Trialbyfire Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I've heard about this lame rule so many times on LS, albeit never experienced it. I was curious to know how many women have experienced this phenomenon. If you've experienced it, what percentage of men did this? Okay, I'll start this poll: 0%
D-Lish Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Maybe when I was in my 20's.... More often than not I'll get a call or a text right away. If someone waits 3 days, I normally think "game on".... He's playing a game with me.
norajane Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I don't remember. So, it probably never happened, or I didn't notice if it did or didn't. Does that count as 0%?
Author Trialbyfire Posted December 31, 2008 Author Posted December 31, 2008 I don't remember. So, it probably never happened, or I didn't notice if it did or didn't. Does that count as 0%? Let me ask you this question. If someone did this to you, do you think you would still date him?
Tomcat33 Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I would have to agree with D in my early 20's I believe guys did this, none of what turned out to be my significant relationships did this they pretty much called right away. Now a days they tend to call right away. I would seriously think the guy was a complete dork if he waited 3 days. That smacks of AskMendotcom dating how-to crap, which is the equvalent of Cosmo crap and it is a complete turn off to me. Granted if I were interested in a guy an it's the first time he did that I will give him the benefit of the doubt because life does happen, but if I saw a pattern I would totally lose interest. On the flip side too much texting and calling in the early stages is not good for me either I like my space.
spookie Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I'd write it off to flakiness, which woudln't necessarily put prevent me from dating the person, but would put me seriously on guard. From my experience, it's unlikely I'd be able to trust that person, either. Crappy way to start off a relationship.
johan Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I assume this is the old "have sex within three days of meeting" rule. I'm all for it. I don't see it as being all that flaky. Just focused, goal-oriented.
norajane Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Let me ask you this question. If someone did this to you, do you think you would still date him? You mean if I went on a date with a guy and he didn't call afterward until the 3rd day? I guess if I were certain that he was waiting to call because of the 3 day rule, I'd feel he's a little wimpy, maybe too wimpy for me if he can't call when he wants but when he thinks he won't come off as desperate. I'd probably still date him, but if that's how he is, it wouldn't last too long. I actually expect to hear from them the next day. There's never a reason why they can't call or email the next day, even the business travelers I usually date. Lots of downtime in airports, taxis, and hotels. But I usually date people I've already known for a while, so maybe my expectations are skewed.
spookie Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Life goes by so fast, though. Three days is nothing. Three days is 10ish free hours. I wouldn't think it was a big deal. Three weeks maybe.
Tomcat33 Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Life goes by so fast, though. Three days is nothing. Three days is 10ish free hours. That is very true actually! I think it is more the idea he is waiting around to call and won't that bugs me, but I can justify in my own head that he may not feel like calling right away. Unless I am falling for the guy I don't want so much so soon. But knowing he is playing by some rule is what is lame for me. I like guys who are spontaneous, I am like that so naturally I would admire spontaneity in a guy.
Nemo Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I assume this is the old "have sex within three days of meeting" rule. Three days between meatings keeps them fresh and keen. (And somewhat desperate.) Highly recommended, if you can stay disciplined.
EYECANDY000 Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Any guy who is still questioning about having to call after 3 days needs to be shot! If a guy can't work technically off his feelings then he doesn't need to be dating, socializing, or meeting new people. So, to answer the question I don't have a three day rule. If I feel like calling then ill call. And vice versa. If I meet someone by the third day I have already forgotten about them, if they hadn't called already. I feel like out of sight out of mind. I didn't know him to begin with, so I'm not missing put on anything spectacular.. Please put my vote as......... na!
Author Trialbyfire Posted December 31, 2008 Author Posted December 31, 2008 Imagine it this way. After first date. Ummm...dunno if I like her...ummm....well...ummm... 24 hours ticks by. Ummm...still dunno...ummm...dunno...ummm... 24 hours ticks by. Dunno...dunno....still dunno... 24 hours ticks by. Okay..ummm...I think I likes her! *ring, ring* "Hi, how are you? It's Jack." "Who?" *click*
Star Gazer Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I experienced this quite often between the ages of 18 and 23 - from 1996 to about 2001 (in other words, the 5 years following "Swingers"), when I was dating boys. I also experienced it here and there between 24 and 28 when I was living in LA and meeting and hanging out with Hollywood (i.e., flaky) guys. Since returning to NorCal and finding myself dating real, genuine men... Not once. I'd say they call within 24 hours of getting my number every single time now. (Even the real, genuine jerks!)
Nemo Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 This is the way a woman thinks. Meets some dude. The dude is cute, but nothing exceptional. She's kind of bored, and when he asks for her number she thinks, "Why not?" He says he'll call her. She goes back to being bored. The next day, she's still bored. "How come that dude hasn't called yet," she thinks. The next day, she posts on LoveShack. "Why doesn't this guy like me enough to call??!!" is the title of the thread. She's playing him over and over in her mind, and each time his penis gets a quarter of an inch longer. The next day, she's totally consumed with thoughts of plain Dwayne (that's his name). Suddenly, her cell rings - it's Dwayne! "How are you?" says Mister Slightly Above Average. She pauses for the briefest of moments, and then replies, "I want you NOW, big boy!!!!"
Author Trialbyfire Posted December 31, 2008 Author Posted December 31, 2008 She's playing him over and over in her mind, and each time his penis gets a quarter of an inch longer. Who is this girl? She doesn't ask for much if 3/4 of an inch is making her sweat.
Nemo Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 It's all about giving love enough time to ferment. About three days turns out to be optimal.
9Lives Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I have learned that in the beginning it may be good to let time and space kinda keep the mystery..interest..fun in the picture. 3 days is kinda long...i might not take offense...it just depends how much I liked you. I use to be a jack rabbit but I have learned...slow and easy is better
Author Trialbyfire Posted December 31, 2008 Author Posted December 31, 2008 I have learned that in the beginning it may be good to let time and space kinda keep the mystery..interest..fun in the picture. 3 days is kinda long...i might not take offense...it just depends how much I liked you. I use to be a jack rabbit but I have learned...slow and easy is better So 9Lives, what have you experienced? Do many of the men you've dated in the past or present, use the 3 day rule?
Nemo Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 It's not so much a "rule" as a natural rhythm. A guy might think about sex 100% of the time, but it takes about three days to work through all the different possibilities before he comes back to you. That thought naturally leads to the call.
marlena Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Nope, any guy who goes by stupid rules is not the guy for me. How absolutely wimpish like Nora Jane said! A definite turn off!
Nemo Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Nope, any guy who goes by stupid rules is not the guy for me. Exactly. In real relationships, there are no rules. Anything goes!
xpaperxcutx Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I only did the " three day rule" once, and it was a terrible experience. I hated the waiting and worse still, the guy turned out to be a flake. If a guy likes me, he'll take the time to call. If I like a guy, I'll call and set up another date. But I won't ever sit back and wait for a phone call. I have better things to do.
bozwa Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 There's nothing I like more than a man calling me immediately! To me, that shows me he's eager to get to know me, spend time with me. That maybe he actually does like me. I've got no time for games. If you like me, then call me. Simple as that. And I'll do the same!
xpaperxcutx Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 There's nothing I like more than a man calling me immediately! To me, that shows me he's eager to get to know me, spend time with me. That maybe he actually does like me. I've got no time for games. If you like me, then call me. Simple as that. And I'll do the same! Exactly! A man who takes action instead of second guessing themselves gets big points in my book.
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