Do girls do this a lot: She got out of a serious relationship..now in another one??

[Brady_to_Moss]

My friend who is a girl who i have know for a while and use to like just got out of like a 8 month relationship with a guy she has dated on and off for about 2-3 years....she broke up with him about 3 days ago and is allready in another relationship. Is he the Rebound guy? Do girls do this a lot?

[RichGuy]

It's called trading up. Kinda like selling your old house to move into a new, bigger one. Or quitting your current job after you already got a new, better paying one. You don't drop you current bf/gf until you've already got something better in the wings, get it?

[Brady_to_Moss]

Do you think she will be with this guy for a while? Do girls coming out of a stong relationship have that rebound guy for a while?

[xpaperxcutx]

I agree with RichGuy she's trading up. It's a trade up rebound with no heartache.

[EYECANDY000]

Its possible the other guy was already in the picture.

 

But to answer your question, I have never got out of a relationship and jumped into another immediately.

[GoneButNotForgotten]

Every person is different. Some people jump into one relationship after another just so that they never feel alone or in pain. Most of the people you will find here are not that type. They tend to feel the pain and work through it to try and become better people. Everyone has their own methods.

[SoulSearch_CO]

Serial monogamist. Some people are just afraid to be alone. I am a woman, and no, I am not a serial monogamist. I would not say this is exclusively a gender-based disease. I've known many guys just as bad.

[RichGuy]

"Serial monogamist" captures the idea just right! That's my new word for the day, thank you!

[bozwa]

No, "girls" don't do this a lot. "People" do this a lot. It's very common. Not necessarily right, in my opinion, but common. I had a boyfriend who was in a year and a half long relationship with the love of his life" before he met me. They broke up and within two months of that relationship, he was in a relationship with me. Wouldn't have been a big deal except he wasn't over her or their life together. He was still mourning their relationship, whether he wanted to admit it or not, a good 6 months into our relationship. It was hurtful, whether he was meaning to hurt me or not, and very difficult.

 

I understand people don't want to be alone, but I just wish people would think before they leap. Make sure your well past your feelings for your ex before you jump into a relationship with the next person - because the next person doesn't deserve what you'll ultimately put them through.

[bozwa]

Sorry. I ranted, didn't I.

[xpaperxcutx]

Sorry. I ranted, didn't I.

 

You didn't rant. It's actually quite reasonable. There are people who can't let go of emotions easily and would spend the better part of a quarter of a year in " mourning", then there are the ones who jump ship and starts dating other people. I think the latter are either incredibly emotionally optimistic or emotionally deprived.

[zdheat]

This doesn't sound like a rebound to me. Rebound usually occurs when you're dating someone who was dumped and can't get over their ex. These are usually bad relationships to get involved with because the person will usually ditch you and "rebound" back to their ex if their ex shows even minimal interest.

 

This sounds like a case of a woman "trading up." She began losing interest in her BF and got her ducks in line before dumping him and moving on to the next guy. I see this happen all the time.