loving Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 :bunny:hi everyone. im in highschool, and im going through some teenager things right now. you guys probably know what i mean, a big part of the stage im at now is realizing things arent so bad at all, everythings gonna be alright, becoming more comfortable with myself, and around others. i'm trying to find where in all this love with a woman fits in. Something I learned is to follow my feelings, and I've only ever felt something for a few girls in my life, but never had the courage to go for it. Until this one. She is gorgeous in my eyes, and has a great personality that clicks with mine. We've got a lot in common. She is 20 and I am 17, we have a class otgether in highschool. Fast forward and I told her I liked her, she just said "Thank you Chris" and sounded kind of disappointed. I told her once after about the appreciation ive got for her presence and our feet kind of touched and i felt a great connection feeling inside. We were together for a night (not sex) doing homework, and i was supposed to call her later, to finish, but i didnt, and told her the truth next day it was because i had my feelings hurt and thats why i didnt feel like talking to her. So i felt bad that day, but got over it, and went to mexico two days later, where I felt great. The day I got back, she txt messaged me about another project in our class, a question she had and I answered, then later on asked her what her topic for her essay was. After that I got 3 calls within 1 hour from an unknown number, I assume it was her, and I don't know why but I was freightened to pickup for that very reason. Something's going on in my brain, and i think the better way to deal with this is to persue the relationship further, though I am not sure this is the best way to go. She's got a boyfriend, but rarely talks about him with me, told me a story once and I wasn't interested in hearing about him really, and she didnt talk much about him anymore. I don't know if that was her being friendly or giving signals. What I do know about their relationship, from her telling me, is that she has lost interest in the sex with him, and he is a bum (loaft, lazy, no job) that she, like his mother, wants to change. I know there are a lot of women on this forum who can give me a genuine perspective on my situation and if I should follow these feelings or stone cold drop them. They are very strong in me, and my inaction is making me crazy, which I cannot stand. I understand you may need some more information, or perhaps not. I am not so experienced at describing relationships. I have no reservations here, so anything you have to ask of me I will openly answer to the best of my abilities. I look forward very much to your insights and helping me through this. Thank you so much in advance. ---------------- Now playing: Bob Marley - 11-Feel Me.MP3 via FoxyTunes
Padthai Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 First of all, statutory rape comes to mind. Second of all, I think you are, infact just being a teenager. You're being a little dumb. But that's okay. It happens. I would just drop it. She doesn't seem interested.
BlueHarvest Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Are you always so negative Padthai? First off...the age of legal consent is different for every state...so statutory rape is quite subjective to what state he is in. In my state it's 17 for the age of legal consent. Secondly he's 20...he's barely out of his teens. I would view his emotions as fine for his age. Lastly, about your situation "loving" . Sounds like she is/was interested in you. But she may be relating TOO much information to you...almost sounds like "BFF" syndrome. Tread carefully.
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