rounder0044 Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Ok first of all, just want to say hi. Tried joining another forum but don't think I fit it very well over there and am really needing some advice/support. I am currently in an EA with my boss. This has been going on for almost two years but has intensified somewhat over the last few months. He's not really my type per se, and is much older than me. Lately he is ALL I think about. I want to take it to the next level on one hand, but am incredibly torn as it goes against everything I believe in and we are both married. We also both have kids. I can't quit my job, and I can't transfer. Complicated. Any suggestions on how to cope??
Bryanp Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Hello, I just have a quick question. How would you feel if your husband was doing to you what you are doing to him? Are you prepared to be a divorced woman with children? Your boss will not leave his wife for you. Have you thought about marriage counseling with your husband? What is going on in your marriage?
Reggie Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Try growing a conscience. You sound sociopathic.
atwitsend Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 reading what you wrote. You like to say it goes against everything you believe in, but your doing it, so in truth you are only revealing what is actually inside you. I know you like to think of yourself in a good light. But you are an adulterer. So lets leave "everything you believe in" out of it. You are betraying your husband and your children. But hey, what the hell its not your heart that your stomping on. When you do take it to the next level. Be sure to brush your teeth after you go down on him before you go home and kiss you husband and kids. That is unless you want to have a little laugh about your husband giving the old guy head by proxy. Now go have some fun.
atwitsend Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Hey, I hope that wasn't to harsh. But then again I only wrote it. While you will be debasing yourself by actually doing it.
Owl Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 There is only one way out of this... You need to find a new job. You need to tell your H the truth about what's gone on, and work to rebuild your marriage. Or...you can divorce your husband. SO I guess that's two ways out. But, you get the picture. What is the state of your marriage right now?
wuggle Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 Who do you want to be with, your husband or the other guy ?. If the answer is the other guy, get a divorce. If it's your husband get another job. If you did get another job you would not have to tell your husband, you could just work it out in your own head, keep the pain inside and not pass it on. I'm not advocating that just pointing out another option.
Mr. Lucky Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 He's not really my type per se, and is much older than me. Lately he is ALL I think about. I want to take it to the next level on one hand Even you must see the contradiction in what you've posted. I can't quit my job, and I can't transfer. Unless you're in the military, yes you can quit. It would be step #1 to saving your marriage. No where in your post is any information about how you feel about your husband or what led you to this point? Mr. Lucky
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