hereandnow Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 I've got a solid 10 days of NC behind me. Broke up 2 months ago. Now all of a sudden today I'm thinking of putting myself in a place where she might show up. I'm thinking maybe she wants to talk to me, etc. Of course she knows my phone, e-mail, where I live. People, please remind me of why this is a bad idea!
Ratherunique Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 I'm in the same boat as you except 6 days of NC. I've been thinking of contacting her too, but it's not worth it, you'll probably just get rejected. Keep your pride and dignity, communicate to her that you have moved on and don't need her by saying nothing at all.
Knight_Ctrl Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 IF she wanted to contact you she knows how. Avoid her.
northstar1 Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 I've got a solid 10 days of NC behind me. Broke up 2 months ago. Now all of a sudden today I'm thinking of putting myself in a place where she might show up. I'm thinking maybe she wants to talk to me, etc. Of course she knows my phone, e-mail, where I live. People, please remind me of why this is a bad idea! Because you'll feel good for about 5 minutes, and absolutely terrible about 5 minutes after that when you don't get the outcome you want. You just summed up the whole thing in your last line. She knows how to get a hold of you. Leave it like that.
That Emotion Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 10 days is good. Find something else today and deal with the emotion one moment at a time.
paperchase Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 I've got a solid 10 days of NC behind me. Broke up 2 months ago. Now all of a sudden today I'm thinking of putting myself in a place where she might show up. I'm thinking maybe she wants to talk to me, etc. Of course she knows my phone, e-mail, where I live. People, please remind me of why this is a bad idea! I broke NC and during the NC period I was getting lots of positive communication from my X which made me think she was coming around. Well, it was a mistake. You're getting no feedback whatsover, so breaking NC in your case has almost no upside. Don't do it. Give it a month and then do it. By then, you probably won't want to. Get off the edge. Step down to safety.
loveleen Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 im on my 8th day of nc! just think about it.. if you call/email/sms/etc. her, there is a chance that she might not even respond. and if she does, what if she is nice.. but then you get excited and then when you least expect it, she just shuts you out again! if she knows exactly how to find you, and she really wanted to talk to you, she would do it on her own. DONT DO IT.
hoartiosans Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 I'm on 7 days NC, I begged her for a week to change her mind...it did me no good. I have just now started to feel a little better after NC for a week, and I want her back, but if that's what she wants, she'll let me know. Just forget her man.
GoneButNotForgotten Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 There is no information you could glean from her that you want to learn. The dumper can contact the dumpee easily. They know where you live, and how to contact you. It is not your duty to open up that communication. If they want you back make them come out and say it. Do not beat around the bush. It just stalls the healing if you keep getting your hopes up by contacting them. At this point you are basically holding on to hope. The problem with this hope is that it is the worse possible kind: false hope. False hope gets you nothing. If there was any other type available in you situations I would say take it and hold on to it. But false hope gets nothing for anyone.
starzphalling Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 ok..think of it this way... scenario 1: you go, you see her, she ignores you. you feel like jumping off a large building after calling yourself an idiot for going. scenario 2: you go, you wait apprehensively, she doesn't show, you feel like jumping off a large building after calling yourself an idiot for going. why not just stay home and beat yourself up in your pajamas, at least that way you will be comfy. if she wants to talk she will, we girls are strange that way, one idea pops into our head we pick up the phone. it doesn't even have to be a coherent idea..just something like "hey i want a pickle...my ex liked pickles..im gonna call him"..srsly she'll call if she wants. if you go, you're pretty much just straight up lying on the train tracks daring the freight cars to keep coming.
Author hereandnow Posted December 30, 2008 Author Posted December 30, 2008 Okay, I'm not going. Actually the meeting is starting as we speak, and I've already committed to other plans. Thanks everyone!
Touche Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 STOP IT! JUST STOP IT! (OMG, that makes me laugh:lmao:...it's from a very funny video that TomCat posted on a thread of mine.) Anyway, trust me. You'll only feel worse if you do this.
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