Habibti Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 So, I had been seeing a guy for shortly over a month. The chemistry was amazing and intense and the first few weeks were great, but the first few weeks always are so when he asked me to go to rome with him I told him..let's wait and see how it goes. Well, long story short..I pretty much pulled all the weight of the realtionship. I communicated with him several times what my needs were and expectations and it just never got any better only worse. I started to feel so lonely and neglected. I'm not talking about a guy who wouldn't give me attention every day..I'm talking..I would have to pull legs to get him to have a normal conversation with me once a week. I didn't need to talk with him every day, wouldn't bother me but I did a lot for him. Was always sending goodmorning/goodnight texts (which were more or less never reciprocated). He had a birthday and I spent hours baking for him and making him a home made birthday card..his birthday rolls around and I get a thankyou via text..he didn't even at least pick up the phone and call me if it wasn't going to be an in person thankyou. So, I realised I was fighting an uphill battle. I'd made my needs clear and known..he didn't care to do anything about it. I felt like I was dating myself, he wasn't giving me any care or concern or attention so what did I do? I ended it. Via text message..now yes maybe that was in poor taste but he was always too busy to take my phone calls and I probably would of had to schedule an appointment just to dump him (sadly, I'm serious) We'd been together a very brief time, and I just figured you know..he pays so little attention I didn't think it would phase him. WELL Amazingly, he threw a fit 2 days later saying things like "I thought you were an intelligent person..I'm glad I found out differently now" and saying he deserved better than to just be let go without talking it through (there was nothing to talk about, been there..he never cared). Repeatedly talking about how dissapointed he was in me, etc. Anyway , he more or less just belittled me and cut me down and for what? What's amazing to me is how absent he was the whole time and poor little baby gets a bruised ego and decides to play bully. Even though he insulted me more than once and continued to badger me I resisted the urge to say anything sarcastic or rude back; I don't believe in treating people I cared about poorly like that. I just needed to rant, sorry.
Mrs_AJ Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 Hiya HAbibti, well done girl. I pretty much think you said it all. He probably felt secure knowing you would always seek him out. However once you saw him for what he was the tables were turned on him. This happened to me once. I was so desperate after this guy. I then woke up one day and realised that I deserved better. I called him and said that we didn;t have anything to do with each other anymore. Guess who called me 15+ missed calls that same day> Him . And then he played bully when I decided to pick up in the end. Anyway these guys are wasteman! AKA idiots. U deserve better. Well done! xx
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