage if the girl you are dating doesn't have 100s of friends and is a social butterfly. Fewer people to deal with means less drama to deal with and more time for each other (generally speaking of course). Does it count against you if you're not? If you're attractive, sane, and not too clingy, most guys won't care. Have you had any complaints from men? Admittedly there's probably a greater social stigma attached to women without friends than men. It's probably due to the fact that (generally speaking) women tend to form more friendships than men and place a greater emphasis on interpersonal communication and emotional connections. But I don't think that would stop most men from dating a woman.
frustr8ed Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 As long as she is fun to be around I would probably prefer it. I have other interests than going out to bars n' stuff. I would rather stay home and watch some movies or do art work, but I do enjoy going out to eat and chatting it up. Plus a fair amount of the women I know that are social butterflies need a lot of atention on themselves and I don't really find that an attractive quality.
mark982 Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 just my opion, but my wifes a loner, i'd never do it again.
You'reasian Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 She is smart, hot, pretty funny, and, though quiet, could hold up an end of the conversation pretty interestingly, with lots of surprises. She just chooses not to have friends. But you're special, and she wants to be with you. She's not too clingy. Less clingy than average. I know I'd be ok with the male version of the above. But do most guys expect girls to be social? Does it count against you if you're not? She sounds like she's got some good qualities. I wouldn't find her quiteness unnatractive. The only thing I could think of is if she had a problem with me being social?
carhill Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 just my opinion, but my wifes a loner, i'd never do it again. Why? Are there other aspects to her having few friends which make things difficult? I ask because I enjoy being alone but also enjoy experiencing the world and new cultures and people. I just don't *need* constant friend stimulation. I have a feeling the OP is a lot like that. If so, no worries OP. I don't define someone by their friends, rather by how they interact with me and treat me. Have as many or as few as you like.
Sexy Kitty Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 My ex of 6 years was a loner. Didn't bother me. I myself don't have alot of friends. I am the type that much rather hang out with my bf then anyone else. I don't want/need a big social circle. So, I guess I'm kind of a loner too.
That Emotion Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 None of that stuff in your OP matters if you're nuts about her. When you have that feeling, those other things are of little concern. If you have to break stuff down like you did in your OP, run away. She's not the one.
lazlow99 Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 As long as she's independent and in control of her life it wouldn't make any difference to me. I'm a bit like that myself, I prefer to have a few close friends rather than loads of friends all over the place who I can't rely on.
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